How to do a strip dance for my husband
8 Moves To Give Your Man A Perfect Lap Dance
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You might associate lap dances with strip clubs and late nights, but that doesn’t have to be the case. Men like a little spice, even in long-term relationships, and giving a good lap dance to the guy you love can be an excellent way to show him how you feel and bring a little sparkle to his eye.
Of course, you can’t very well deliver if you don’t know how to give a lap dance, which is why we’re going to talk about the ins and outs of actually giving him a lap dance in this article. Below, we’ll cover the basics, including how to bring up the subject with your guy, how to practice and what to wear, among other details.
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Keep in mind that the finished effect will either be sexy or bumbling, depending on how much time you devote to getting it right beforehand. If you want to give a good lap dance, don’t rush the process. Instead, follow these steps and you’ll do great.
1. What to Wear
When giving him a lap dance, one of the most effective moves is to remove clothing as you go along. This not only ups the ante little by little, but gives you an opportunity to do something a bit different every once in a while, removing various bits of clothing in lieu of dance moves … or better yet, turning the removal of clothing into dance moves.
Wear layers so you can strip down. Of course, you can’t be dressed like you’re heading out into the Alaskan wilderness when you start, but there are ways to layer up without looking bulky or silly.
For instance, you can wear a bra, a camisole and a sheer blouse on top, perhaps embellished with a feather boa. On bottom, you might consider wearing thong underwear, tiny skintight shorts and a skirt over them. That gives you several pieces to play with, which can really help heighten the effect of the dance overall.
Incorporate the type of clothing that your man finds sexy. More on that here. Get more hints in our article on strip teases.
2. Practicing Your Skills Beforehand
If you don’t know how to give a lap dance, this party won’t go very far, now will it? So the first thing you have to do is learn how. This is easily achieved just by watching YouTube, but if you need some additional inspiration from an expert, Carmen Electra has some great videos. Important moves to master are circling the chair, climbing onto his lap, and dipping down and back up. Of course, there are many others, but these will make a great foundational repertoire.
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Remember to play up your assets. If you’re small-chested but have a really nice behind, make sure that faces him for at least part of the dance, and run your hands over it lightly. If your breasts are your best feature, make sure they’re front and center.
However, you shouldn’t worry too much about your body. If you need a confidence boost, then check out tips to love your body.
3. How to Suggest Giving Him a Lap Dance
One of the key ingredients in a good lap dance is a lack of awkwardness. If things feel bizarre or weird between the two of you, it won’t be very much fun for anyone, now will it? That means that the way in which you bring up the subject has to be casual, calm and naughty. A little shyness is fine, but if you lack confidence, so will he. When suggesting the dance, put on a playful or rowdy face. Be coy, inviting him “into your chambers,” or to “step into your office.
” Maybe turn it into a role play scene. Make it fun, and be confident.
4. Spice Things Up
Unlike girls who give lap dances in strip clubs, you’re actually at liberty to touch and take things further (lap dances work well for sex!). Lucky for both of you, right? Instead of keeping the requisite distance between the two of you, sprinkle a few extra moves into your lap dance, stroking your hand down his chest or up his legs, kissing him on the lips or the neck, and making full contact once in a while.
Check out this post about foreplay for more ideas. Of particular notice is dry humping, which is essentially what a lap dance is! Of course, you’re free to do even more than that if you want (wink, wink), but pulling away once in a while can heighten the anticipation.
Keep in mind, though, that the no touching rule can actually make things even more exciting in some cases. If you want to go this route, just tell him at the start of the dance (in your sultriest voice, of course) that he better keep his hands off you or you’ll call your manager.
Then, whenever he makes a grab for you, simply take his hands and pin them over his head or behind his back, or make him sit on them. If you’re feeling especially frisky and want to break a few rules, slap some handcuffs on him to include elements of light bondage.
5. Making It Complicated or Simple
This really depends on you and your man. If you have a dance background or gymnastic moves, complicated might just suit you. If you’re like most of us, however, simple is probably more your jam. In that case, go with it. Slow and sexy is perfect for lap dancing.
