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5 Simple Steps to Master the Slow Dance for Beginners

There are many occasions to slow dance such as weddings, proms, and just wherever there is a music of a slow tempo. But, maybe you are intimidated by a slow dance. You don’t know where to put your hands, or don’t know how close to stand to the other person. What steps do you do in the slow dance? We’re not talking about a specific dance step like the Foxtrot; we are just talking about the slow dance in general. Are you a beginner-level dancer and looking for easy dance moves? In this article, we will give you five simple steps to master the slow dance so you’ll never again be fearful of being out on the dance floor when the music slows down.

Slow Dancing Arms

There are two options for your arms when you slow dance.

Option 1- Slow Dancing Arms

In this option, you can think of slow dancing as an extended hug as you and your partner sway back and forth. The female places her arms on the guy’s shoulders or hangs them loosely around his neck. The guy puts his hands on the female’s hips or wraps them loosely around her lower back. Leave enough room between you so that you both feel comfortable.

As for head placement, this depends on you and your partner’s height. If you are a couple and are dancing closely, you can rest your head on your date’s chest or over his/her shoulder. Or, you can look at each other.

It’s important to stay relaxed. Try to control your breathing by inhaling and exhaling steadily to maintain an even heart rate.

Option 2 – Slow Dancing Arms

Holding your partner’s hand is the more traditional way to sway in a slow dance. If you aren’t dating or don’t know each other well, this position can be more comfortable. The guy puts his right hand on the females’ hips or on her mid- or upper-back. If you’re dating and close, the guy can wrap his arm loosely around her waist. Then, he uses the left hand to take her hand or lace his fingers into hers. The female should put her left hand on her partner’s shoulder and hold his hand with her right hand. With this stance, your heads will probably stay forward, so you are looking at each other. Be sure to smile at your dance partner and maybe start a conversation to help relax.

Slow Dancing Feet

It’s good to be cautious of where you put your feet when slow dancing so as not to step on each other’s toes. When you first join together to dance, look down at where you and your partner’s feet fall. This gives you a general idea of how far over you can move your feet without stepping on his/her toes. 

If you are close together in the slow dance, you can put one foot between your partner’s feet and your other foot on the outside. If there is more space between the partners, you can put your toes in front of your date’s toes and about an inch off to the side. Don’t get too technical on this aspect. When your bodies come together to dance, your feet should naturally fall in place.


It’s traditional for the guy to lead a slow dance. If this is just way too traditional for your taste, then the female can change it up and lead. But, someone has to lead. To lead, gently push your partner’s hand in the way you want to go as you also move your body in that direction. Follow the music and move to the beat. To follow, just follow your partner’s moves.


The basic slow dance doesn’t require much footwork at all, so it is an easy dance for beginners. You can keep your feet planted in one place, make sure your knees are loose, and then gently sway back and forth using your hips and knees. If you are confident with this, you can gently lift your feet off the floor just a bit. These small lifts can turn you in a slow circle. Remember to keep your arms and elbows loose. This will make it easier to breathe and sway comfortably.

The Twirl

If you are leading and are feeling confident and a bit adventurous while you’re slow dancing, you can invite your partner to twirl. This is a common move so your dance partner will probably know what to expect. Take a step back from your embrace and hold your partner’s left arm up in the air with your right arm. After guiding her in turning 360 degrees, you simply return to your starting position and resume swaying.

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How to Slow Dance | The Dancer’s Guide for 2023

Knowing how to slow dance at a wedding, holiday party, prom and other social events makes attending these special occasions more comfortable, memorable and fun. Whether you are a guest at a wedding or headed to your first school dance, learning how to slow dance with style and confidence is an easy and valuable skill to obtain.

Plus, it's great for your overall health! Psychology Today highlights the importance of slow movement and body awareness, both of which can be improved through practicing dance, as it encourages relaxation and stress reduction, lessens the risk of depression and helps relieve inflammation.

Let’s break down how to slow dance step by step, and discover how to add your own style to the slow dance. 

