How to dance in marriage

5 Basic Dance Steps for Wedding that Everyone Should Know — Duet Dance Studio Chicago

Knowing some simple basic dance steps is helpful to anyone, whether you are preparing for a wedding, prom or social event. The tutorial videos below show you some of the most versatile basic dance steps for wedding. Instead of rocking side to side with your partner, impress your special someone with these simple yet fun dance steps at your next event!

1. The Side Basic

This basic dance step is easy to master and works great with 80% of the songs they play at weddings and parties. You can dance it slowly to slower songs or speed it up for songs with faster tempo. Not only can you dance this step with a partner, you can also use it as a solo dance move! The key is to dance to the beat and move your feet rhythmically. Practice this a lot until you don't have to think about it.


2. The Right Turn

Once you have mastered the side basic, you can surprise your partner with a simple right turn. This turn is an extension from the side basic. Footwork is the same for the leader. The key is to signal your partner at the right time and lead with confidence. 


3. The Waltz Box Step

What do you do when a romantic waltz song comes on at a wedding? Learn this simple waltz box step and "sweep your partner off her feet!" Surprisingly, you might already know the wedding waltz basic. Remember the PE ballroom dance class you took way back when you were in grade school? Does the Box Step sound familiar to you? The waltz box step is one of the most versatile and most taught basic dance steps in partner dancing. Let's take a little refresher course on the box step here!


4. The Under Arm Turn

One of the most exciting things about partner dancing is that you get to turn your partner. And who doesn't like to turn? The Under Arm Turn we are showing you below is an extension from the Waltz Box. It's a graceful turn that will not only impress your partner but also the onlookers!



The Dip

Lastly, no dance is complete without a fancy dip! Many people are afraid of this move. In fact, it is a fairly safe move if you understand the correct posture and body positions for this pose. Watch this tutorial and learn to dip your partner safely and gracefully. 

What is your favorite dance step for weddings? Please comment below. And if you'd like to learn more dance moves for your wedding, click the button below.

Online Wedding Dance Lessons

The Duet Team is a group of friendly dancers who are passionate about helping people and sharing the joy of ballroom dance. And we love to make new friends and have fun at work! Duet Dance Studio is located in Chicago West Bucktown. We offer ballroom dance lessons, wedding dance instruction and private dance parties. Online Wedding Dance Lessons and Skype dance lessons are also available! Dances we teach include Salsa, Swing, Tango, Bachata, Merengue, Waltz and Foxtrot. Sign up for an introductory dance lesson now to get started!

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How to Plan Your Wedding Dances, According to an Expert

Sure, most weddings involve attendees boogieing down on the dance floor. There’s hardly a better way to celebrate a new union. But many weddings also include special, traditional dances that spotlight honored guests.

There's the first dance, where the couple takes their first spin on the dance floor. During the parents’ dance, the couple enjoys a special moment with the people who raised them. Lesser known is the anniversary dance, which salutes couples who have been married the longest and the money dance where guests surround the couple and slip cash to them.

Even couples who love to dance can find it intimidating to think through traditional dances. Should they wing them or perform a choreographed routine? Will older guests cherish the anniversary dance or feel put on the spot? We asked Reba Browne, who helps run a wedding choreography business, to answer your most pressing questions.

Meet the Expert

Reba Browne is the Assistant Director at Ajna, a New York City-based dance company that specializes in South Asian dance and helps couples and their family and friends prepare their wedding dances.

Read on to find out how to pull off the wedding dances seamlessly.

Steps to Planning the Wedding Dances

Choose your wedding dances.

Not every couple opts to stage every wedding dance at their reception. Decide which ones are important a few months in advance so there is enough time to prepare.

Book your choreographer.

Many couples want to perform a unique routine designed by a professional. “While it’s obvious that everybody has a different learning curve, we always recommend starting early since things can get crazy as the weddings get closer,” says Browne. “We also want people to feel confident and comfortable performing which comes with practice. We recommend starting 2-3 months before the big day.”

Reach out to involved participants.

If you want the parents’ dance or the anniversary dance at your wedding give involved participants ample time to practice and choose their music.

Choose your music and prepare your band or DJ.

Choose the music you want for each different wedding dance, then make sure your band or DJ is equipped to play it for you.


