How to grind a girl on the dance floor

Girls, Learn How to Grind Dance In Minutes, Right Now!

This dance is simple, but its implications are not. It’s quite the package of contradictions: a public display of intimacy, a common sight that retains an air of taboo sexuality, a product of newfound sexual liberty that still perpetuates age-old heterosexual gender roles. Grinding exists wherever young people, pulsing music and alcohol intersect. You can witness it happening in house parties, concert venues, music festivals and clubs with flashing strobe lights. Now, gender roles, silent signals and awkward body-to-body interactions govern the dance floor.

Grinding is a form of dancing that is typically found at a club or a party where a man typically dances behind a woman while they both move their hips in the same circular motion.

Grinding can be a bit intimidating for girls. They may not know how to let a guy know they want to grind, where to put the guy’s hands, or how to move their hips. But don’t worry – grinding doesn’t have to be hard and you don’t have to get too intimate with your dance partner, especially if you don’t know him. If you want to know how to grind with sexiness, class, and style, just follow the next steps.

Another incredible dance technique is the Shuffle Dance. Learn How To Do It In 5 Minutes in our guide here

*note that we’re discussing this type of dancing in the common heterosexual setting between a guy and a girl but this works in any couple situation, and we intend no discrimination or exclusion of anyone.

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Where did it start?

Grinding goes back to some cultures in the Caribbean. We can trace it back to hip-thrusting dance moves labelled as “whining,” “wining” or “djuking”.

but it is it’s adoption by the hip hop culture that brought this dance style to mainstream America. It eventually “moved to high school and middle school dances (especially proms) in the US and Canada where there have been cases of administrators attempting to ban it due to its explicit nature” as one Wikipedia entry noted.

“Everywhere, boys in baggy pants and girls in tight ones gripped each others’ hips, from the front or the rear, and pushed, pushed. Pairs of girls entwined thighs and swiveled low to the ground. Groups of dancers formed “freak trains,” lines of tightly pressed bodies undulating through space.

All the moves had two elements in common: hips and friction.” As this article on Education Week noted back in 2001.

In 2015, a high school principal in Maine cancelled school dances because of students’ dance moves and the, “culture of grinding,” reports CBS Boston. “It is by no means the students’ fault, but the dancing they have witnessed on MTV/VHS/movies involves primarily only sexually suggestive grinding,” Record explains in the letter.

A predecessor to grinding as a sexually charged high-contact social dance was “The Bump”, which was popular in the 1970s, in which the contact between partners generally involved the hips or buttocks of one dancer “bumping” those of the other dancer in temporary contact. Other predecessor elements of grinding may be attributed to the 1987 film Dirty Dancing, and the famous lambada dance which became famous in the 1980s that featured grinding actions.

One additional note to keep in mind is that grinding is a form of dance that overlaps with a multitude of genres. You’ll see hip hop fans grinding, but also on dance music festival grounds with Trap music, Dubstep, and many others sub-genres including EDM.

Time To Learn How To Grind

You need to learn to grind dance (sometimes people call it freak dance or freaking) if you want to be able to get a little freaky on the dance floor. If you’re a beginner and want to know how to grind with a guy, or how to grind with a girl, this is section is for you.

First and foremost we need to mention that sometimes this form of dance will lead to unwanted actions that would happen without the partner’s consent. Please make sure there’s a sort of agreement with the other person before proceeding with such a dance as it is quite intimate in nature as we have just discussed.

The beginning of the dance

Unless you already know the guy you want to dance with and he’s led you to the dance floor, you’ll have to approach the dance floor on your own first. But if you already have a guy, then you can skip this section. Start by dancing with a friend or two. Someone you trust and from your initial circle. Here, it’s all about doing your own thing and having a good time.

Even when you’ve found your target, avoid looking around desperately. Instead, you’ll make sure the guys see that you’re having a a great time and they’ll come to you. Positivity like this is infectious and you’ll want people who want to be with you on the dance floor. Add to the attraction by showing off your dance moves with your friends. Let the guys see how you can work your body, follow the rhythm and enjoy your time.

Move Closer

Found your guy? Great! Maybe it’s a good idea to lock eyes with him from across the room, this will show your interest without much effort (we’re pretty sure you know what we mean here). You’ll want to start moving closer to him, do it with the group altogether, that way it will look like a natural, gradual move, and nothing very creepy. Then, it will be a matter of waiting for him to come closer to you, too. If you lock eyes from across the room for one second and then one inch away from him the next, you won’t look cool. So avoid that.

