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How to practice pole dancing at home without a pole

May 13, 2022

14 min read for training

Last Updated on November 21, 2022 by Dancer leila liu

Seems impossible, right?

Pole dancing is often associated with erotica.

The dance is, however, also a complete fitness regime that focuses on strength, flexibility, and coordination. While empowering you to be comfortable in your skin.

If you want to see a faster holistic change in your body, include a pole in your dancing workout routine.

However, you can practice your style, strength, and flexibility without a pole as we will dive deep below.

Back when I was a beginner, neither did I have enough time to join pole dancing classes, nor did I have a suitable place in my home to install a pole.

However, my passion for pole dancing kept me driving toward the goal of becoming an expert. I began practicing pole dancing at home, even without a pole.  

As a successful pole dancing coach, I want to bust a myth that is acting as a barrier for people who want to work towards the dream of becoming a pole dancer.

You do not necessarily need a pole to begin practice sessions of pole dancing. 

In this blog, I’ll help you learn pole dancing at home without the use of a dance pole.

Can You Learn to Pole Dance at Home Even With No Pole?

There are several pole dancing moves and workouts that can be performed at home without a pole.

Shelling out money for a pole or an expensive pole dancing class is not necessary. 

There are techniques that can help you master pole dancing without spending a dime.

All you need is the comfort and privacy of your home to practice in, especially if you are nervous about the pole moves.

Motivating Yourself to Workout at Home Even Without a Dance Pole

Distractions in your mind can easily get you derailed from your daily workout routine. Here are a few simple steps that will help you stay on track with your self-motivation.

1. Remember why you began your pole journey.

Do you want to flaunt your legs in that cute dress? Get your man wild with your moves? Feel more confident about yourself? Next time you feel like quitting, just remind yourself why you started pole dancing in the first place.

2. Put on your pole wear.

When you put on your pole wear, you send a message to your brain that you are ready to work out and that you have a workout to complete. Wearing your pole outfit is half the battle won.

3. Crank up your pole workout playlist

Create a playlist for your workout sessions. This will get you in the right mood for each type of session.


Set a time for a workout and stick to your routine.

Start working out at the same time every day. This will let your brain know that every day, at this time, you begin and do your workout. Your body will subconsciously start prepping for the workout ready for the right time of the day.


Track your progress.

Set achievable goals and reward yourself as you cross each milestone. This releases dopamine in your brain, which will motivate you further to swing your hips and work out as you keep improving over time.

You can give yourself a reward, with your own pole, or new gear, once you reach each new level.

Ways to Improve at Pole Dancing Without a Pole

When you are starting out, you don’t need a pole. Performing complex maneuvers on the pole requires iron strength and flexibility that you can work on improving first.

As an absolute beginner, you need to first get your body ready for the pole. 

Many of the dance moves needed to lift and hold your body weight require a basic level of strength and coordination. So, I advise that you first build strength in your upper body, like your arms, back, and thighs.

Here are some useful exercises for pole dancing without a pole that will get you ready for your sessions when you are truly ready for the plunge.

1. Workouts and exercises 

Warm up before beginning any exercise session. It is important to increase your heart rate before any kind of dance routine [1]. The goal is to reduce muscle soreness and lower your risk of a serious injury.

2. Pole dance moves without the pole

There are many floor-work moves that don’t need a pole. Basic spins, planks, and freestyle waves can easily be perfected without a pole. Substitute the pole for a wall or a chair wherever required.

3. Yoga

Nothing improves flexibility and general fitness like yoga. It will improve your balance as you do splits and inversions. Once you get the hang of yoga, pole moves can come easy.

Consider this transferable knowledge.

4. Martial arts

Martial arts are a full-body workout. And an ideal way to increase overall mobility. Martial arts can help you understand your body’s pressure response while also strengthening your core muscles.

Martial arts involve movements like high kicks, fast bodyweight transfers, and balance with fancy footwork. The improvements you get will come in handy for your pole sessions.

