How to grind dance for girls

Girls, Learn How to Grind Dance In Minutes, Right Now!

This dance is simple, but its implications are not. It’s quite the package of contradictions: a public display of intimacy, a common sight that retains an air of taboo sexuality, a product of newfound sexual liberty that still perpetuates age-old heterosexual gender roles. Grinding exists wherever young people, pulsing music and alcohol intersect. You can witness it happening in house parties, concert venues, music festivals and clubs with flashing strobe lights. Now, gender roles, silent signals and awkward body-to-body interactions govern the dance floor.

Grinding is a form of dancing that is typically found at a club or a party where a man typically dances behind a woman while they both move their hips in the same circular motion.

Grinding can be a bit intimidating for girls. They may not know how to let a guy know they want to grind, where to put the guy’s hands, or how to move their hips. But don’t worry – grinding doesn’t have to be hard and you don’t have to get too intimate with your dance partner, especially if you don’t know him. If you want to know how to grind with sexiness, class, and style, just follow the next steps.

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*note that we’re discussing this type of dancing in the common heterosexual setting between a guy and a girl but this works in any couple situation, and we intend no discrimination or exclusion of anyone.

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Where did it start?

Grinding goes back to some cultures in the Caribbean. We can trace it back to hip-thrusting dance moves labelled as “whining,” “wining” or “djuking”.

but it is it’s adoption by the hip hop culture that brought this dance style to mainstream America. It eventually “moved to high school and middle school dances (especially proms) in the US and Canada where there have been cases of administrators attempting to ban it due to its explicit nature” as one Wikipedia entry noted.

“Everywhere, boys in baggy pants and girls in tight ones gripped each others’ hips, from the front or the rear, and pushed, pushed. Pairs of girls entwined thighs and swiveled low to the ground. Groups of dancers formed “freak trains,” lines of tightly pressed bodies undulating through space.

All the moves had two elements in common: hips and friction.” As this article on Education Week noted back in 2001.

In 2015, a high school principal in Maine cancelled school dances because of students’ dance moves and the, “culture of grinding,” reports CBS Boston. “It is by no means the students’ fault, but the dancing they have witnessed on MTV/VHS/movies involves primarily only sexually suggestive grinding,” Record explains in the letter.

A predecessor to grinding as a sexually charged high-contact social dance was “The Bump”, which was popular in the 1970s, in which the contact between partners generally involved the hips or buttocks of one dancer “bumping” those of the other dancer in temporary contact. Other predecessor elements of grinding may be attributed to the 1987 film Dirty Dancing, and the famous lambada dance which became famous in the 1980s that featured grinding actions.

One additional note to keep in mind is that grinding is a form of dance that overlaps with a multitude of genres. You’ll see hip hop fans grinding, but also on dance music festival grounds with Trap music, Dubstep, and many others sub-genres including EDM.

Time To Learn How To Grind

You need to learn to grind dance (sometimes people call it freak dance or freaking) if you want to be able to get a little freaky on the dance floor. If you’re a beginner and want to know how to grind with a guy, or how to grind with a girl, this is section is for you.

First and foremost we need to mention that sometimes this form of dance will lead to unwanted actions that would happen without the partner’s consent. Please make sure there’s a sort of agreement with the other person before proceeding with such a dance as it is quite intimate in nature as we have just discussed.

The beginning of the dance

Unless you already know the guy you want to dance with and he’s led you to the dance floor, you’ll have to approach the dance floor on your own first. But if you already have a guy, then you can skip this section. Start by dancing with a friend or two. Someone you trust and from your initial circle. Here, it’s all about doing your own thing and having a good time.

Even when you’ve found your target, avoid looking around desperately. Instead, you’ll make sure the guys see that you’re having a a great time and they’ll come to you. Positivity like this is infectious and you’ll want people who want to be with you on the dance floor. Add to the attraction by showing off your dance moves with your friends. Let the guys see how you can work your body, follow the rhythm and enjoy your time.

Move Closer

Found your guy? Great! Maybe it’s a good idea to lock eyes with him from across the room, this will show your interest without much effort (we’re pretty sure you know what we mean here). You’ll want to start moving closer to him, do it with the group altogether, that way it will look like a natural, gradual move, and nothing very creepy. Then, it will be a matter of waiting for him to come closer to you, too. If you lock eyes from across the room for one second and then one inch away from him the next, you won’t look cool. So avoid that.