“I hate to say it but the most important thing is to practice,” said Browne. “The less you have to think about the steps and remembering the choreography, the more you’ll truly enjoy performing and adding in the extras like smiling.”

Have fun. 

On the day of the wedding everyone’s there because they love you and are celebrating your big day,” says Browne. “So at that point don’t worry about the steps and just enjoy performing. No one else knows the choreography but you, so as long as you smile and have fun, you’ll be a hit.”

Wedding Dance FAQs and Etiquette

How many traditional wedding dances are there?

There are four main ones: the first dance, the parents’ dance, the anniversary dance, and the money dance. Different cultures and religions also have their own customs like the hora, a traditional circle dance performed at Jewish weddings or the raas garba, a night of folk dances that takes place before Indian weddings.

Who participates in traditional wedding dances?

There are some general rules. The first dance, for example, is performed by the couple. The parents’ dance is performed by them and their parents (the traditional father-daughter dance now usually includes both parents, hence the name.) The anniversary dance can include the longest-married couple in attendance or all the couples married over a specified number of years. The most inclusive wedding dance is the money dance; all wedding guests are invited to participate.

Browne has seen couples include wider groups in their traditional dances. “We've seen a trend that includes a slow dance by the couple that turns into a high energy Bollywood/Bhangra performance that includes family and friends and the bridal party,” she says.

When do the wedding dances take place?

While some couples like to start the reception with the first dance and the parents’ dances, others opt to spread them throughout the reception. The money dance (also called the dollar dance or the apron dance) is usually performed at the end of the reception. That way guests can symbolically send the couples off into a happy future.

Regardless of when the wedding dances take place, the key is to keep them short and sweet. “You want to leave your audience wanting more,” says Browne.

The Ultimate Guide to Wedding Music

Is it required to do all the wedding dances?

“They are definitely not mandatory,” explains Browne. “But we think couples should at least consider incorporating dances since they are vibrant and festive and bring joy to the celebration.”

What do guests do during the dances?

Some of the wedding dances invite participation. All guests, for example, can join in the money dance, and many older couples can show off their moves during the anniversary dance. During the parents’ dance and the first dance, it’s customary for guests to watch as spectators until they are invited to join on the dance floor.

Browne has seen more guests get involved in traditional wedding dances. “With more interracial and mixed weddings, we've seen lots of couples opt to include dance lessons to kick of the festivities but also teach their friends and family some Bollywood and Bhangra dance moves that they can perform or just use when they're on the dance floor,” she says. “It's a lot of fun.”

Do the dances have to be choreographed?

Absolutely not. While some couples like to have a choreographed routine for the first dance (also some parents like to have it for the parents' dance), it is not obligatory. It can be just as meaningful to watch a freshly married couple slow dance slowly together than have them twist and turn and leap. For Browne, regardless of whether the dance is choreographed, it’s important to remember that “less is more,” she said. “Make sure to create choreography that suits your personal style and is not overly complex or daunting.”

What music is played during the wedding dances?

The couple and the people they are dancing with get to choose the music. Some people pick songs that are meaningful to them (perhaps it was playing during their first date or a father used to sing a song to his daughter when she was younger?) Remember to keep it tasteful and a song to which you are comfortable dancing. Pick a song you really connect with,” suggests Browne. “You’ll have to listen to it a million times over the course of your lessons.” 

Read "The Rules. How to Marry the Man of Your Dreams" - Sherry Schneider, Ellen Fayne - Page 4

Now that you've learned the part, start acting. Men love women. Don't act like a man, even if you run your own company. Let the men open the door for you. Stay a woman. Don't make sarcastic jokes. Don't laugh at jokes by slapping your knees with your hands. This is how you can treat your friends. But with a man, you should be calm and mysterious, behave like a true lady, sit cross-legged and smile. Don't talk too much. Wear black sheer tights and lift your skirt up to seduce the opposite sex! Perhaps such proposals will offend you. You will say that they suppress your intellect and vibrant personality. Maybe you even feel that you are no longer yourself. But men will love it!