Extra tips to keep in mind: move towards him during the course of a song, it looks better and more natural that way and avoid crowding the guy, so maybe your friends would follow but keep some distance.

At this point, some sort of physical move needs to be done.

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The Brushing Up

You should look at him and start some sort of interaction with him. Lock eyes with the guy, and maybe even give him a cute smile and then look away. Then, move even closer to him and let your body brush up against his, whether you’re facing him and touching him with your hands, or turning away form him and occasionally brushing up against him. This will communicate your interest and signal to the guy you intend to dance.

Begin The Grind Dance

Step in front of him so that you lock eyes and know you’re going to dance with each other. Spend a minute dancing in front of him, moving to the beat, and then slowly begin to turn so he can start dancing behind you and you can officially begin to grind.

First, you have to get in grinding position so step in front, facing away from him. Though you can mix it up once in a while, the typical grinding position is when a guy stands behind a girl. You can leave about a foot between your bodies and don’t have to get incredibly intimate to start grinding (especially if you don’t know him).

Next, both you should bend your knees so that you’re lower to the ground. If the guy is much taller than you, then you won’t have to bend your knees very much. If the guy isn’t much taller than you, however (happens if you’re wearing high heels for example) then you should bend your knees a bit further so he’s a bit above you.

Now it’s time to move your hips and butt in one continuous circular motion, continuing to move from side to side while moving your legs up and down just a bit while keeping your knees bent. If the guy knows what he’s doing, then his hips should find a similar rhythm to yours. Both your hips should be moving in the same direction to the beat of the music.

Feeling bold? Know the guy you’re dancing with? You can touch the guy’s front side with your butt as you move it from side to side. But you can also maintain your distance. There are no obligations, keep in mind this is your move, and the dance is under your control.

The next thing to do is to move your arms and chest to the beat of the music, rotating your arms and chest in the same fluid motion. Look ahead or slightly down as you continue to work your arms and chest while you move your hips. You can bring your arms down so they’re on your knees or near your waist, and wait for the guys hands to land on top of yours or around your waist as you continue to dance.

These are the basics in general. To help make things even more clear and give you extra pointers, we’re providing below some additional training:

Learn These 3 Simple Grinding Moves

Guys, These Important Secrets Are A Must-Know!

What about the guys? Most men are beginners and somewhat clueless when it comes to grinding on the dance floor. The video below will show you some secret moves that will have you grinding with the best of them!

Grinding can be very tasteful and not raunchy at all, dancing partners don’t have to be very touchy while grinding especially when they don’t know each other. Bottom line, respect each other and have fun!

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Learn How To Grind Dance

Grind dance is yet another style of dancing, which has evolved over the years. If you are a regular visitor at nightclubs, you must be quite familiar with the new trend. Grind dancing is basically dancing in a manner such that the hips of one partner rub with the hips of the other. This is done in tune with the music, rhythmically shaking and swaying your bottom. Both the partners perform the dance in sync with each other, maintaining speed, tempo and movement. Not to forget, as the dance style is quite mischievous, make sure you practice it only at places, where it is acceptable. Also, if you wish to enjoy grind dance with someone other than your partner, make sure you try and make out whether they would prefer it. However, do not ask for it straightaway as it sounds quite contemptible. Grinding is also called freaking and it is notorious for being highly suggestive.  There is a lot of touching and close physical proximity involved in it. You can do it with your friends of opposite gender just for fun but it actually means something else. Doing a grind with someone from opposite gender is an indication to let them know that you are sexually attracted to him/her. It is sort of a wooing dance. Grinding or freaking is usually done on hip-hop songs, the kind of tunes that are peppy, sexually enticing and groovy. There are two types of grinds––front grind and back grind. It is generally back grind what you see people doing in a nightclub as front grind is all the more sexually charged. You have to be very sure that the person you are doing it with wouldn’t mind it. To learn how to grind dance, read the instructions given below.


