How to dance girl

How to Dance At A Basic "Good Enough" Level

- Chris MacLeod, MSW

It's hard to avoid dancing entirely in social situations, especially when you're younger. Arguably, everyone should at least become passable at it. It's not as hard to pick up the basics as you may think, and it's smoother sailing once you can join some friends who want to dance and hold your own.

You don't have to reach a particularly high standard

You just need to be good enough that you can get on the dance floor, blend in with everyone else, not look like an idiot, and not feel overly uncomfortable while you're there. (Lots of people are at least somewhat awkward about dancing. That's why they have to down a few drinks and wait for the dance floor to get busy before they step out on it.)

You don't have to look like someone out of a music video. You've just got to be decent enough to get by. Being better than the minimum never hurts of course, but just knowing the basics will put you way ahead of all the non-dancers out there.

If you're straight, try not to worry too much about what the opposite sex thinks. They don't have ultra-picky standards

Straight people don't purely dance to impress the opposite sex, but it is often something they think about.

For guys

Generalization time. Women and men have different ideas of what a good dancer is. Guys often see dancing as a skill to show off. Being better than other dudes on the dance floor is important to them. Their typical image of a "good dancer" is a gymnastic break dancer doing a bunch of flips, or a guy doing a fancy, fluid Popping & Locking routine. A woman's concept of a good dancer is a closer to a passably moving guy who looks comfortable, confident, and like he's having fun.

When a woman wants to dance with you, all she really wants is that...

  • You are there with her
  • You are dancing with her
  • You are not dancing horribly
  • You are not being too forward and creepy

For women

This totally sounds like a simplistic stereotype, but most of the time when you're dancing with a guy he's not making a detailed critique of your style. He's probably just thinking, "Yay! I'm dancing with a woman!" Or if he's watching you dance from farther away, he's likely thinking, "She seems like someone I might want to talk to. I wonder if she'd shoot me down though..." Even if he seems like the most genuinely suave, confident guy ever, he's probably still thinking like that on some level. He's probably fifty times more worried about how his dancing looks to you than the other way around. Even he's an amazing dancer and you're not, he likely isn't holding it against you.

(That was from my observations as a straight guy. I'm not gay so I won't try to write from their perspective, but I can't imagine their standards for dance partners are radically different.)

Try not to worry too much about what strangers think

Easier said than done, but don't use up too much mental energy fretting about how random bystanders are judging you. Occasionally people will snicker and point to people who are dancing because they're really just too nervous to do it themselves. Random dudes sucking on their beer aren't your audience. Also, like the point above mentioned, your average dancer is more preoccupied with how they look than anything.

If there's one thing to keep in mind it's to be toned-down and low key

Don't be a spaz and try to pull off some fancy moves unless you 100% know you'll look good doing them. It's better to reel yourself in. Over reaching and flailing around is worse than blending in and being a bit boring and unoriginal. Don't feel you have to pull off tons of new moves every second and put on a show for everyone either. It's okay to dance in a simple, repetitive way and just enjoy your friends' company.

Acquire a basic, reliable dancing 'core'

You know when you're watching a movie or TV show and there's a scene set in a dance club, how the extras in the background will often to be dancing in a kind of simple, nondescript way? That's the 'core' I'm talking about. If you know how to do that, then in a lot of situations that's actually all you need. However, if you want, you can later choose to build off your base and make your style more fancy.

To get that core stand in front of a mirror with some not-too-fast music on, or just read along and imagine you're doing the following:

  • To dance you've got to move your body in time to the beat of the music. The most basic newbie mistake you can make is to move out of sync with the beat. Don't know the beat I'm referring to? Put on a song and listen for the underlying, repeating thump-thump-thump pattern. Every style of music has a different speed. It doesn't take much practice to learn how to hear it.
  • Okay, you're just standing there in front of the mirror with some song playing. Now try moving your arms back and forth to the beat slightly, while keeping your legs ramrod straight. You'll notice that looks totally off. So the next most basic thing you've got to do is bounce up and down on your knees. So keep everything else still, and just move your knees up and down to the music.
  • That still looks weird, since you're just going up and down like a piston. So rotate your torso a bit in time with your knee movements, a little like you're skiing. Keep your torso fairly loose and relaxed.
  • That's looking better, but your arms are still stiffly hanging at your side. So try relaxing them a bit and let them swing up and down with your knee bends and torso rotations.