5. Cardio strip aerobics

You get a moderate to intense workout out with standard aerobic training, but you can improve your body image confidence to the maximum possible level if you have the capability of doing it in your birthday suit have a try with just your heels on!

You can also notice an improvement in your cardio endurance and stamina after regular practice. 

You can do aerobics in the privacy of your own home or in a class which can help your confidence reach the height of the stars.

This dance routine can give your confidence more than an extra boost compared to standard pole dancing, as having no pole forces your movements to be more about you moving comfortably in your own body than the complexity and technicality of pole dancing or other types of performance dancing.

The best results for self-improvement are never free. 

However, if you pay the cost of your own comfort, once you hit the pole, you will have much better comfort in your own skin, and your newfound confidence will put you ahead of every other man or lady on the battlefield of life.

6. Chair or lap dance

This is a fun and exciting dance move that can improve your confidence that can come out as a party trick or in the bedroom. A lap dance routine can also keep your blood pressure under control. 

Say goodbye to anxiety and depression forever. Chair dancing will leave you in a good mood for a long time. The confidence you can gain can improve your confidence when performing any type of regular dancing.

7. Pilates

Pilates is undoubtedly the most effective way to increase your energy, flexibility, and body strength while giving you more control over your back and limbs. 

Pilates works your core and strengthens it to a level above yoga and is on par with pole dancing.

Your core will be needed for most of the heavy lifting. So, include Pilates in your daily workout routine to keep your core in top shape.

How to Prepare for a Workout?

Stretching is the best way to improve your bottom-line pole dancing technique and avoid injuries when approaching larger moves [2].

Warm up your body before stretching, targeting especially the muscles in your arms, shoulders, wrists, and legs.

Do this with some light skipping or a small jog around your room. Then start stretching.

Hamstring Stretch (Sitting)

  • Sit on the floor. Straighten your right leg in front of you.
  • Bend your left knee, placing the left foot on the inner part of the right thigh.
  • Fold over your right leg while keeping the back straight.
  • Grab your right foot. Hold for 30 seconds. Switch legs.

Hamstring Stretch (Standing)

  • Put your right foot on a chair or table that is lower than your hip.
  • Flex your feet.
  • Bend at your hip towards the flexed foot. Hold for 30 seconds. Switch legs.

Hamstring Stretch (Reclined)

  • Lie on your back. Raise your right leg to a 90-degree angle (or as much as you can), while keeping your back flat on the ground.
  • Hold the lower thigh and try to pull your leg towards your head.
  • Flex your foot to deepen the stretch. Hold for 30 seconds. Switch legs.

Lying Twist

  • Lie on your back. Extend your arms on the sides.
  • Bend your knees. Cross the right leg over your left.
  • Slowly rotate the knees to the right till they come on the floor. It is OK if your left shoulder comes slightly off the floor. Hold for 30 seconds.
  • Slowly bring the knees back to the center.
  • Cross your left leg over your right and bring your knees down on the left side.
  • Perform at least 5 sets of these stretches.

Wrist and ankle joints

  • Rotate your wrists and ankles for 20 seconds in each direction.

Beginner Pole Dancing Moves that don’t need a Pole

1. Clockwork

  • Lay on your back. Bring your knees to your chest.
  • Cross your knees and shoot them up. Your back will also be off the floor.
  • Support your lower back with your hands.
  • Roll the outer leg like a clock, the other leg will follow suit.
  • Roll the hips along to make the movement look sexier.

2. Body slide

  • Get down on all fours. Your arms should be under your shoulder, and your knees under your hips.
  • Kick your left leg at the ceiling while keeping the leg bent at a 90-degree angle.
  • Lower your chest down without touching the floor.
  • Slide down your right leg.
  • Bring your hips to the floor.
  • Push the floor with your hands and come back up straight on your knees. Practice this enough to make this move look smooth and fluid.

