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14 Sexy, Discreet Secrets to Grind with a Guy & Get Him Hard in Seconds

Learn how to grind with a guy and make him go from 0 to 100 in seconds. The key? Learn without making it totally obvious what your aim is!

Whenever we think of the art of grinding, we usually associate it with adolescents. But in reality, it’s something that all of us use all the time. As a girl, there’s a thin line between being classy and being crass. Of course, you can outrightly grind with any guy you like, but do you really want to be so obvious about it?! Instead, learn how to grind with a guy discreetly and in the sexiest manner and see where it goes!

If you want to grind with a guy and look good while doing it, you need to know a few things to do it the right way. And most importantly, never be too obvious when you’re trying to grind with a guy, otherwise It’ll just make you seem too easy to get.

[Read: Easy lay – 18 casual things you do that make guys think you’re easy to sleep with]

What is grinding anyway?

Now all of us know this, but for the uninitiated girls, grinding is the art of moving your butt around a guy’s crotch, especially while dancing with him. Sounds quite bold, yes, but it’s something that comes naturally between opposite sexes when they’re aroused by each other.

Many girls wonder about the right way to grind and look good while doing it. But understanding how to grind with a guy needs no lessons. You can do it any way you like and the guy will still love it.

But what matters is how easy you’re going to play and give in to a guy’s crotch. [Read: 33 sexy ways to seduce a man who’s not yet yours and hook him hard]

Can grinding ever be subtle?

Grinding doesn’t need to be full-on pornographic. There are ways to learn how to grind with a guy and not make everyone else see what you’re doing.

Of course, you can grind away in public if you’re subtle enough but if you’re in private? You grind away, girl, and don’t care whether you’re being subtle or not!

But, if you are in a club or bar and you’re grinding up a storm, you can be subtle by making your moves slow, small, and perhaps sitting or standing behind a booth or some kind of divider. That way, it’ll just look like you’re dancing and he’ll be able to enjoy what you’re doing. [Read: 25 secrets to seduce before a kiss and turn a guy on while kissing him]

Why might grinding be a bad thing?

Learning how to grind with a guy is all fine and no, it’s not bad! But, if you’re in public and you’re all out grinding on a guy’s lap, especially a guy you don’t know so well, it may be perceived as being “too much” by the guy or those around you.

Does it matter to you? That’s up to you.

But, if you want this dalliance to turn into more than just a one night stand, be very careful with the grinding action you indulge in. [Read: How to be more sexual and fall in love with the sexy side of you]

Of course, if you’re with the guy and you’re both out for a night in the club, you can dance with your man and grind on his lap all you want. You’re together and you know where you stand. But, if you’ve just met this guy and you don’t want to give him the impression that you’re easy, tread carefully.  

Should we have to have this conversation? Hell no! But, we all know that’s the way of the world. But, if it doesn’t matter to you or you’re not interested in more with this guy, make your own choices and do whatever you want to do. It’s your life at the end of the day and you know who you are! [Read: How to hook up with a guy for the night and do it the right way]

How to grind with a guy and arouse him

If you want to know how to grind with a guy, arouse him, and feel great doing it, here are a few tips that can make all the difference between a hard-to-get girl and an easy-to-get girl.

1. Get a girlfriend to dance with you

Dancing alone makes the whole grinding game rather obvious. To start off, dance with your girlfriend and make it seem like you’re not really noticing any guy.

Soon enough, you’ll have a few cute guys dancing around waiting for your attention. [Read: How to get any guy’s attention no matter where you are]

2. Dance next to the guy you like

But don’t even bother looking at him just yet. Watch him from the corner of your eye and see if he’s been noticing you. Or if you want to grind with some guy who hasn’t noticed you yet, just move along on the dance floor until you’re close to him.

3. Brushing time

Dance normally as you always do, but move really close to a guy you like and brush him with your butt *fake-accidentally, of course*.

Don’t try to get his attention just yet, don’t look at him, don’t smile at him, and don’t make it seem like you’re desperate to dance with him by staring and giggling at him.

Wait for him to do something or reciprocate. Right now, just make it seem like you’re dancing with your friend. But don’t stop the occasional butt brushing against him, let him feel your touch and want more of it. [Read: How to flirt by touch and all the subtle ways to seduce someone]

4. Touch him with your breasts

Grinding with a guy is the easy part. The tough part is to make it all seem discreet. As you’re dancing with your friend, move your shoulders around so your breast touches his arm now and then.

Does he notice your accidental touch? Does he smile or does he move closer to you? If he notices it and tries to get your attention, flash a small cute smile back at him and let him know that you’ve noticed him.