Extra tips to keep in mind: move towards him during the course of a song, it looks better and more natural that way and avoid crowding the guy, so maybe your friends would follow but keep some distance.

At this point, some sort of physical move needs to be done.

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The Brushing Up

You should look at him and start some sort of interaction with him. Lock eyes with the guy, and maybe even give him a cute smile and then look away. Then, move even closer to him and let your body brush up against his, whether you’re facing him and touching him with your hands, or turning away form him and occasionally brushing up against him. This will communicate your interest and signal to the guy you intend to dance.

Begin The Grind Dance

Step in front of him so that you lock eyes and know you’re going to dance with each other. Spend a minute dancing in front of him, moving to the beat, and then slowly begin to turn so he can start dancing behind you and you can officially begin to grind.

First, you have to get in grinding position so step in front, facing away from him. Though you can mix it up once in a while, the typical grinding position is when a guy stands behind a girl. You can leave about a foot between your bodies and don’t have to get incredibly intimate to start grinding (especially if you don’t know him).

Next, both you should bend your knees so that you’re lower to the ground. If the guy is much taller than you, then you won’t have to bend your knees very much. If the guy isn’t much taller than you, however (happens if you’re wearing high heels for example) then you should bend your knees a bit further so he’s a bit above you.

Now it’s time to move your hips and butt in one continuous circular motion, continuing to move from side to side while moving your legs up and down just a bit while keeping your knees bent. If the guy knows what he’s doing, then his hips should find a similar rhythm to yours. Both your hips should be moving in the same direction to the beat of the music.

Feeling bold? Know the guy you’re dancing with? You can touch the guy’s front side with your butt as you move it from side to side. But you can also maintain your distance. There are no obligations, keep in mind this is your move, and the dance is under your control.

The next thing to do is to move your arms and chest to the beat of the music, rotating your arms and chest in the same fluid motion. Look ahead or slightly down as you continue to work your arms and chest while you move your hips. You can bring your arms down so they’re on your knees or near your waist, and wait for the guys hands to land on top of yours or around your waist as you continue to dance.

These are the basics in general. To help make things even more clear and give you extra pointers, we’re providing below some additional training:

Learn These 3 Simple Grinding Moves

Guys, These Important Secrets Are A Must-Know!

What about the guys? Most men are beginners and somewhat clueless when it comes to grinding on the dance floor. The video below will show you some secret moves that will have you grinding with the best of them!

Grinding can be very tasteful and not raunchy at all, dancing partners don’t have to be very touchy while grinding especially when they don’t know each other. Bottom line, respect each other and have fun!

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Say Bye to Being Shy By Learning to Do the Sensual Grind Dance

For learning grind dance, one needs to do away with inhibitions. Or on the contrary, if one is a shy individual, this type of dance can prove to be a fantastic ice breaker. Scroll down to know how to get those steps right!

Christine was always enthusiastic for dancing. She knew salsa, tango, cha cha and a few more styles. Her favorite was club dancing. She used to impress one and all with her dancing skills. There was however, one thing which she did not have in her dancing kitty. That was how to freak dance or do the grind dance. Seeing the people in a club doing the grind one day, she finally made the decision to learn it.

Has this happened to you? Did you feel something is amiss when you went to a club just because you did not know how to grind dance or what is called freak dancing? Well, that would not happen the next time you go as you would surely be getting to learn it through this text below!

Learn How to Grind Dance

Shall We Dance

You cannot do the grind if you are not with a partner. So when you go to a club or any place where you may do that, a partner is required. The fun begins after you get a partner.

Dirty Dancing, Part I

After you get a partner, get into the act and the position. Facing in the same direction, with the guy behind or in front (either ways), one individual’s groin should be in contact with the other’s butt. That is one of the basic things. Then you have to grind or rub your groin and hip area against your partner’s.

Dirty Dancing, Part II

Once you get in the groove, get some flattering and seductive moves in. It is time now to face your partner and straddle in each other’s laps. Ideally the girl supports her weight on the floor using her hands and the partner has to be standing directly behind. He holds her legs or feet up.

Dance with Me

Bending your knees and swaying rhythmically to the music is the next in the line up. Continue with the grinding motions, that is pressing together front to back and back to front. Eventually, the girl should make grinding moves around the crotch of the guy and follow a pattern. It could even be the case that the girl leads off, with hip movements and the guy follows.