3. Body wave

  • Stand facing the wall.
  • Stretch your legs with your feet out.
  • Get as close to the wall as you can.
  • Bend your knees into a squat, knees touching the wall.
  • Bring your pelvis to the wall, rolling onto your chest onward to your chin. Imagine a wave passing through your body, from your knees to the pelvis to the chest, and finally, your chin.
  • You can also practice the body wave in reverse.

4. Handstand

  • Face the wall.
  • Get into a downward dog position with your hands shoulder-width apart.
  • Walk one leg forward.
  • Bend the front knee and hop to send the other leg straight up.
  • Bring the hopping leg up as well. The wall serves as a support if you falter.
  • Point your toes up and imagine that you are hand-standing against a pole.

P.S. Handstands should only be practiced at the intermediate or advanced level of your training with a crash mat.

Pole Dancing Workouts Without a Pole

These workouts are all beginner-friendly. Do at least 10 sets of these exercises.

1. Superwoman roll

  • Lie face down on the mat.
  • Lift chest, arms, and legs off the mat. Take a few breaths in this position.
  • Roll to your right onto your back, keeping your arms and legs lifted.
  • Reverse roll to the starting position.

2. Sit-ups

  • Lie on your back with your knees bent.
  • Place your feet firmly on the floor.
  • Extend your arms overhead.
  • Exhale and bring your head and shoulder off the mat. Try to touch your knees with your chest while keeping the back straight.
  • Hold this position for a few breaths before lowering your back slowly into the mat.
  • Once standard sit-ups are easy, lift your legs and arms at the same time to meet in the middle. 
  • Do lower back exercises to avoid damage to your back.

3. Pendulum

  • Lie on the mat with arms stretched to the side of the head.
  • Lift your legs straight to the ceiling
  • Now swing your legs sideways.

4. Wall squats

  • Stand with your back to the wall.
  • Fold your palms loosely overhead.
  • Keep your feet together about 12 inches off the wall.
  • Rise on the balls of your feet and squat.
  • Stand up and jump both feet out into a wide stance. The heels should remain lifted.
  • Repeat the wall squat with knees out on the sides.
  • Jump and bring your knees together

Cardio Strip Aerobics Workouts Without Pole

Cardio strip workouts are the latest craze. And with a good reason. This is a sensual but athletic enterprise for wicked dancers. Wear whatever makes you feel sexy if you’re a beginner.

Fun fact: You can do this type of workout in your push-up bra or G-string. We can’t guarantee that you will keep them up by the end of the intense workout session.

Here are some beginner-friendly workouts.

Shoulder Roll

  • Roll your left shoulder and arm to the right.
  • Sway your hips to the side and bend your knees slightly.
  • Roll your right shoulder and arm to the left and repeat.

Booty Shake

  • Take your hands up in the air, bend your knees and shake it!
  • Shake your waist, too, at a slower pace!
  • Move your body around an imaginary chair. Sway your body as you do each move.

Cross and pump

  • Cross your arms to touch the shoulders.
  • Then cross your arms at your waist.
  • Open your arms.
  • Pump your chest twice.

You can build on these exercises to engage more body parts. 

How to Practice Yoga Without a Pole for Pole Dancing improvement?

Pole dancing requires a great deal of flexibility, strength, and concentration. 

Many pole dancing moves are actually very similar to yoga poses. Yoga builds up your strength, making you more balanced and coordinated.

Here are a few asanas that will help you tame those tricky pole moves.

  1. Sirsasana. To build strength in your core, arms, shoulders, and wrists. Sirsasana gets you ready for handstands.
  2. Hanumanasana. To strengthen hamstrings to perform Chopper, Butterfly, and pole splits, among many others.
  3. Anjaneyasana and Urdhva Dhanurasana. To help with backbends, Jade Split and Allegra without hurting your spine.
  4. Chaturanga, Bakasana and Navasana. To build core strength. You require a rock hardcore to master most pole moves, such as Martini and Bottle Rocket.