But don’t do it too obviously, and avoid letting him know that your touches were intentional. [Read: 25 tips to look really cute in front of a guy]

5. Drop your hands

Keep your hands by your sides as you’re dancing and let them hover near his butt and legs. He’d obviously start moving about a lot more just to get more of your touches.

Always keep your body or hands really close to a guy, but avoid making the first touch if you want to make him work for your attention. [Read: Sexual flirting – How to step up from regular flirting and naughty it]

6. Dance by his side

Move along the dance floor so you’re dancing by his side. You don’t need to stand in front of him to grind a guy just yet.

Just build the sexual tension up by letting your hands and hips touch each other often. But as before, don’t give him too much attention just yet. Just have fun with your own friend who’s dancing with you. [Read: Why guys like a good chase and how to use this secret in your favor]

7. Let the fingers touch

Let your fingers touch his fingers as both of you dance beside each other. And when your fingers do touch his, don’t move them away but don’t do anything about it either.

It’ll drive him crazy and all he’d want to do is clasp it. He may even try that!

8. Step in front of him

Once you’ve had a lot of body touches going on and he’s constantly trying to look for ways to touch you, it’s time to get to the part where you grind with the guy discreetly and subtly.

By teasing him long enough, you would be able to arouse him and make him work for your attention instead of being too easy to get which is always a good thing. It’ll make him want you more too!

Step in front of him and move your pelvis around so your butt is constantly touching his thigh. This will be his cue to come close behind you. If he’s shy, a few *accidental* touches on his crotch with your butt while dancing will definitely do the trick. [Read: When a guy touches you on a body part – How to decode his intentions]

9. Move your butt around

Once he’s right behind you, get really close to him and press your butt gently against his crotch.

Sway around and dance like you always do, but pay more attention to swaying your hips around so you can feel his pants tighten behind you.

10. Don’t move too fast

If you want to be subtle when grinding with a guy, you need to move slowly. Moving your butt in small circles is the best way, or swaying from side to side. That way, it just looks like you’re dancing.

He won’t know whether you’re being intentional or not and that’s the vibe you’re going for.

If you push your butt back too far and lean into him too hard, there’s going to be no mistaking what your game is. Keep it small and on the right side of the line.  [Read: How to give a sexy lap dance he’ll never ever forget]

11. Drop your hands to the side

If the guy isn’t placing his hands on your hips already, drop your hands down or run them down your hips now and then as you sway your hips. Even better if you can get your hands to drop down and touch his fingers often.

You’ll arouse him so much that all he’ll want to do is hold your hips or your hands and come even closer while you move your butt all over his crotch.

And really, that’s all there is to grinding and making it seem like the guy is doing all the work!

While a club may be the best place to grind with a guy, you can also discreetly grind with a guy at concerts or even in crowded queues. It’s easy and fun, if you’re in the right mood! [Read: The 30 best subtle, obvious and really sexy flirting moves girls can use to arouse a guy]

Grinding tips to arouse a guy

If you’re grinding with a guy and want to turn him on a lot more, all you need to do is use these three little tips to drive him wild.

1. Stand in front of him as you’re dancing. Raise one hand and place it behind his neck while grinding with him. [Read: How to make out with a guy and secrets to make him explode in his pants]

2. Slip your thumb into his jeans or just under his belt when he’s behind you. Guide his hand to hold you around your waist or just under your breasts.

3. Graze your butt against his crotch until you feel him harden up. Turn around and get your pelvis as close to him as you comfortably want to. [Read: 6 tips to get a guy to kiss you when you want him to]

Don’t be afraid to try!

A lot of the time, it’s just confidence that holds us back. You might really like a guy and get the vibe that he’s looking your way, but you’re not confident enough to make the first move.

These tips will help you do that without making it seem super-obvious. Plus, he’ll have no doubts in his mind by the end that you like him, and want him too! 

You’ve done it all subtly and kept him guessing. What happens next is up to you!

[Read: How to kiss a guy well – 21 secrets to arouse him with your very first kiss]

Now that you know how to grind with a guy sexily and discreetly, try these moves the next time you’re out clubbing. Sometimes, making a guy think he’s working for your attention even if you liked him first can be so much fun.

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It goes without saying that grinding against a dude on the dance floor or stroking his thigh under the table will get him horny. But aside from those obvious strategies, there are lots of effective, non-cheesy ways to make his heart race.

"Body language plays a prominent role in attraction because our response to it is subconscious," says T. Joel Wade, professor of psychology at Bucknell University. "Not only can your gestures and postures send subtle signals that you’re interested, but it can also help enhance your physical attractiveness." That's right, free makeovers!