Once you're standing in one spot, bouncing on your knees, turning your torso a bit, and moving your arms somewhat, that's about the absolute bare minimum you can do to be considered dancing. Like I said, sometimes that's all you need. If you didn't know how to dance at all, and stopped right here, that's a lot better than nothing.

However, while still staying in the realm of dancing in a super generic 'core' way, you can do little things to spice up the bare minimum:

  • Don't just limply swing your arms, get your shoulders into it.
  • Take steps side to side, or back and forth.
  • Mix up your arm movements.
  • Nod your head.
  • Do little pivots or twists on one foot, or both feet.
  • Don't just slightly rotate your torso, move it back and forth, or from one side to the other.
  • Pick up one foot ever so slightly, then the other, to kind of march in place. Don't overdo the movement and look like a robot, just move your feet a tad.
  • Mix up the possible arm, torso, and leg variations. Find a combination that looks good and do it for a while, then switch to another one. Don't change things up to the point where you're doing something new every half a second. That looks too scattered.

At this point you're hardly going to win a dance competition, but you're at the level of those movie extras, and 75% of the people you'll see out at a bar. At this point you really could develop no further in your dancing ability and be able to get by on a dance floor for the rest of your life.

The thing with this basic core is that it's pretty adaptable to the standard kinds of music you'll come across. If you're dancing to Hip Hop, just make all your movements a little more Hip Hop-ish. If you're dancing to retro 80's Pop, just make all your moves a little more cheesy and energetic.

Add some more fancy moves and sequences onto your core if you want to

If you dance in a basic way you'll get by, but you won't stand out a ton. If you want to look a little slicker you can start adding in some canned movements, or sequences of moves. There's more of a Risk/Reward thing going on at this stage. You've got to work at it more as well. Dancing generically is safer and easier. If you try to pull off some awesome routine and bungle the execution you'll look clueless or goofy. You need to practice to make sure you look good. Some places to learn new moves are:

  • By watching strangers dancing at a club and stealing ideas from them.
  • By watching your friends dance.
  • By watching movies or music videos.
  • Through online video tutorials.
  • Through dancing-oriented video games.
  • By experimenting and trying to come up with some moves of your own.
  • By taking an actual class.

The best way to learn is to just practice

If you get into the habit of dancing around at home in the spare moments you're listening to music it won't be long before you start to get the hang of things. After that the more time you put in, the more you'll refine your style.

Get in front of a mirror, put some good music on, and start dancing to it in the basic way I mentioned above. Remember, if your instinct is to jump around a lot or be a bit spazzy, consciously tone yourself down. Try to get comfortable with the typical, boring way of dancing first. A lot of the time on actual dance floors you won't have that much room anyway, so if you only practice moves that requires a lot of space you'll be put in an awkward spot when you end up somewhere more packed.

One way to deliberately practice is to try working on one aspect of dancing at a time, then putting the pieces together. This may not look good in the moment, but it'll let you concentrate on and isolate certain aspects of how you move. So you might keep everything else fairly still, and only try out different arm movements, or ways of moving your torso. Or you could try different ways of stepping back and forth, or moving only one leg at a time.

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Practice different dancing scenarios

Aside from figuring out how to move your body, there are different situations you'll find yourself dancing under:

Dancing on a dance floor where you have a lot of room

This is the easiest as you have all the space you need, and you can do somewhat more showy stuff if you feel like it. Sometimes the ocean of space can feel like too much to work with or make you feel exposed and self-conscious though.

Dancing on a crowded dance floor

Here your movements are really restricted. When you're practicing make sure to keep your feet rooted to the ground and don't swing your arms out too much. Try to make your movements look good anyway.

Dancing close and face to face with someone else

The issue here is knocking knees and not being able to extend your arms too far in front of you. Try dancing really close to a wall to get an idea of what it's like. Or you can try dancing really close to a full length mirror. It's totally goofy looking, but it's still a good way to get used to the feeling of being near someone.