Don't be cynical and depressed. Don't talk about those who hurt you or humiliated you. Don't make a potential husband a savior or therapist. Act like a completely happy person. Don't tell everything about yourself. Say "thank you" and "please". Act like a lady with waiters, porters and even taxi drivers. And then it will be easier for you to be a true lady on a date.

If you've never met men by chance, go somewhere: dancing, tennis (even if you don't play tennis), clubs. Be in different places - show yourself! Post a profile on a dating site, communicate with people. Don't be afraid to go to a singles night, believing that the men who go to such events are not your type. Remember: you don't need a bunch of men of your type - you only need one! Never forget about it. And then you will forget about those sad days when you were convinced that true love would never come to you!

Finally, trust this process. You may not meet a husband once you get in shape, buy nice clothes, and try The Rules on three available men. Perhaps your time has not yet come. But from personal experience we can say:

If you continue to act according to the "Rules" at every opportunity and be patient, you will definitely meet the man of your dreams and marry him.

Rule #1

Become "a woman like no other"

Become like no one else in your state of mind. And you don't have to be super smart to do it. And you don't have to be born with this feeling. It can be learned, it can be trained, it can be perfected, just like any other rule in this book.

To become like no one else, you need to develop a special feeling in yourself, a feeling of confidence and radiance that would permeate you from head to toe. This feeling manifests itself in your smile (it lights up the whole room), in the pauses between sentences (no need to chatter and show your nervousness), the ability to listen (attentively), look (calmly, not intently), breathe (slowly), stand (straight) and walk (confidently, with deployed shoulders).

It does not matter that you are not a beauty queen, have not studied at the university and are not up to date with the latest events. You can still consider yourself perfect! You can become more confident than a woman with an MBA and a huge bank account. You don't need to grovel. You do not need to despair and worry. You don't have to date men who don't want you. You believe in the abundance and goodness of the universe. If not this man, then another, even better. You are not nervous. You don't hunt. You don't use sex to make men love you. You believe in love and marriage. You are not a cynic.

You don't get upset when a relationship breaks down. You just get a manicure and go on a new date or to a singles party. You are an optimist.

You wipe away a tear so it doesn't ruin your makeup and move on! Of course, these are not your true feelings . You are just pretending to feel that way. And over time, feigned feelings become real. You act as if. ..

On a date, you never show that you want to get married more than anything in the world. You are calm and cheerful. He will think that you have already turned down several offers. You take small sips - never drink in one gulp! – and let the man know something about you, not the other way around. Your answers are short, clear and seductive. Your gestures are gentle and feminine. As your hair falls over your face, you tilt your head back and use your fingers to comb your hair from the top of your head in slow, fluid motions.

All your movements - the way you excuse yourself to go to the ladies' room or look at your watch at the end of a date - are fluid and sexy. You can take care of yourself. You do not lie in bed in a black depression, do not eat cakes, nervous before a date. You just took a bubble bath, read this book, and felt some positive slogans:

- I am a beautiful woman. I am quite self-sufficient.

You told yourself that this date is just an acquaintance. A man will love you or not. If he doesn't call again, it's not your fault. You are beautiful inside and out. If this one doesn't love you, the other will. The main thing is to end the date first (see RULE #11).

When you go to a dance or singles party, cheer yourself up. Pretend to be a movie star. As you enter, keep your head high, as if you were stepping off the Concorde in Paris. You have come to this city for just one evening. If someone does not understand his own happiness, that's his problem!

Take a drink, such as Perrier water, even if you are not thirsty. The glass will keep your hands busy and you won't have to bite your nails or twist your hair around your finger. Don't show that you are nervous. That's all the salt. Act like everything is great, even if you just dropped out of college or got fired from your job. Walk confidently as if you know where you are going, even if just around the room. Move. Don't stand in the corner waiting for someone to come up to you. Men will catch you in motion.

If you don't consider yourself beautiful, if you think that other women are dressed better, feel freer and have a better figure, drive these thoughts away. Say to yourself:

- A man will be lucky if he meets me.

Keep this thought in mind until you believe it. If a man approaches you, smile at him and kindly answer his questions, trying not to say too much. You must be calm and a little mysterious. Make him want more, not languish in boredom. After a few minutes say:

– Perhaps I'll take a little walk.