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  • Is Slow Dancing Easy?
  • How to Slow Dance Step by Step
  • How to Slow Dance at a Wedding
  • How to Slow Dance at Prom or Homecoming
  • How to Slow Dance by Yourself

Is Slow Dancing Easy?

You don’t need any special skills to learn how to slow dance, but it helps to have some guidance to achieve the posture and attitude that will bring style to your slow dance moves. The slow dance is an easy dance to learn by following a few simple steps. 

How Do You Slow Dance Without Being Awkward?

Because slow dance is most commonly performed with another person, learning how to slow dance for beginners can be intimidating. Beginners might wonder where to put their hands, how fast to sway or even how to ask someone to join them for a dance.

Although slow dancing is simpler than other types of dance, practicing the slow dance and learning a few basic moves will build your confidence on the dance floor.

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So, how do you slow dance well? To master the basic moves, learn more advanced steps or get feedback from a top-rated instructor, try joining an in-person dance class. With a quick search, you can find dance classes in Colorado Springs, dance classes in San Diego, dance classes in NYC and dance classes near you.

If you prefer to learn slow dancing at home or are nervous about dancing in front of a group, try participating in online dance classes!

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How to Slow Dance Step by Step

1. Ask Someone to Dance

First, ask your intended partner if they would like to dance. If they accept, escort them to the dance floor and choose a place with a little space to move. Once in position, establish a leader and follower.

2. Get Into Position

The leader places their right hand behind their partner’s left shoulder with their right elbow up and pointed out to the right side. The follower wraps their left arm over their partner’s lifted arm with their hand placed near their partner’s shoulder or bicep.

Clasp each others’ free hand, raised to approximately eye level of the shorter partner. This is important to keep in mind if you're curious how to slow dance with a tall guy or tall woman.

Now that you are in position, listen to the music to find the beat and begin to sway. 

3. Begin Basic Slow Dance Steps

As you get more comfortable, you might try a basic step. The leader steps to the left, then brings their feet together, then to the left and together again. Repeat to the right.

Tip: To avoid stepping on your partner’s toes, place your partner slightly to the side so your feet interlock rather than overlap. Remember to keep your knees relaxed and take small, comfortable steps.

4. Add Slow Dance Turns or Dips

Once you have confidence in these basic steps, spice up your dance by performing the basic step in a circle or by adding a turn or dip!

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How to Slow Dance at a Wedding

Couples slow dancing at the reception, whether they are the newlyweds or the wedding guests, is a signature moment of many wedding celebrations. By following the same simple steps as listed above, you can practice slow dancing at a wedding and impress friends and family at this special event with your smooth slow dancing style. 

Inviting everyone on to the dance floor for a slow dance, from your grandparents to your bridesmaid and her date, can create wonderful moments for the photographer to capture while offering some surprising benefits to the couples slow dancing on the floor.

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How to Slow Dance at Prom or Homecoming

Slow dancing at a school dance such as prom or homecoming can be one of the most nerve-wracking moments of adolescence. Feeling confident in your ability to slow dance may calm some of those fears and help you enjoy the night with friends or even build up the courage to ask your crush to dance!

Modern Slow Dance Steps

If the traditional steps of slow dancing feel too formal or out-dated, you might consider the hug and sway style of couple slow dancing when learning how to slow dance with your girlfriend or crush. 

In this extended hug position, the leader places their hands on their partner’s hips while the follower places their arms on the leader’s shoulders or loosely around the neck. Leave enough space between you so that you both feel comfortable. In this position, you can simply sway back and forth by shifting your weight from side to side with the rhythm of the music.

Tip: Once you are on the dance floor, have a few topics to talk about if you don’t want to dance in silence. Try to ask open-ended questions to spark the conversation and learn more about your partner.  

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How to Slow Dance by Yourself

Can you slow dance by yourself? If a slow song comes on and you find yourself without a partner, you don’t have to leave the dance floor. You can use some of the same moves as partnered dancers when learning to slow dance by yourself.