Dancing with a partner

Here I'm referring to partner dancing in an informal, improvised way, not doing a specific dance like the Tango. Of course this is something that you can't practice on your own super effectively. Still, you could put your hands out in front of you like you're holding someone's waist or shoulders and practice moving within that restriction. I don't blame you if you don't want to do this. It's definitely a bit silly. Still, if the idea of dancing with someone makes you uncomfortable, practicing like this can take the edge off.

More practical advice would be to take a salsa, swing, or ballroom dancing class, asking your friends to teach you to dance, or practicing with your partner, if you're seeing someone. If it doesn't make you anxious, you could even try going to a club and trying to dance with someone you meet there.

Non-verbal communication is important as well

Body language plays a role in dancing too. It would look strange if someone was dancing to a 70's funk song with the mannerisms and facial expressions of someone listening to 90's Gangsta Rap. You don't want to be too exaggerated or hammy with your body language, but it is something to subtly bring into the equation. The other basic thing about body language is that sometimes the difference between someone who looks good and so-so on the dance floor is their non-verbals. If someone looks uncomfortable and bored, they may come across as dancing poorly. The same movements with some energy and confidence can look fine.

Dancing is a physical activity

Simple tip here. The better shape you're in, the easier dancing will be. You'll be able to do more, have more energy, and keep at it for longer. Basic things like aerobic fitness, flexibility, and some endurance in your legs and torso help.

Dancing to an unfamiliar style

For the poppy dance music you most typically hear in bars and clubs you can usually get away with dancing in the generic style I outlined earlier. Though if you've ever been to a club that caters to a different scene you'll know other genres of music have their own types of dancing.

If you're in one of these places, it's not the end of the world if you go ahead and dance the usual generic way, and just try to make your movements conform somewhat to that subculture's style. You won't fit in perfectly, but no one is going to run you out of the joint. However, if you're interested in dancing to that type of music more in the future, it's obvious that you'd want to try to learn its more specialized moves.

A semi-warning about dance classes

Without a doubt you'll learn a lot if you a take a class, but sometimes people get a shock when they then go to a club and have to dance spontaneously. They can't just start swing dancing or bust out a 14-step choreographed Hip Hop routine. There are people who have taken years of dance classes, but they're inhibited when it comes to dancing at clubs. They feel lost, put on the spot, and like they're expected to perform.

Dancing badly on purpose

I think there's a good time and a bad time to dance in a poor or silly way as a joke. The bad time to do it is when you're not comfortable or experienced with dancing, and you dance like goofball to avoid having to do it for real. People tend to see through this, and any humor that comes out of it only has a shelf life of a minute or so.

The good time to do it is when you're with some friends, you all know how to dance properly, and you just throw in the occasional campy movement or routine as a way to joke around and have more fun. It comes off well in this situation because everyone realizes you're doing it because you choose to, not because you're trying to hide how ill at ease you feel.

Drinking to loosen yourself up

Lots of people need to get some alcohol in them before they feel confident enough to hit the dance floor. In a perfect world everyone would feel comfortable dancing stone cold sober, but realistically some of us need a little extra help. Within reason I think this is fine.

When alcohol tends to be helpful is when someone knows how to dance half-decently, but are just a smidgen reserved - most people basically. When drinking tends to backfire is when someone doesn't really know how to dance, and never tries unless they're totally hammered. The results can be pretty sloppy. Things can also get embarrassing if someone is just learning how to dance and is inclined to be spazzy. The alcohol tends to bring those tendencies to the surface.

In conclusion

This is a trite thing to say, but despite everything you've just read, you should just enjoy yourself and not over analyze things. Have fun and don't worry about what other people think of you. Blah Blah Blah. The end.

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    Enjoyable and a bit like "Old Acquaintance" combined with "Showgirls".

    In some ways, the plot to "Dance, Girl, Dance" is a lot of nonsense. After all, if you are looking for a realistic movie that could happen on this planet, you'd better keep looking. However, if you can accept the film for the campy picture that it is, it is quite enjoyable.