Chair or Lap Dancing Without the Pole

Are you a shy newbie? Simply grab a chair and your partner. And sway those hips to the beat of your favorite relaxing music. 

You are working out your glutes and pelvic muscles as you dazzle your partner with splits and spins. 

This is a fantastic way to feel confident and sexy while getting a workout done. And trust me, your partner won’t even notice if you don’t point your toes or miss a move.

Many pole moves can be adapted for chair dance. Allow your imagination to go wild.

Pilates Workout for Pole Dancing Without the Pole

1. Saw

Level: Beginner

Targets: Back, Hamstring

  • Sit straight on the mat. Extend your legs in front of you, and open up somewhat wider than your hips.
  • Stretch arms to the side.
  • Inhale and twist your torso to the right, carrying your arms with you.
  • Exhale and touch your little finger (left hand) to the little toe. Your right-hand reaches back, with the palm turned in. Feel the pull of the arms.
  • Inhale and bring the body up to starting position.
  • Repeat on the other side.

2. Seal

Level: Intermediate

Targets: Abdominals

  • Sit at the front of the mat. Draw your knees to your chest.
  • Put your hands through your legs and grab the outside of your ankles.
  • Make a C-shape with your torso as you take your feet 2 inches off the mat.
  • Clap the feet together 3 times.
  • Inhale and smoothly roll onto your shoulders.
  • Bring your feet together again 3 times at the top.
  • Exhale and roll back to the starting position.

3. Scissors

Level: Advanced

Targets: Shoulders, Abs, Hip

  • Lie on your back. Bend your knees.
  • Extend your knees to the ceiling and take your hips, and lower back off the floor. Support your hips with your palms, with elbows directly under the pelvis.
  • Scissor your legs open, away from each other.
  • Bring your legs together and switch sides.

How Often Can You Practice Pole Dancing Without a Pole?

If you are a beginner, start with a 30-minute dancing session twice a week. You will be sore after your workout in the beginning. So, give more time for muscle recovery.

Once you reach the intermediate level, aim to pole dance for 1 hour three times each week.

Follow an online course that will motivate you and teach you what you need to know!

Be careful not to overdo your body, as you could otherwise injure yourself.

As an advanced level pole dancer, you can practice for an hour or more, 4-5 times a week.

Remember to stretch and relax your muscles after each workout.

Will You Get a Pole Dancer Body Without a Pole?

Even without a pole, pole dancing moves can target all parts of the body. And be a complete fitness regime in itself. 

Cardiovascular activity is key to pole routines. The complex stretches and body bend target stubborn belly fat while also strengthening the core. 

Overall, the body tones up, the curves you didn’t know you had, and this starts to show.

Join a pole dancing lesson and find the right material if you want to become as good as a professional pole dancer. You’ll also get the opportunity to perform around the world with other dancers.

When Is It Time to Get Your Own Pole at Home?

One mindset is that when you have been practicing for a month or two at home. And you are excited by this dynamic dance form and want to put your skills to the test on a real pole. 

You should get yourself a portable dance pole when you want. This will motivate you further in your workout journey. You can train whenever you want at your own pace.

You will be able to level up your workout sessions by picking up more challenging pole moves. All of this from the convenience of your own home. 

You only have to pay once, and it doesn’t matter when you do it, so you might as well get a portable pole sooner and take our tips to move your confidence to a new height – up with the rest of the stars.

More information:
  1. How does the heart rate change when dancing? a blog from
  2. The importance of stretching published in https://www.

Leila Liú

My name is Leila Liu, as a pole dancer and a pole dancing fitness coach, I bring my experience, technique and style to my followers. As pole dancing is becoming more popular, this is also my favorite style of dance to teach.

15 Pole Dancing Exercises You Cant Forget in 2022

Even if you’re not on a dance pole, you can still train your body to be able to handle pole fitness exercises in 2022.

The following exercises listed below will fortify your core and upper body muscles to give you the needed flexibility, strength, and stamina to do many pole dance moves.