These are the basic things involved in the process. It is just grinding or rather rubbing your pelvis and groin area onto your partner. There are, of course, variations where a chain of dancers either mixed or single sex dance to the tune or 2 dancers of the same-sex have a member of the opposite sex in between. In case you really want to build up more on how do you grid, here are some grind dancing tips.

Few Tips

Number 1

It is all in the hips my dear gals and guys, particularly for the girls. It is imperative to know how to move your hips in clockwise and counter clockwise movements to the music beats.

Number 2

Another important factor when it comes to grind dance is to pop your shoulders back and forth or up and down. That helps in regulating the beat of the song. It also allows to have better hip movements. Moreover, it is also imperative to keep your moves subtle to avoid coming across as vulgar or slutty or cheap.

Number 3

For a guy, if you ask a stranger to dance with you, it is better to begin standing behind the girl. A stranger would not normally want you to move in closer immediately. Thus, technically it is a better option to play it safe till you are sure that she does not mind and is liking it.

Number 4

A sure shot mantra to be a good grind dancer is to dance a little, move away from your partner. Again come back, do the grind, move away once more. Then do the front grind a bit and then again do the jog together with the guy behind! That will make you an instant hit on the dance floor and will also show that you respect your partner!

All in all, you cannot be shy to learn this dance form. You need to have that spunk in you and one has to be comfortable with such a concept! That is where the last thing comes in and that is to enjoy dancing in this manner! I say adios for now! Meanwhile you go and have a hearty grind!

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Psychologists found out which dance moves women are most attractive




Psychologists have found out which of the female dance movements seem to be the most attractive to others. To interest potential partners, you need to focus on the movements of the hips and have a sense of rhythm. The main thing is not to overdo it.

Dancing originated in ancient times and became an integral part of the culture - ritual, sports, ballroom. Dancing is also a way to attract the attention of potential partners. No wonder one of the first sexologists, Ellis Havelock, defined dance as "the virtuosic development of the sexual impulse."

Experts from Northumbria University in the UK tried to find out which of the female dance movements seem to be the most attractive to others.

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They published the results of their work in the journal Scientific Reports .

The researchers used motion capture technology - a special suit with sensors is put on a person, the data from which is recorded by cameras and converted into a three-dimensional model on a computer. They recorded the women's dance moves and created faceless models based on them, which they then demonstrated to the men and women participating in the study. Participants in the study had to rate the attractiveness of the movements.

The highest marks were given to swaying the hips and the ability to move to the beat of the music.

“We also found that asymmetrical movements are more attractive,” adds psychologist Nick Neave, lead author of the study.

Dancers were 39 women aged 18-30. Faceless 3D models were created in order to eliminate the participants' interest in the appearance of the dancers and to achieve an assessment solely of the movements themselves. The judges were 57 men and 143 women, all heterosexual and adults. They had to rate the 15-second videos on a scale of 1 to 7 points.

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The results, says Neave, show that some movements are equally attractive to both men and women.

This is consistent with the idea that dance sends certain signals to both sexes. “Yes, women dance to impress men, but also to show other women how good they are,” he says.

The choice of certain dance moves can communicate something to potential partners or rivals.

"The way you move is closely related to your health, hormonal status, personality, and possibly intelligence and creativity," says Neave.

The team concluded that the movements of the hips and arms are perceived as distinctly feminine, and the asymmetry of movements speaks of health. “We think this is a demonstration of good motor control,” says Neave. The main thing is not to overdo it: if asymmetrical hip movements, hand gestures and pelvic swaying attracted attention, then asymmetrical arm movements and excess or lack of hip movement were considered a sign of inexperience.

Although dance moves have varied greatly in the past, Neave points out that some elements are common to all times and cultures. “Whatever the music, if someone catches the rhythm, then he is a good dancer,” he believes.

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However, not everyone agrees with him.

“The dancers and the people who judged the movements were limited to only one culture, the Western,” says Bronwyn Tarr, dancer and researcher of dance and human evolution at Oxford.

- In other cultures, such as the Wodabe people of Nigeria, men dance marriage dances. So the appeal of dance moves is to some extent due to the cultural context too.”

But, she adds, the work done is related to a large body of research on the role of dance in finding a partner. “Such studies help build a more complete picture of how we, like many birds and other animals, can use dance to attract members of the opposite sex,” Tarr says. "Based on this 'Western' study, for example, one can deduce something concrete: the hips don't lie."

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