    The film begins with a dance troop. Their performance is interrupted by a police raid and they appear to be out of work when a nice guy (Louis Hayward) encourages the patrons to pay the girls for that show. He then shows a lot of interest in Judy (Maureen O'Hara), but the super self-absorbed Bubbles (Lucille Ball) steals the guy and goes off on a date with him. Although the date turns out to be a bit of a bust, this is the pattern that would continue throughout the film. In other words, although Judy is a nice person and the most talented dancer, Bubbles would routinely step in and hog all the glory. And, in the world of dancing, Bubbles ego-centrism really helps her make a splash with a new job--doing a dance that is only a step or two better than being a stripper. Later, she gets Judy a job--but only in a very subordinate role which is meant to be laughed at by the audience! There is far, far more to the movie than this.

    The best way to describe it is to compare it to two movies--one old, one rather new. It reminds me of a Bette Davis/Miriam Hopkins film called "Old Acquaintance". The two are friends but repeatedly, the one 'friend' takes all the glory and treats her friend poorly. This continues throughout the film until finally the put-upon friend has had enough and she realizes that this friendship just isn't worth it--and finally tells her off. The other film is "Showgirls". While I've never seen all of this trashy film, the behind the scenes backstabbing and egos are clearly evident in both films. Overall, "Dance, Girl, Dance" is entertaining and the ending is pretty satisfying. However, don't expect a film that is particularly realistic or that seems even remotely plausible--though both actresses did a nice job in their respective roles.



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      Dance to the music from behind. Approach at a certain angle so she can see you coming. Leave some space first so she doesn't feel like you're forcing yourself on her.

    • Some girls don't like being approached from behind. Act according to the situation and decide if it's best to approach her from the front.
  • Wait until she approaches. If she is interested, she will move closer and dance with you. Most women dance at their own pace, and as you dance to the beat, accept it and follow it. Move your hips together to make it comfortable for both of you to dance.

    Key aspects of dancing with a girl

    1. Lead. After you've danced with her for a bit and are ready to change the tempo, your partner may feel comfortable with your hand on her hip. If she doesn't like it, then apologize and consider moving on to another partner, unless she expresses her desire to continue dancing with you.

      Let her let you touch her. Some girls will want to increase the energy between you by allowing certain body parts to be touched. In almost any situation, only a woman is allowed to initiate it. She will most likely take your hand and put it where it needs to be.

      • Do not pinch or otherwise grasp it quickly or childishly. You will destroy all the chemistry that has developed between the two of you. Play it safe and let her be in charge until you're absolutely sure what she wants.
    2. Pay attention to proportionality. If you are a tall and lanky guy, try to choose girls who are also tall or at least of average height. If you are dancing with a girl who is significantly shorter than you, then your movements will most likely look awkward no matter what you do.

      Focus your attention on her. Don't look back at other people. Let your eyes also participate in what you are doing. Good dancers dance to be watched, not to be watched themselves.

      Follow the rhythm. In most clubs, the songs tend to follow the same rhythm - one-two-drum, one-two-clap. You should stick to the rhythm when dancing with her, otherwise she will most likely lose interest.

      Focus on your legs. This is just as important, if not more important, than the torso movement. Use both the heel and the toe. Move them smoothly and your whole body will also move smoothly.

      Change your movements. When the song changes, do the same with your movements. Squat lightly. Put your hands on different parts of her body (within reason, unless she suggests otherwise). Gesture from time to time if you like. Stand out from the crowd, this will keep her interested.

      Be confident. If you look awkward or uncomfortable, she will be put off. Girls love confident. Remember that no one is watching you dance. Everyone came to have fun and enjoy the atmosphere, just like you.

      Accept rejection. If your partner makes it clear that she's had enough of dancing with you, no matter how short, accept it and move on. Remember that your chances of dancing with another girl increase as soon as you finish your last dance.