These can’t replace the training you get on the stripper pole, but these are good alternatives.

Do this regularly and in two weeks, you’ll definitely feel stronger.

Here are 15 Pole Dancing Exercises you can do without a dance pole


5 Stretching Exercises for Pole Fitness

Similar to what we do before we climb the pole, we’ll be doing warm up exercises first.

Box Split

1) Stand up while keeping your back and your whole body straight.

2) Slowly slide your legs outward, keeping them 180′ apart.

It’s like slowly doing a split.

3) Reach for the floor with your hips for as low as you can.

Your hips should still face forward while you’re doing this.

4) Maintain this position for at least 15secs.

Hip Stretch

1) Begin in a lunge position.

The upper portion of your back foot should be flat on the floor.

2) Slowly slide your back leg as far as you can.

Both hips should still face forward while you’re doing this.

Use your front leg to maintain balance.

3) Start pushing your hips lower and maintain it for at least 15secs.

4) Switch legs and repeat.

Quad Stretch

1) Position yourself similar to the hip stretch’s form.

Slowly bend your back leg towards your buttocks until it’s within reach of the arm resting on the same side.

2) Hold your foot and pull it towards you until you can feel the muscles nicely getting stretched.

3) Switch legs and repeat.

Hamstring Stretch

1) Sit down with both legs stretched out in front.

2) Slowly slide one leg towards your hips, bending sideways, until your legs form a number four shape.

3) Flex the foot of the stretched leg towards you while maintaining a straight back.

4) Using both hands, reach for the foot on the outstretched leg, shifting your body weight towards it.

Maintain this position for at least 10secs.

5) Switch legs and repeat.

Cobra Stretch

1) Lie with your belly facing the floor.

Bend your arms so that both hands are in front of your shoulders.

2) Slowly use your hands to prop your upper body up while keeping your legs still stretched out.

Bend your back with your face facing the ceiling.

3) Bend your knees towards your belly and move your hips in the direction of your feet, proceeding into a sitting position.

4) Stand up slowly while keeping your arms raised straight above your head.

10 Pole Dancing Exercises You Can Do Even Without a Pole

For beginners, do the listed exercises below for 5 reps each and move to the next on the list until you finish the whole cycle.

Gradually increase the number of reps and cycles as you get used to the whole process.

Aim to achieve around 15 reps of each and 3 whole cycles.

You’ll feel your strength building up through time and the best thing is you can do all these even in the absence of a dance pole.


Bicycle Crunches

1) Lie on the floor with your belly facing the ceiling.

Bend your knees in a way that your feet stays flat on the floor.

2) While keeping your back straight, prop your upper body up with your shoulders until you’re eye-level with your knees.

3) Put your hands at the back of your head, keeping your elbows out.

4) Move your right knee towards your chest and reach it with your left elbow.

Do this alternately with your right and left limbs.

One rep equals one right elbow-left knee and left elbow-right knee combination.


Jack-Knife Sit-ups

1) Lie on the floor with your belly facing the ceiling.

Stretch both arms over your head and put them in a V-shape position.

Do this with your legs too, putting them in a similar V-shape position while remaining outstretched.

2) Contract your abdominal muscles to lift your legs and arms off the ground.

Ensure that you maintain both limbs straight while you reach for an imaginary point in the air until your arms and legs are parallel to each other.

3) Slowly return to your initial position on the ground, contracting your abs again before both limbs hit the floor.

4) Repeat until you reach your target reps.

Climbing Rope

1) Sit on the floor with your legs stretched out in front of you.

2) Lean back slightly and start climbing an imaginary rope, moving your right arm and left leg upward and then the left arm and right leg after.

3) Don’t forget to twist your torso as you move to exercise your obliques.

One rep equals one right arm-left leg and left arm-right leg combination.

Hip Bridge

1) Lie with your back on the floor and bend your knees so that your feet are flat on the floor.