6. Which Music to Play
Marvin Gaye comes to mind as the typical lap dance music, and while “Let’s Get It On” certainly sends a pretty clear message, there are plenty of other choices out there as well. Think some Usher, which has a faster beat but still contains plenty of innuendo. If you want to move a little bit more slowly, there’s a whole world of R & B for you to explore. And you can always let your own tastes as a couple dictate what you like: anything with a decently slow, slinky beat will do the trick.
This post has more more ideas for sexy music, and these songs are great for lap dances specifically!
Remember to practice your lap dance with the music you choose. If all you do is practice along with videos, your timing might be off when you play the music you’ve compiled. Speaking of compilations, make sure the songs you pick transition smoothly from one to the next, without weird interruptions that could throw off your mojo.
7. Design a Good Build Up
One of the most important components of giving him a lap dance is a good buildup. You can’t just dive straight into a bunch of grinding and hope it will be sexy. Similarly, feather light touches and a little bit of wiggling does not an entire lap dance make. Instead, you have to escalate the action all the way throughout.
The best way to ensure you’re building during the whole dance is to design a routine beforehand. Mix and match your moves so that you’re always going a bit further as each minute ticks into the next.
Of course, it’s okay to occasionally back off or slow it down, but the overall feeling should be of rising action. Think of a book or a movie: in general, each “scene” should be a little more intense than the last. A little sexier, a little closer, a littler more risqué.
8. Calm Your Nerves Beforehand
Sure, a little bit of nervousness is cute, but if your bashfulness makes you unable to, you know, perform, then what’s the point? If you find yourself too shy to truly make it happen without some help, have a drink or two beforehand. In fact, a night when both of you are having a few glasses of wine (such as a holiday or anniversary, when you’re likely to be celebrating already) can be perfect, because your man will lose his initial inhibitions as well.
See? Giving a lap dance isn’t as hard as you think it is, provided you take the time to practice and set everything up beforehand. Not only is it totally doable, giving him a lap dance can make your relationship a lot more fun and bring you closer to one another.
Consider saving this surprise for a special occasion, like his birthday, a holiday or your anniversary. It will have a lot more impact if he doesn’t know about it beforehand, so don’t tell him you’re practicing or even hint at the surprise. Instead, whip it out at a totally unexpected moment and watch his eyes shine!
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How To Strip For Your Man: 8 Simple Steps
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Performing a striptease for your man is one of many wonderful ways to spice up your sex life. However if you don’t prepare properly for it, then it can awkward, weird and really nerve-wracking.
So follow the guidelines in this tutorial on how to strip for your man and before you know it, you’ll almost be ready to start working in a club!
How To Strip: The Preparation
The most important part of stripping for your man is getting ready so that the whole thing goes really smoothly and flows naturally. The last thing you want to do is to be stumbling around in front of your man turning on the music and setting up a chair for him…
The Where – If your bedroom is big enough, then you should ideally strip for your man there as he will automatically associate it with sex and all things naughty, but if not, then your living room will have to do.
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What You Wear – Next, you need to think about what you are going to wear so that you look hot. Choose a pair of sexy stockings, bra and panties, that you know will turn your man on. Over these, wear a skirt that’s easy to slip out of. For your top, the easiest is something like a blazer that you can take off without much effort.
Learn: How to choose really sexy lingerie.
The key when choosing your clothes is that your underwear can be super tight and sexy, but your outerwear needs to be fairly loose and simple to remove.
What shoes or boots you wear is truly up to you. They should accent your legs, so heels are almost always best…but if you don’t feel comfortable wearing heels, don’t feel like you have to, just go barefoot instead.
Also: How to dress sexy
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The Mood – Next it’s time to pay attention to the mood. Bright lights are a big no-no. Subtle, subdued lighting is what you want. So if you have a dimmer, then you are in luck. If not, then you will need to turn off the light and use candles instead.
Alternatively, you can throw a sheet over a lamp to give the same effect (just make sure not to start any fires!).
Additionally, you can try lighting some incense/scented candles for some nice smells while performing your striptease for your man.
Related: How to make your vagina taste and smell good for your man.
The last part of setting the mood is choosing the right music. Do your best to find out what type of music really turns your man on. It could turn out to be some cheesy top 40 songs or even heavy metal. Whatever it is, try your best to find out what it is.
These 22 lap dance songs will give you some inspiration.