    • If you're dancing in front of a girl you're interested in, look into her eyes and smile. Don't look overly excited or nervous.
    • If a girl has turned you down, you don't just have to stay where you are. Keep dancing and quickly move on to someone else.
    • If you start dancing with a girl and she doesn't move to the music or doesn't move at all, she's not interested in you. Move on.
    • If you're worried about being rejected, the best way is to dance with someone who dances herself. Ideally, she will be next to a friend who is dancing with someone else.
    • Try not to choose a girl who dances with a large group of girlfriends. She may turn you down just to show off, or because she doesn't want to be the only one dancing by herself.
    • If a girl really doesn't want to dance with you, she will completely remove your hands from her hips.


    • If you approach a girl to dance, and she suddenly urgently needs to “go to the ladies' room”, consider that you have been refused. Don't try to dance with her when she comes back. If she really needs to go to the toilet and she wants to dance, she will come to you.
    • Don't touch her buttocks to get her attention or you'll get slapped as this really annoys most girls.
    • Never ask a girl in a club to dance with you, as you will just have to yell in her ear. It's best to just start dancing with her and let things take their course.
    • Try not to do the last slow dance with her because you are more likely to be rejected as these songs are more for couples. If she refuses you, it can be very embarrassing and hurtful.
  • How can a girl dance in a club?

    On the dance floors of trendy clubs, young people move as they please, without following strict rules. But if you want to stand out from the crowd, as well as get great pleasure from dancing, then you need to learn the basics of club dancing. Our article will tell you how to dance in a club for a girl.

    Preparing for dance classes

    • If you are new to dancing, then classes in specialized dance schools will help you learn how to move to music. Dancing classes will not only brighten up your everyday life and help you make new acquaintances, but will also bring your body into shape. Teachers will teach you how to move beautifully and sexually, help you become more relaxed and self-confident;
    • Club dances for girls include RNB, GO-GO, hip-hop, funk, jazz. Almost all choreographic studios have trial classes. Sign up for areas of interest and decide which style you would like to learn in order to apply dance skills in clubs. In addition, many dance schools organize open days. Coming to the studio on such a day, you will be able to participate in all dance lessons absolutely free of charge;
    • In order to learn how to dance to club music, two weeks of training for two hours a day will be enough. Of course, you will not become a professional in such a short time, but you will acquire plasticity and a sense of rhythm;
    • For those who do not want to spend money and time training in dance studios, there are many video tutorials on the Internet. This method is absolutely free and available to everyone. Moreover, you can choose a teacher to your taste by viewing the lessons you need. It is necessary to train at home in front of a mirror, controlling your every movement;
    • In addition to studying at home or in choreographic schools, visit clubs and practice dancing there. The main rule is to be relaxed and not shy. In addition to you, there are dozens of dancing people around who were able to overcome their shyness. When moving to the music in a nightclub, do not think about how to dance correctly: listen to music, connect emotions and enjoy this process;
    • While dancing, listen to the music and feel the rhythm. Improvise more and try to differ in your movements from those around you;
    • To keep your body toned and you look beautiful on the dance floor, go to the gym or spend time exercising and stretching. Go to the pool periodically, and also set aside an hour a day for regular walking.

    Learning to dance

    1. Before enrolling in a dance studio or starting self-study, evaluate your plasticity. Stand in front of a mirror and begin to move your hips, leaving your arms, shoulders, and legs still. If during such an exercise all parts of the body are involved in the movement, then you will have to work on yourself and devote more time to training.
    2. When exercising, pay attention to every part of your body. The beauty of the dance depends on the amplitude of movements: a small amplitude gives femininity, tenderness, elegance and lightness to the dance, and a large one gives looseness, courage, energy and expression.
    3. In addition to instructional videos, music videos from popular artists will help you. Turn on your favorite music channel and try to follow the dancer's movements.
    4. It's best to try dancing to different music. So you can determine for yourself which style you do best, and develop skills in this area. Change the pace and movements, improvise and show imagination. Remember that dance is first and foremost the art of expressing yourself.
    5. Go to a nightclub and watch people dance. Note for yourself which movements can be borrowed, and which in no case should be repeated.
    6. Dancing in the club, adjust to the music and your mood. The main thing in the dance is to completely relax and get away from problems.

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