"Just keep in mind that these behaviors have to appear normal and instinctive," says Wade. "People are very good at picking up on someone who’s trying to manipulate them."

Whether you’re trying to reel in a hot hookup or make your main squeeze look twice, practice these moves for powerful the results.

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Stroking your mane or tucking it behind your ear is a grooming gesture. On an unconscious level, it sends a guy the message that you’re preening yourself to become more appealing to him. Creepy, but hear us out: "In a nonobvious way, this lets him know that you’re interested," says Wade. But, again, it has to appear natural.

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Tilt your head to one side so that your neck is showing. "This is viewed as a sign of openness and warmth," says Wade. It also suggests submission, he says. That doesn't mean he'll think of you as the Anastasia to his Christian, but he'll know you're willing to engage with him.

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For added impact, wear an eye-catching necklace or earrings. According to David Givens, Ph.D., director of the Center for Nonverbal Studies, colorful jewelry attracts our primal brain. In his book, Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship, Givens writes that our eyes are designed to notice bright fruits and berries from a distance, so rocking a statement necklace "whets a desire to reach out and touch what seems to be edible." Yum.

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Channel your inner Kylie Jenner. Givens’ research reveals that couples push out their lips during courtship to display harmlessness and availability. So #DuckLips really do work?

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Let a guy know you want him to approach by trying this sneaky trick. "Make brief eye contact, look away, and quickly look back and raise both your brows," says Wade. "It’s interpreted as a signal of interest, yet rarely registered consciously."

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Opening up your body posture communicates that you’re friendly and approachable, says Wade. So put your hands on your hips or let your arms drop to your sides to reel that dude in.

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Bonus: If you’re talking to a guy you dig, square off your chest with his so that your upper bodies are aligned. Givens’ research found that coordinating the angle of your torsos shows that you're feeling him.

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Here’s a tip for your Tinder pic: To maximize your profile’s lustworthiness, lift your face upwards when snapping a selfie. When a guy sees a woman for the first time via photo, he'll find her face more attractive if it's pointed slightly up instead of down, says Wade.

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In addition to making your legs appear longer and leaner, heels cause your pelvis to tilt at a 45-degree angle, says Wade. Apparently, this makes your waist-to-hip ratio appear smaller. Some studies suggest this triggers a positive response among dudes, and Wade says it helps engage the pleasure center of the male brain.

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It also helps to do a lap around the room, rather than staking out a single spot by the bar, according to Givens’ research. Moving from the table to the bathroom to the dance floor conveys that you’re available and down to mingle.

90,000 12 life hacks, to quickly learn how to dance from Mamita Dance


Author: Pavel Gather
Psychologist, Lecturer Salsa and Tango


Author: Pavel Pavel
Psychologist, Lecturer Salsa

on At the start, you always want to get a quick result. When it doesn't happen, the hypothesis arises that everything takes time. After a conditionally acceptable time, humility comes to mastering pair dances, which, perhaps, is not given, and I will just do what I learned somehow.

This is the most common story of those who believe that the mere act of attending a pair dance class is enough to learn how to dance.
Absolutely not. If you want to really dance well, you have to make an effort outside of the dance class. A good teacher will definitely be needed, but the initiative should be on your side.

1. Listen to music

The most common and accessible advice that is given already in the first lessons. And it definitely works. Music creates a certain atmosphere of the dance and intuitively you want to move to it. It doesn't matter where you listen to music - in the car, on headphones while walking or doing household chores.

An addition that will help you dance better is your active participation in the music. Sing along, dance or simply beat musical accents with any free parts of the body. In the subway, for example, it is enough to tap out bright moments with your fingers, in the car to sing along with sounds, and at home you can jump for pleasure.

2. Watch videos of good dancers

It's complicated, but also obvious. It’s more difficult, because without recommendations from more experienced dancers, unfortunately, it’s not so easy to find a good quality video on the net (I mean not the resolution quality, but the content itself).

Meaningful video viewing is about building an understanding of HOW dancers make a particular impression on a partner or viewer. Technology is at the heart of everything. Understanding how the pros do it is a big step forward.

It is important to distinguish a show from a disco dance, a staged performance from an improvisation, a stylized dance from an authentic one, etc. Ask for recommendations and dance teachers will always throw off a couple of videos of worthy landmarks.

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3. Dance in salsatecas/milongas/discotheques

A very delicate moment when it is worth coming to the first party. From a technical point of view, most students in 1-3 months have a sufficient set of figures and techniques to come and dance calmly. Psychologically, the same moment can be stretched out for an indefinite time. After all, it is imperative to “not lose face”, “learn more figures” and be sure what to do in case “there is an unfamiliar movement”.