We’ve also made this sex songs playlist with over 400 tracks!
First Time? – If this is your first time stripping for your man, then you may be a little nervous at the idea. There’s a simple solution to all of this…try having a glass of wine before doing it. It will help to make everything go smoothly. Just make sure to only make it 1 glass though, any more and you will end up getting drunk…which won’t make for very sexy stripping.
The last thing you are going to need is a chair for your man to sit in. Okay, now that we have everything, time to learn how to actually strip for your man…
How To Strip For Him
1. You are going to start off by grabbing your man’s wrist and leading him to the chair, from wherever else you are in your house/apartment. When you get there, push him down firmly into the chair so that he knows that you are in charge.
This requires you to be a bit dominant.
We have put together a guide on how to be sexually dominant.
2. Next give him a quick kiss so that he knows you aren’t being too serious (even though you are still definitely the one in charge)…
3. Afterwards, slowly and seductively walk a few steps away from him making sure to accentuate your hips as you do. Then stop, look over your shoulder at him and lower your jacket to the floor.
Related: How to be seductive.
4. Next, take a step back towards your man. Then put your hands on either side of your hips and slowly start to lower your skirt to the floor. As you do, start to bend down towards the ground making sure to give your man a bird’s eye view of your ass.
The slower you do all of this the better.
5. If you are feeling confident at this stage, then it’s just a case of putting your hands on your hips and slowly rotating your hips right in front of him. If he tries to touch or grab you, then swat his hands away and wave your finger in his face.
You can do this while facing him or while you have your back to him.
6. Another very sexy move is to straddle one of his legs, sit down on it and seductively grind up and down it.
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7. Once you are done doing this, again slowly walk away from your man. Stop when you are a few feet away and then slowly start to undo your bra with your back to him. Start by slipping the shoulder straps down before undoing it from behind your back. When you’re done, throw it at your man before turning around and slowly walking back to him.
8. Sit down on his knee and start grinding on it again, and just go from there. Or you can stay grinding on his knee until you make yourself cum.
You’ll find that it’s a good idea to try this all out on your own first to get an idea of what is easy to do and what needs some work to perfect. The first few times that you do strip for your man, you may them to be a little awkward and not go perfectly well.
But with time and practice, you will eventually get really smooth and sexy at it.
Making It Super Hot
Once you have mastered the actual stripping part, then it’s time to graduate to some sexy foreplay or even use some of these powerful sex tips on him.
Have fun!
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I want to tell you about my friend Karen.
Karen came to me one day. She was hysterical.
She told me that her marriage was falling apart because she and her husband didn’t have satisfying sex.
Every time they were intimate, Karen was faking her orgasms. It turns out she couldn’t orgasm during sex.
In fact...
She never had an orgasm in her entire life. Not one!
This left her feeling embarrassed and ashamed. And...
She completely hid this from her husband. Thankfully...
It turns out that there is a way for any woman to orgasm. Easily. And have multiple vaginal and full body orgasms during sex and masturbation.
I shared the process with Karen.
After she followed the simple process, she could barely come to terms with how...
Quickly and dramatically her sex life changed.
We met up a few months later and...
She would not stop talking about it,
“I thought I was one of those women who couldn’t orgasm. I used to think I was ‘broken’ and ‘unfixable.’ This saved my sex life, and that saved my marriage.”
Even if you currently struggle to orgasm during sex or when masturbating, this process will also work for you.
And best of all, you don’t need to do anything weird or uncomfortable to start having the best orgasms and sex of your life.
how to dance a striptease for a husband?
Striptease is an erotic and beautiful dance that can be used not only in a nightclub, but also for a private show - to your beloved husband. Of course, dancing at home is a little different from dancing on stage. Because not all girls have a model appearance, so most of the fair sex are ashamed of their shortcomings in the figure.
But the husband will be pleased to receive a gift in the form of a striptease.
Here are some tips on how to dance a striptease for a husband:
Don't wind yourself up, dance what you know how to do
The first thing to do when starting an erotic dance is to stop winding yourself up if some movements are not yet quite successful. After all, the main thing is your efforts, which your spouse will appreciate. When choosing striptease moves for your husband, choose the moves that you like the most. Thus, you will get a sincere dance, the positive attitude of which will please your spouse.