A gentle sway shifting your weight from side to side is an easy solo move for slow dances. You can also try the basic step to add a little more movement to your solo slow dance.

Relax your arms and shoulders, allowing them to move gently with the rhythm of the music. As you build confidence in your slow dancing, you can begin to add your own style to the movement whether you are dancing by yourself or with a partner. 

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Slow dancing with style will come easily once you learn the basic steps and practice them often. Although, as with any new skill, mastering the slow dance may take a little time and patience.

From weddings or prom to any occasion where there is music and social dancing, knowing how to slow dance with confidence will make the event less stressful and more fun! 

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Bailame lento - Akon | Translation and lyrics of the song

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nine0023 Bailame lento

Dance me slowly

Eres una chica sobrenatural
Tu cara bonita a mi me tiene muy mal
No respondo si algo llega a pasar (yeah) mire' los minutos que no hay reloj (oh yeah)

Me pones loco cuando bailas mami
Yo quiero hundirme en tu cuerpo
No pierdas tiempo y vamos pa' mi casa
Para explorarte por dentro

Bailame lento (yeah yeah yeah)
Tú paralisas el tiempo (yeah yeah yeah)
Bailame lento (yeah yeah yeah)
Tú paralisas el tiempo (yeah yeah yeah)
Cuando tú bailas asi (you know I like that)
Yeah you know I like that
Cuando tú bailas asi (you know I like that)
Yeah you know I like that

One chance, lookin' like you're searching for some romance
Body steady moving like a serpent
Mind if I come get a slow dance?
Do you mind if I ride to the rhythm, to the rhythm I ride
Give me plenty good lovin', what I need in my life
You don't like the lovie dovie,
Don't want me to be nice way you drop and roll now (drop and roll)
Baby slow down (slow down),
Move to the tempo now (tempo now)
Take control now,
The way you drop and roll now
Baby slow down, move to the tempo now

Baime lento (yeah yeah yeah)
Tú paralisas el tiempo (yeah yeah yeah)
Bailame lento (yeah yeah yeah)
Tú paralisas el tiempo (yeah yeah yeah)
Cuando tú bailas asi (you know I like that)
Yeah you know I like that Yeah, you know I like that know I like that)
Yeah you know I like that
Cuando tú bailas asi (you know I like that)
Yeah you know I like that

You are an unearthly girl.
Your beautiful face drives me crazy.
I can't vouch for myself if something happens (yeah).
There are no witnesses here, just you and me.
Let's burn in the fire in my room

You drive me crazy when you dance, baby.
I want to dive into your body.
Don't waste time, let's go to my place,
To explore you from the inside. nine0005

Dance for me slowly (e-e-e),
You stop time (e-e-e).
Dance for me slowly (e-e-e),
You stop time (e-e-e).
When you dance like that (you know I like it),
Uh, you know I like it.
When you dance like that (you know I like it),
Uh, you know I like it.

Just one chance, you seem to be looking for some kind of fling.
The body moves continuously like a snake.
Do you mind if I ask you to slow dance? nine0027 Do you mind if I pick up the rhythm and set it?
Give me a lot of love, which is so needed in my life.
You don't like veal tenderness,
You don't want me to be nice,
You just want to be at the helm all night.

Take control now,
The way you fall and squirm (fall and squirm).
Baby slow down (slow down),
Move in the rhythm now (in the rhythm now)
Take control now,
The way you fall and squirm. nine0027 Baby slow down, move to the rhythm now.

Dance me slowly (eeeeee),
You stop time (eeeee).
Dance for me slowly (e-e-e),
You stop time (e-e-e).
When you dance like that (you know I like it),
Uh, you know I like it.
When you dance like that (you know I like it),
Uh, you know I like it.

Dance me slow (eeeeee),
You freeze time (eeeee).
Dance to me slowly (e-e-e),
You freeze time (yeah).
When you dance like that (you know I like it),
Uh, you know I like it.
When you dance like that (you know I like it),
Uh, you know I like it.

The author of the translation is Elena Gavrilova

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