In fact, the partygoers don't really care (except for a small layer of non-professional teachers who want to help inexperienced dancers by treating them as customers in the future). It is important to come and try dancing after a month of classes. You can only with friends or guys from your group. This will be enough to feel the adrenaline and inspiration from the dance.

4. Dance with partners or partners not of your level

The conventional wisdom that you need to practice in groups of your level does not withstand the test of experience. Perhaps now your eyes widened in surprise, and you want to meaningfully read the phrase again. Yes, you saw everything correctly: when you dance with a partner of your level, you don’t grow anywhere.

It's important to understand that not only does it work one way and you have to dance with cooler dancers, but it works even more effectively the other way. It is no coincidence that teaching pair dances dramatically raises the level of the teacher himself. You have an endless stream of very beginner dancers.

How it works. A more experienced partner needs to be "stretched". It's easy and obvious. With beginners, you need to take more initiative on yourself, see the general pattern of the dance more widely, turn on and insure more, try to be an example and be more careful. The quality of interaction begins to grow significantly. And wonderful partners too.

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5. Learn to dance for a partner and for a partner

Turks and Argentines are one of the best partners in the world. In Russia, partners are highly valued. Why? The answer is simple. In Argentina and Turkey, it is not questionable for men to ask another man to lead in one piece or another and give feedback on the quality of the lead. For them, it will be a great shame to hear moralizing from a partner, or even more so to be known in the community as an insecure partner.

In Russia, due to the constant, often far-fetched, opinion that there are more women in pair dances, partners calmly get up and study their partner's part. Such partners then grow into very cool dancers and teachers. In no case do this at parties, only in class. Here we are talking only about the learning strategy. At parties, be yourself.

6. Do not memorize the links

Always try to look deeper and understand the through principle and idea of ​​movement. Understanding what and how is done will make it possible to independently generate any sequences and chips.

Human memory is limited and there will always be a moment when something will escape and your repertoire will be limited by the size of RAM.

In Argentine tango, for example, there are seven levels of movement construction that, when mastered, will allow you to make millions of combinations. And how many dance sequences can you really remember? In rueda, more than 150 figures dance in a rare circle. It's hard to keep more in mind.

7. Develop your body

Many years of experience in teaching couple dance shows that as soon as everyone pairs up in a class, any progress in individual style ends. But it is the individual style that distinguishes everyone at the disco: partners change, and style is always with you.

The body as the main instrument of dance must be very plastic, responsive and emotional. Surprisingly, not all pair dance schools have a general physical warm-up. It is vital to tune the body and understand how it works.

You can always train extra and concentrate more on the basic steps, as their true value is as body work. The sequence of steps is, in fact, the simplest thing that can be in pair dancing. The quality of individual performance determines the craftsmanship.

8. Try on the images of inspiring dancers

A psychological life hack for those who have already mastered the steps, but still feel that there is not enough brightness and drive. Most are terribly afraid of being someone else's "clone". Here the action is the same as under the influence of hypnosis - the more you resist, the more you plunge into an altered state of consciousness.

With a high degree of probability, you are already dancing like someone else's "clone". A meaningful fitting of someone else's image is that you mentally take the image of the one who inspires you (inspiration is critical in this case) and "put on" yourself. Then you start dancing and trying to feel in general how it is to be able, for example, to be the best partner or the sexiest partner in a disco. This is much more difficult than it seems. But it works extremely efficiently.

9. Dance to offbeat music

Habitual rhythms keep you tight. Tango salon or speedy timba leave little room for experimentation and fantasy. Pattern dancing is always noticeable and is reserved for beginners.

The truly new is born outside of the usual. Look for places to experiment. If there is no place, organize self-training. The main thing is not to get carried away, because music determines the style. We bring something new to pair dances, rather than trying to change them.

Search, improvise, don’t be afraid to go beyond, develop in different directions, be inspired by music atypical for the style

10. Try your hand at basic dance directions

dances exist according to their own non-choreographic laws.

This is the deepest delusion, which has turned into a ceiling for the qualitative development of partner dances. After all, all professional dancers, for example, in salsa or bachata, build their ideas on the basic choreographic principles.

Do not think that choreography is only applicable on stage. Any meaningful movement of the body can be choreographic. In general, try classical or modern choreography. Basically, hip-hop can work too.

11. Look for battle sensations

Pair dances return us to an active position of manifestation of our body. As in the days of our ancient ancestors, we impress the members of the opposite sex by how dexterous, hardy, sexy, etc. we are. Modern laws of the jungle in the entourage of big cities.