Change image
You should change your image during the striptease for your husband. In this case, try to avoid the usual clothes. For example, if a T-shirt and jeans are considered your usual clothes, change them to sexy underwear. Without fail, the resulting image must be combined with the chosen movements and music, while it is very important to feel very comfortable in this style.
Decide on a place for striptease
Beforehand, you should decide on the choice of a place for an erotic performance. It is best to give preference to a spacious place, so that nothing hampers your movements during a private dance, and all things remain intact. Make the light intimate or subdued, ideally with burning candles placed around the room. With the help of such a little trick, you can create a mysterious and romantic atmosphere, besides, your silhouette will stand out in the most advantageous light for you, and your skin will seem velvety.
Improvise
Girls who are very confident in their abilities can try to improvise a striptease dance for their husband. In the event that this will be the first dance of this kind in your life, it is recommended to prepare for this procedure more responsibly and rehearse the dance well. If possible, lessons from professional dancers who will assist you in building a dance composition and selecting music will not interfere.
Alternatively, you can watch videos in which professionals show how to properly dance a striptease. Next, you need to try to dance the dance, looking in the mirror. Perhaps it will not seem too erotic to you, or some of the movements will not be very well coordinated. In this case, you can record the dance on your mobile phone or video camera and show it to your close friends, who will be able to assess the degree of your preparedness. And finally, solidify your skills with a dress rehearsal by candlelight and in a new look.
Don't worry!
Having started the long-awaited dance in front of your beloved, don't worry. You must understand that if your partner accepts such a presentation as a gift for the first time, perhaps he, like you, will feel some discomfort. In order to relax a little, you may need a small amount of wine. Dancing, try to get rid of the mask of seriousness, turn your striptease for your husband into a kind of game. You may want to set some rules: for example, forbid your husband from touching you, despite your touching his body.
Such movements will help create a spicy atmosphere.
And remember, there are no rules in striptease, how to dance a striptease for your husband is up to you. The main thing is to relax, stop worrying and give your husband a beautiful, erotic dance.
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Joking aside: 5 tips on how to dance for your favorite striptease and not look funny
Love and sex
00:30, February 26, 2019
Striptease is a real art that can spice up the sex life of both partners.
If you want to give a man such a surprise, but are afraid to seem ridiculous or look ridiculous, heed the advice of experts and coaches from the Secrets family and sex education center on how to dance a striptease and be on top of it.
1. Practice in front of a mirror
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Training and having at least a rough plan of action is not only 50% success, but also a guarantee of your own confidence. It is not necessary to put on real choreography and learn the movements by heart, but it will be much easier for you yourself if you imagine in advance what and how you want to do. Otherwise, if you want to dance for a partner without being prepared, you run the risk of getting nervous, withdrawing into yourself and becoming “numb”. In advance, you need to take care of the props, if any. It could be, for example, a chair. Check it for stability, figure out what you're going to do with it. Why is a mirror needed at this stage? Because with its help you will be able to find out from which angles you like your own view more.
This will help during the dance, because in the process you will most likely ask yourself the question “How do I look right now?”.
2. Choose simple movements
Striptease is an erotic dance that does not require the presence of acrobatic elements or spinning around a pole. If you are afraid that you lack flexibility in movement or stretching, concentrate on simple movements. For example, swinging the hips along the figure-eight trajectory and smooth sliding movements of the hands over the body can excite a man no worse than transverse twine. Choose movements that suit your physical abilities and don't try to impress a man. Believe me, he will already be delighted with the very fact that you are dancing for him. Here are some basic movements that you can repeat, even if you do not have special body plasticity:
Lap dance
Striptease is needed primarily to tease a partner, to bring him to the peak of excitement. But that doesn't mean you can't touch it.
On the contrary, if you alternate movements at a distance and the opportunity to touch you, you will get a very interesting effect - from desire to possession, and vice versa. In order to repeat a man's lap dance, you need to stand with your back to him so that you are close enough to him. It is better to put a chair in front of you, on the back of which you have to lean with your hands. In a smooth motion, begin to lower yourself down, bending your knees until you feel that your buttocks are touching the man’s knees. Now you can make circular movements with your hips or move back and forth. Look back over your shoulder and glance at the man, you can give him permission to put his hands on your buttocks or even unbutton your bra if you haven't had time to get rid of it yet.