How to Grind Dance

  • The first and foremost requirement for a grind dance is a partner. If you have your own partner, there is no cause of worry but in case you have to find one then be careful, not everybody likes to grind and so ensure that the person you choose for dancing is comfortable with the idea. Do not just take him/her to the dance floor and start grinding at their back or front. This will make him/her very uncomfortable if they are not settled with the idea of grinding on the dance floor. You must inform your partner that you are interested in doing a grind with him/her. If he/she says no then it is preferable that you do not insist because if it is not someone’s style then it is not. You might offend your partner if you insist.
  • Grind dancing can be practiced on any type of music and does not require much skill or training. Therefore, to get into the mood, dance normally on the music played. Get comfortable with your partner on the dance floor. Do not start grinding as soon as you land on the dance floor. Take the beat of the music in. Grove a little on the tune and let your partner also get adjusted to the atmosphere on the dance floor and get familiarize with the ongoing tune. Smile at him/her while lightly grooving so that your partner eases up.
  • After getting into the mood, it’s time to take positions. The guy should move behind the girl. It is like what we said above, it is probably safer to dance the back grind than the front grind with your partner. Reason being that front grind is very sexual in nature and if this is the first time you are grinding with your partner it is sure to be a very bold first take at grinding with them. You might want to play a bit safe in the beginning. So men are better off grinding behind their women and women can grind with their backs at their men.
  • On taking positions synchronize your movements and speed. The girl should move around the crotch area of the male partner, following a pattern. It is more like swaying in a similar tone. The guy should try and follow the girl’s movement or just slowly rub himself against her. While grinding, be gentle to the girl and don’t be pushy or hard. This will annoy your partner.
  • Gauging the comfort of the girl put your hands on safe positions like her waist or hips. To enjoy to the fullest follow the beat of the music. Keep your movements fast and slow according to the music.
  • Grinding’s strength lies in the hips. Both the genders have to use a lot of hip and pelvic movements, but women especially should use a lot of hip swaying. According to the music beats you should make up your mind in which direction you will move your hips, whether you will move it clockwise or anticlockwise.
  • You must also know how to use your shoulders with your moving bottom. You can pop your shoulders back and forth on the music beat. It will also help you to get a better hip movement.
  • You can also move away from your partner once in a while, while grinding and come back again. But while moving away and coming back, keep moving your body and do not stop. You must look in your partners eyes while doing this and smile. This will make him/her feel very special and you can be an instant hit on the floor.

How to Cite

Artists who will light up any dance floor

First, I should briefly talk about my DJ experience.

Played in 400+ discos.

Submitted 40,000+ songs.

~50,000 people danced to my mixes

Spent ~2,000 hours at the DJ booth

Pretty impressive numbers, aren't they? But every time I am amazed that even though there are over 130,000,000 songs in the world, these are the songs that light up the dance floor better than others. They are truly phenomenal because they do not depend on circumstances. Whether a person has a drink or not, whether he can dance or not, whether he can stand on his feet or not, whether he lost his wallet or not, whether he is in a good mood or not... When even one of these songs is turned on, everyone flocks to the center of the dance floor and shouts like like they knew they had won the lottery. So, if you need to warm up the dance floor properly, then these songs, as a rule, work flawlessly. And believe me, even if you usually don't like them, you simply won't have any other choice on the dance floor. These are the heroes who will save humanity from the end of the world.

My neighbors listen to good music. It doesn't matter if they want it or not.

Hands up! I'm 18 already (2001)

This is just a champion among all the songs to bring people to ecstasy! That says it all!

Luis Fonsi . Despacito (2017)

Perfectly connects generations, can be performed in any version. Good for any disco time. But I think it should soon be replaced by some new Latin hit.

Band ´Eros. Calambia Pictures Doesn't Present (2006)

Perfect for when guests are thinking and need to be stirred up. For some reason, most still remember this song and sing along with pleasure.

Kaoma. Lambada (1989)

More corporate song. Everyone will be under it. Good for warming up. In a club, it is usually played in some arrangement. Everyone will be delighted and will begin to show their knowledge of Latin American dances. The same goes for the song Macarena by Los Del Rio.

O Father DJ gives his son a math problem.
Father: Son, how much is 45 + 30?
Son: 75!
Father: Wrong! Minute fifteen!


Already since 2015, Loboda has been giving hit after hit, and not a single disco can do without them. Now it's the song "SuperSTAR".

Demo. Sunshine (1999)

Interestingly, this song is loved by the Estonian-speaking part of the population even more than by the Russian-speaking part.

For reference: everyone raises their hands to this song and imagines that the sun is in them.