If you look around the dance floor, it becomes clear that the majority are clearly herbivores (not in the sense of vegetarians, but in relation to those around them). I am sure that predators are always more interesting in terms of the attractiveness of the image - try to find a counterbalance among herbivores, for example, a cat woman or a lion man.

The conversation is about an internal position, not about aggressiveness. Lability and lack of control are inherent in adolescents, and not in adult self-sufficient people.

Accordingly, even a training or friendly battle gives, on the one hand, practical skills - to make a bright sequence of movements, bring an idea to a climax, show a spectacular feature, on the other hand, develops the psychological basis of the dance - self-confidence, resistance to extraneous attention, self-control and self-control in complex elements.

12. Communicate with professionals

The environment shapes the internal position. Basically, real passionaries of the dance community are ready to openly talk, discuss and support the development of dance in every possible way. Universal principles and the ideas they articulate have a much longer and more practical perspective than meets the eye.

Accept that, for example, behind the words "listen to your partner" is not only a beautiful metaphor, but also a practical skill to literally listen to your partner. At the same time, always treat every thought, even the most respected teacher, as a private opinion.

Your skill will lie in finding the scope of the idea even in conflicting opinions. Most often, the contradiction is speculative and the truth lies in the angle of perception or situationality.

Your dancing growth will stop sooner or later. This can happen at the level of three basic steps or years of experience in teaching and show performances. Regardless of your level, the suggested 12 life hacks can get you off the ground and greatly accelerate your dance growth. There is no way here without your motivation and activity. Take your dance development into your own hands. 9Ol000 Dangerous sexuality

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How to make him dance to your tune. Rules for raising a henpecked

Do you want to manipulate a man? These tips will help carry out the mission at ease, easily, effortlessly. So, here are the rules for getting your boyfriend to dance to your tune.

No scandals. Only emotional blackmail

The next time he refuses to take out the trash, pick you up from your girlfriend, go grocery shopping, say "I'll do it myself."

But say it in such a way that he understands that if he doesn’t take out the garbage, then there will be no sex, and football on TV, that from your girlfriend you will not go home, but to a nightclub, well, how fate will turn out there. If he loves and appreciates, but is just lazy, then he will fulfill your requests, if not ... then you definitely need him?

Mom will know His. Attract to your side his beloved mother. Not all mothers-in-law are witches and bitches. They, too, were once in your shoes. Talk to her heart to heart one on one over a glass or two of bitter tincture. Make your mother-in-law your ally. Then he will dance. Mom is the most powerful authority in men, so that they do not speak. Does your husband disagree with your views, interests? Tell mom! If mom also starts a tear, wringing her hands like an actor ... He will definitely go crazy. The thought that the most important women in his life were allies...would be unsettling to him. He will do everything, like a little one, now he won’t get away from you anywhere. Remember: men, even over 50, will not argue with their mother. Mom is sacred.

No earrings - No dinner

“The Way to the Heart of the Men lies through the stomach” works 100%. Cook him the most incredible dinner. Fried meat, oysters, herring with vodka. Boiled potatoes with onions. What else does he love? And when his stomach is full, and thoughts stop tossing and turning, go on the offensive. Tell us how you need a new dress from a Russian designer for unjustified money, how you dream of going to the sea in new earrings and red sandals . .. Unbutton your negligee and bring another glass of vodka. At this point, it will be difficult for him to refuse you.

It's not me! It's all these days!

If suddenly you…. they beat the car ... God forbid, of course ... Then shout! Roar, smearing mascara on your cheeks, beat the dishes, tear the bra on your chest. Then you will say that female biology is to blame for everything and ... these days. Most likely he will forgive you. But you are unlikely to get the keys to the car again. The main thing here is that you averted trouble from yourself. But it is better not to repeat this method often. Men don't like hysterics.

Shed a tear

There is no PMS and screaming… Tears are a time-tested female psychological weapon. Use this technique when you are sure that your apology will not help save the situation. Without any "Oh everything. " She sat down and groaned softly.

Most men stop attacking if they see tears rolling down their cheeks. At this moment, only one question revolves in the young man’s head: “What am I doing? My star is crying, my God, what am I doing? Your partner will feel guilty if tears are a response to his words. Even if he still thinks he is right, your pathetic appearance will make him stop the pressure. Don't cry often. Men don't like crybabies.

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Why waste time talking about overdue bills or making excuses to him for big expenses? Just rip off his clothes and send him to the seventh heaven. After dizzying carnal pleasures, men become more accommodating.

Love will save the world

Do not use these tricks too often. Moderation is good everywhere. Men are not as stupid as you think. He will figure out the tricks and quit.

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