Spanking and stroking the buttocks
This is a very simple move that can drive a man crazy with its frankness. In order to perform it, it is enough to stand with your back to the man and slowly bend over, allowing him to see your buttocks.
After you bend as low as possible (try to do it so that your back is straight), you can start stroking your thighs and buttocks with your hands. Returning to the starting position, playfully slap your buttocks.
On a chair
A dance that requires a chair becomes both harder and easier at the same time. This, firstly, creates the need to use a piece of furniture in the dance (otherwise why is it needed?), and secondly, it gives you a point of support (you can sit or hold on to the back). What can you do with a chair while dancing? At least imagine that you are Sharon Stone, seductively shifting your legs. At the same time, you can not only show your partner your legs, but also take off their stockings, erotically stroking them.
3. Choose the right clothes in advance
The requirements for the clothes that you will get rid of during the dance are quite simple. It should give you self-confidence, emphasizing your dignity, and be easy to remove.
In general, one of the most important rules in striptease is not to let a man get bored. Therefore, we advise you to choose the minimum number of items of clothing. It is best to make a choice in favor of erotic lingerie, throwing on a dressing gown so that a man, when he comes home or gets out of the shower, does not even suspect what sweet pleasure awaits him. The bathrobe can be thrown off almost immediately - this will not be a big deal, but then it will be more difficult.
Let's start from the bottom: shoes, stockings and a belt
If you are going to wear them, you should also take care of a chair, sitting on which these items can be removed. We advise you to take off your heels almost immediately or not to put them on at all, because striptease itself is a rather energy-intensive process, and dancing in heels can take more energy than it seems. Getting to the stockings, do not rush to take them off immediately. Slowly unfasten each clasp on the garter belt, but do not remove it yet (this can be done at any time after).
We have already mentioned above how to take off stockings. To summarize: the main thing is to do it sitting and slowly.
Bra
It is better to take it off following a clear sequence of actions. To begin with, you can lower the straps from your shoulders - this will serve as a signal for the man that now the bra will disappear from the battlefield, which means that he will again focus his attention on you if he suddenly managed to get bored while you were pulling off the stockings. You can squeeze your chest in your hands, lift it, lean close to your partner's face. When unfastening the clasp, it is better to turn your back on the man so that he can observe the process from all sides (except if the clasp is located in front). After unbuttoning the bustier on the back, holding the cups on the chest, turn to face him again. After that, you can play with the breasts a little more and finally throw the bodice into the far corner of the room or into the lap of a man.
Panties
The most long-awaited and desired part of the show. Now only this piece of clothing separates you from sex with a partner. You can remove them yourself by lowering them to your knees and then stepping over them first with one and then with the other foot. And you can leave this part to the conscience of the man. He will be happy to take part in the process of your exposure.
4. Choose the right music
Music creates most of the atmosphere, is responsible for the mood and pace with which you take off your clothes and generally move. Choose smooth, melodic compositions and form a playlist of them in advance so that in the midst of the dance you do not have to frantically flip through a hundred tracks in search of the desired melody.
By the way, during the rehearsal you will be able to find out approximately how long it will take you to undress, but it is better to make a playlist with a margin. It's even better to loop it so that after the last song is played, it starts over.
Then sex, if you lead everything to it, will take place to the music, and this also changes a lot.
5. You are unlikely to look funny, so there is nothing to be afraid of
Feeling shy, constrained and afraid of being laughed at is completely normal. But, if we are talking about striptease, such emotions are better thrown aside, and here's why.
Striptease is not only a dance way to get rid of clothes, it is also a process of seduction, it is an opportunity to demonstrate your beauty, confidence and sexuality. Remember that you are dancing for your partner, husband, beloved man. He has probably seen you naked more than once, so the sight of your naked body will definitely not make him laugh. And the movements that you will do, even more so, because he will be fascinated by your beauty and courage. Of course, you are afraid that something might go wrong: you will get tangled in your own panties, trip or lose your balance. Even if this happens (and it will not happen if you follow our advice), then do not lose your temper and continue as if it never happened.