Songs of Tsoi

Unite generations. The most famous "Star named Sun", "Blood type", "Cuckoo". And, of course, all in dance versions. Would be better for the end of the party.

Two DJs come out at morning out of club . One says to the other: “Listen, what stinks here?” - "It's fresh air !"

Timati. Eggplant (2016)

Strange, but absolutely everyone likes this song from Timati's repertoire.

Silver. Mama Lyuba (2012)

Yes, this song is still alive, and how! Everyone remembers and respects her!

Max Barskikh. Fogs (2016)

The most successful song in terms of dancing is by Max Barsky. Even his new songs do not catch the guests as much as the fogs.

Ivanushki International . Poplar fluff (1999)

This song can be played even in January - the reaction will be the same, complete delight!

Ray Charles. Hit the Road Jack (1961)

Sounds very good in incendiary dance remixes and perfectly harmonizes with any songs.

Michael Jackson

What can I say, this is the King of Pop! People always like to remember Michael Jackson and try to repeat the moonwalk.

To the anti-corruption department drugs permanent job DJ required.

Nirvana. Smells L ike Teen Spirit (1991 .)

Prepare a special place for this song near the end of the disco. And she will break into the dance floor and give people a second wind!

Beetles. Battery (1999)

If people haven't sung for a long time, then it's time to turn on "Battery". The effect is that no one expects to hear it on the dance floor, and when it suddenly sounds, mass joy begins.

Max Korzh

Everyone loves Korzh, except for the older generation. But don't worry, they will catch up too. The best songs are “Heaven will help us”, “Optimist”, “Live in a high”. Suitable to end the holiday.

Queen. We Will Rock You (1977)

Anytime, anywhere! This is an undeniable hit of all time!

Now you know everything 😉

P.S. It's ONLY about pop parties and corporate parties! If, after reading this article, you suddenly, inspired by new knowledge, decide to play one of these songs at some trance, trap or drum party in a basement disco in a remote area of ​​\u200b\u200bthe city, then go to self-defense courses before that, because you to put it mildly, they will not understand.


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7 MC chants in a nightclub: Oleg Bisquitov’s rating


1 Each MC (MC) in a nightclub has his own set of chants, phrases, turns, with which he communicates with the audience on the dance floor. In the morning, of course, you are unlikely to remember who forced you to treat shy beauties, or who persuaded you to try all the cocktails at the bar, and then dance at the same bar. Most likely, the MC worked here, as they do, says one of the most experienced night hosts in Vladimir, Oleg Bisquitov.

7th place - Hands up!

Standard turnover, which is used by almost all leaders from Moscow to Vyazniki. There are variations: Hands up, Hands in the atmosphere. It is used to warm up the people when the party started to gain momentum. It can be used at one in the morning and at 6 in the morning.

6th place - Let's dance more!

As an option - Let's move more. Also a standard phrase used in the opening act. Someone has already entered the dance floor, someone shyly rumples at the bar. Typical for starting a party.

5th place - Girls, more sexy dancing! Men, treat ladies with cocktails!

The meaning of this phrase is to make acquaintances. It would seem that there is something new? Everyone already knows that you can treat someone. However, as experience shows, it is useful to remind about it.

4th place - Raise your left hand up. Raise your right hand up. Clap your hands! Who will not clap - he will not have sex.

Everyone does the same thing together. You understand that we are not alone, but we are all guests of one big party.

3rd place - Order whiskey on the rocks. The heat of our bodies will melt the ice in the glass.

Good to start the night. There is also a call to pay attention to the bar, and some kind of good message.

2nd place - As the great poet Ivan Dorn said: don't be shy!

At the top of the rating are phrases or someone's quotes. Usually lines from songs or movies are suitable. MCs often spit the words of Frank Moody from Californication into chants. It is pronounced when the event is held in a restaurant or buffet format, that is, people are ready to receive information.

1st place - Love moves the world, but whiskey spins it twice as fast.

The phrase is attributed to Scottish prose writer Compton Mackenzie. I'm not sure that it is very common in clubs. Although it falls into the subject, and, probably, some presenters nevertheless took it into service. For such quotes, you need to choose the moment and the audience.

In general, the words of the MC in a nightclub should not be taken seriously. His task is to stir up everyone, to cheer up, to make the boys get acquainted with the girls. And there are actually a lot more chants. There are no blanks here, this is such a situational name, like a Go-Go dance.

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