Your feet should be properly planted to help your hips support your body when you lift your body up.

2) Keep your arms stretched sideways while keeping your palms down.

3) Lift your hips up to the ceiling until you form a nice straight line starting from your knees up to your shoulders.

This exercises your back and glutes.

4) Slowly bring your hips down.

Repeat until you complete the required reps


1) Lie on your belly.

Keep your arms stretched over your head.

2) Keep your legs straight apart until you form a V-shape with them.

3) Lift all limbs off the floor and hold them up for 5secs.

4) Rest them on the floor for a second before repeating the exercise.

Lying Hip Swings

1) Lie with your back on the floor, arms stretched to your sides with palms facing down, and legs propped straight up to the ceiling with toes flexed inward.

2) Swing your legs to one side, keeping a 90′ position, and lower them until they’re just a few inches from the ground.

3) Lift your legs up and back to the initial position.

Do the same on the opposite side.

4) Use your core muscles to control your lower body and maintain the position, preventing your legs from limping to the floor.

Sliding Pike

Place small rags or towels on your feet to ensure maximum sliding action is achieved for this exercise.

1) Start in a push-up position, ensuring your back is straight and properly aligned with your shoulders and legs.

2) With your feet together, slowly bring them towards your arms until you achieve a V-shape position with your whole body.

Make sure that your upper body and legs are always straight during the process.

3) Move your feet away again until you’re back into the initial push-up position.

4) Repeat until you complete the required reps.

Side Planks (with arm twist combo)

1) Start in a planking position.

2) Shift your weight onto one arm and use your free arm to reach through the vacant space between the other arm and your body.

3) Pull the free arm out and twist your body until you’re facing sideways.

Reach for the ceiling with your free arm.

4) Repeat until you complete the required reps before switching sides.


1) Start with your belly flat on the floor and lift your body up with your arms until you form a 90′ angle between your arms and your whole body.

Keep your back straight while doing this.

2) Stretch your legs out, straightly aligning it with your back.

If you can’t do this yet, you may just stay on your knees.

3) Slowly bending your elbows out, bring your chest as close to the floor as possible.

4) Keep facing the floor and contract your abs as you repeat the motion described in Step 3.

5) Repeat until you complete the required reps.


1) Standing straight with legs in line with your hips, step one leg forward.

2) Bend your hips down until your front and back knees bend at a 90′ angle.

Contract your hamstrings and your glutes to return to your standing position.

3) Switch to the other leg and repeat the whole process.

All these moves will contribute to your core strength and build up the muscles required when you’re on the pole.

These exercises not only tone your body and improve your strength but also bolster your metabolism rate.

Do these regularly and you’ll be more than ready to take on more challenging pole dancing moves.

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How to dance a striptease without looking funny

Night falls and the Showgirl dancer in you wakes up. And even before you have time to turn on your common sense, you already say the fatal: “Do you want me to dance a striptease for you?” He, of course, agrees. Let's lower the veil of pity over the end of this scene. It happens that each of us wants to feel like a stripper, perform a lap dance with her boyfriend and get a tip in panties. But how do you strip in a way that's really sexy, not funny (and everyone stays safe)? We share secrets!

Anastasia Maksimova





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Forget the acrobatics!

Pf, you say, it's obvious. And here it is not. You have no idea how many women have been injured by the duende. Bruises, torn ligaments, ankle injuries and even a concussion...

Let's agree: this is not a stage performance, but your goal is not to impress your boyfriend with a triple somersault, but to turn him on. First of all, it concerns stretching. Even if it seems to you that right now you will sit on the twine, this will not happen. Or it will, but it will be the last element that you completed. Yes, we know that when you went to the choreography circle in the third grade, you were the easiest to do the splits. But you're not in third grade, you're not hot and you don't want to risk your ligaments.

The same goes for any jumps (watch your head) and backbends (watch your back). In general, it is better to move more slowly and with a smaller amplitude than to go to the emergency room.