Most women hang around men all evening, waiting for an invitation to dance. But you live by The Rules, and if a man wants to be with you or get your phone number, he will sneak across the room to find you. Do not offer him your pen or business card, do not make life easier for him. Do not take them with you in order to avoid temptation. The idea is for a man to do all the work. While he begs the waitress to bring him a pen, stand still. Tell yourself: "The rules" work!

It's very simple. You act according to the "Rules" and believe that one day the prince will notice that you are not like other women he knows and will ask for your hand!

Rule #2

Don't talk to a man first (and don't ask him to dance)

Never! Do not even allow yourself "let's have coffee" and "do you often come here?". Do not allow yourself even the most innocent phrases. Otherwise, how will you understand if he noticed you, was he struck in the heart, or just decided to be polite?

We know what you're thinking. We know how crazy that sounds these days. But, having studied all the "Rules", you will understand that there is a deep meaning in this. After all, the essence of The Rules is that we will never get what we want if we don't trust the natural order of things: a man should pursue a woman.

Get married at 68: “We had a wedding in the dance theater”

Let's start from the beginning - with the fact that we were born a long time ago, in the middle of the last century. Each of us, of course, had our own family histories, but marriages on both sides ended more than ten years ago. Both of us love our work and both are not indifferent to social life. And the meeting took place on the bridge - in my opinion, this is symbolic.

And one more classic detail: it was raining, and on the Nemtsov Bridge, where we have been regularly on duty for almost two years, it is always windy and cold. Our umbrellas connected in a small roof, and we had to snuggle up to each other. When we finally went to the subway, we looked rather miserable, but the more it caused a quivering desire to protect (at least, I was told so later).

We went to the same places on business and each time I got three red roses. By the way, I didn’t like it: the flowers bothered me all day, I even left them sometimes somewhere in a cafe. They talked only about trifles.

I would not say that it was a deliberate decision - rather, a gamble. I can't understand why I agreed

And then the day came when we had to part: he was going on a business trip, I was on vacation. Until the next meeting - a month or more. One night before departure. And then he said: “Well ... maybe, nevertheless, to me? And the rain again ... "And then I realized that today's "no" will be forever. I would not say that it was a deliberate decision - rather, a gamble. I can’t understand why I agreed, I didn’t have time to think.

Of course, we already knew that we had similar views, of course, we saw complete trust in each other's eyes, but the decision was the most unexpected for me. I didn't really dream about it. If you can believe the men, he also did not specifically seek.

We decided that this was simply proof of the existence of God. We just didn't resist nature. Nothing special, except that we are unbelievers.

And then sent tender letters, every day, In every locality he searched for the Internet, and I was already in Bulgaria, the sea and the sun occupied me more. But I invited him to come to me. It seemed to me that this was a deliberately unrealistic proposal, an on-duty gesture, something like a curtsy. It is thousands of kilometers away, and you have to fly without rest to Moscow, then to Burgas, then shake on the bus. I said and tuned in to a pleasant loneliness.

But he came.

To be honest, I was confused by this. Spending ten days with a practically unfamiliar man, housekeeping with him is a horror, this is not at all my forte! And he was excited about everything. He always wanted me to buy something. He is still ready to buy everything that I pay attention to.

We sang, danced, ran along the seashore. And everything was an event for us, everything was new, like the first time

Every day was different from the previous one. We had fun from the bottom of our hearts, and nothing special was needed for this: we sang, danced, ran along the seashore, walked around the night town. And everything was an event for us, everything was new, like the first time.

In general, we had to get used to and get used to each other at a frantic pace and in a limited space - but we did it.

In Moscow, the question arose of whom we would tell: events were developing rapidly. It was scary to confess - it seemed that it would violate our intimate space. It dragged on for several months. I tried to tell my friends, first those who live far away, in other cities and even countries.

The advice was different: make him a sponsor and keep a romantic relationship without a bed, immediately tell about your illnesses (“otherwise it’s somehow dishonest”). I realized that such decisions at any age are made independently.

We decided to invite our Moscow mutual friend to the restaurant. She heartily rejoiced for us - and from that moment we ceased to be afraid. They arranged a wedding at the dance theater - I study there on weekends. It is easier with artists: they play all their lives and therefore remain young and even children.

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