Don't do it without preparation

Any dance, even a house striptease, requires preparation and warming up. It is not necessary to think through the entire dance from the first to the last note, but you must have a concept for the dance.

What you need: the main set of movements you are going to perform and the order in which they are performed. It is better to rehearse the movements several times so that there are no surprises. At least once, you must run the dance alone in full dress, in order to foresee any accidents. So you will know, for example, that the floor is slippery here, it’s easy to stumble on the edge of the carpet, in this movement your dressing gown clings to the heel, and at this moment you need to be careful not to step on your boyfriend’s foot.

Wear clothes that are easy to take off

A common mistake beginner strippers make is wearing too many clothes. It seems to them that the longer they take it off, the more the dance will excite the partner's imagination.

And here we run into a problem. Jammed bra hooks are half the trouble, but the need, say, to pull off your jeans while slouching on the floor... Let's call it "death to the sex drive." Briefly about the wardrobe items that should be on you:

  • Bra. Ideally, if it has a front clasp, it will be easier to take it off, and it looks more intriguing. In fact, it is the bra that opens up incredible scope for imagination. As additional accessories, you can use a "harness" made of thin leather straps or stickers on the nipples.
  • Panties. It all depends on taste and physical data, but, in fact, thongs and tangas do not look as advantageous as you think, especially in some movements. Consider other options: lace shorts, briefs with a corset drawstring, or even panties with a cutout between the legs.
  • Stockings. You can supplement them with a belt - it will be more difficult to move with it, but the effect will be stunning.
  • Robe. From above you can put on a light silk dressing gown. Probably, it is not necessary to write that it is desirable that this is not the same one in which you lie on the sofa on Saturdays with a cat in one hand and a laptop in the other? And the point is not even the sexuality of a particular thing, but the fact that striptease is a surprise, a surprise, and your partner will see you in something that he has not seen before.

Let's talk about shoes separately.

Put soft heels on

On the one hand, what is a striptease without heels? They outline the foot well, tighten the calves and buttocks, but... click. And if you have linoleum in your room, then they leave depressed points.

Why do we need soft heels? First, if you do not live in a private house, then you most likely have neighbors. You know, nothing destroys romance so much as an angry aunt Valya from the third floor, who presses the bell as if she is squeezing the last drops of conscience out of you.

Secondly, when the dance is performed in a club, it's one thing, there you can hardly hear how you click, but at home the sound will be completely different.

Choose slow music

...and familiar music. You won't like it if the track suddenly stops when you haven't even untied your robe yet.

You must like this music. The ideal time is 2-3 minutes. The composition for 5 minutes will be too long, you will both get tired.

Play with your hair

Think of your hair as another of your stage props. We recommend that you pull them into a tight bun before the start of the dance, and then let your hair down. Turn your head, let him touch your curls, tickle his tips. In general, everything is in your hands. And head.

Use props, but not too much

You will need a chair to take off your stockings. Seriously, the best way to make it erotic is to put your foot on a chair, hook up the end of the stocking and pull it down.

In fact, remember the main theatrical rule: "If a gun is hanging on the stage, it will go off." No, please don't shoot anyone. The point is not to take too many props. Take one element that will complement your image.

Striptease lesson: how to make a spicy gift - Relationships

Striptease as a gift is controversial. Someone will be delighted with such a present, and someone will be shocked. Experts told which men would appreciate a spicy gift, and also gave advice and basic lessons on how to prepare a private dance on your own and how to create an appropriate atmosphere for home striptease.

From Western films, we clearly understood that a striptease as a gift will please any man. Yes, and a woman, if we are talking about a private dance, performed by a man. Ladies even take strip dancing lessons themselves to surprise their beloved at home, and expect such a foreplay to be appreciated and received with gratitude. But in real life is not so clear cut.

It turns out that some people don't want to receive street music as a present, and it doesn't matter who will perform it. Especially if outsiders are present during the dance. Psychologists warn that a stripper is a gift to a man who experiences any kind of sexual complex. sphere, will only remind him of the problem. Therefore, it is important to consider who and in what situation to do such a gift.

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humiliated. It can cause shame, embarrassment if it happens in public, kill holiday mood. Therefore, a woman must find out in advance what will be reaction. If a couple can visit a strip club together and freely discuss such topics, then perhaps the gift will be received positively,” says the head of the psychotherapeutic department of the clinic "Insight" Igor Lyakh (Novosibirsk).

Giving a striptease to a boss, colleague or business partner — unacceptable, etiquette specialist Evgenia Skiba (Barnaul) is sure. "In business situations, most people behave with restraint. This is allowed in some creative company. Among people who are merry and jokers in life. They can recognize by behavior, manner brightly, look unusual. They do it themselves such gifts, and appreciate if they are congratulated by a stripper, ”explains expert. Housewives and sportswomen: who learns striptease

Professional dancer and owner of a striptease agency Alexei Zhorkin in his own experience confidently declares that most of the orders are just the same as gifts. Of these, a lot for the boss of any gender. Strippers and strippers are often invited to February 23, March 8, hen parties, stag parties, birthdays, and once, in his memory, they ordered for a wedding.

“There is a negative reaction. The husband begins to be shy, because he does not know how his wife will react if behave uninhibited with the artist. Therefore, we ask that they break through the soil in advance. Or we ask you to leave the room so that they do not embarrass you with your presence. It happens that the people themselves, to whom they give, are asked to stop the dance. This was at a bachelorette party with a very moral bride. In this case, the artist can continue the dance for the public. But more often the reaction is good,” says Zhorkin.

A large proportion of couples believe that the teasing dance able to increase the degree of passion and diversify routine family life. But also here experts advise to approach carefully, and take into account the many factors: from the situation, the occasion to the current state of the relationship. The last one is perhaps the most important.

“There are troubles in family relationships — routine, ritual, adaptation. When a married couple begins to limit fantasies about each other, then such an important part of sexuality as flirting disappears. Many industries exist for due to the fact that this flirting is provided, for example, by Internet dating. That's why many women at one time were so carried away by half-dance that in their relationship novelty, mystery appeared, things connected with fantasy appeared. Usually it strengthens the couple, ”Lyakh believes.

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flirting, then the reaction to the striptease of the wife or girl is likely to be positive, and she will achieve the desired effect. And if such an important component is no longer there, a woman runs the risk of causing discontent or other negative emotions that before this was restrained, the psychologist warns.

As strip dance choreographer Marina Ignatenko said, most often women apply for lessons when they find out that a man is looking “on the side” or go to strip bars. And then, having learned the strip, they draw attention to myself.

“A woman becomes more self-confident, her gait becomes more graceful. A woman begins to change from the inside, they begin to look at her differently, her man feels it, thinks what has changed in her and thinks about her, the choreographer says.

If you want to dance a striptease, she advises you to take at least a few lessons dancers to master the basic set of movements, and then act with an eye on their own opportunities and benefits. So, if a girl has flexibility, then be sure use twine and braces. And if a woman has long beautiful hair, then dance it out.

In general, the basic set of strip dance elements is simple - "kitty", backbends, stretching, half twine (twine for those who can afford it), half-bridge, touching yourself. Basically, almost anyone can do it.

But we must remember that home striptease is a small show, therefore, appropriate attire is important (you can buy a role-playing costume in a sex shop or just put on a beautiful set of underwear and stockings), manicure, pedicure, makeup, hairstyle.

Especially for readers, the choreographer told how to prepare for home striptease on her own, and showed the basic movements. We start with a warm-up and train plasticity.

According to Ignatenko, striptease is impossible without heels. Ideally, you need to stand on strips - shoes with a platform that professional women use. If there are no similar shoes and you don’t want to buy specially, you can do without a platform, but heels are required, and as high as possible.

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