Teach me how to praise dance
How to Do a Praise Dance
LINDSEY ROBINSON SANCHEZ
29 SEP 2017
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In many Christian churches, dancing is one of the ways in which church members worship. Praise dance can be choreographed or free-form, but it is almost always an organized activity that allows its members to express their spirituality through movement. It can be performed in casual clothing or costumes, with or without props, but its focus is on worship and expression.
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- Free Dance
- Open your praise dance with prayer
- Warm up for several minutes by walking
- Listen
- Move from side to side
- Choreographed Dance
- Warm up
- Review
- Find the beat of the song
- Choreograph your dance in pieces
- Perform your dance in the location of your choice
1 Free Dance
2 Open your praise dance with prayer
Open your praise dance with prayer, scripture reading or other form of worship. Focusing on the spiritual side of your activity is what separates praise dance from other types of dance.
3 Warm up for several minutes by walking
Warm up for several minutes by walking, performing jumping jacks, jogging or otherwise moving in your dance space. Praise dance, like any form of exercise, requires a period of warm-up. You may perform this step to music.
4 Listen
Listen to the praise music of your choice and try to find the beat. Most songs have a 1-2-3-4, 1-2-3-4 beat, though some have a 1-2-3, 1-2-3 beat. If you can't find the beat, follow the sound of the drums or the strumming of the guitar.
5 Move from side to side
Move from side to side, swinging your hands or arms. Many people choose to pray or sing to the music to maintain their sense of worship. Let the music lead you --there is no wrong way to worship.
6 Choreographed Dance
7 Warm up
Stretch and warm up in comfortable clothing.
8 Review
Review basic dance moves that will be included in the dance. This may include walking or hopping forwards and backwards, leaps or combination steps. This may be incorporated in your warm-up.
9 Find the beat of the song
Find the beat of the song. Choreographed praise dance requires more planning and discipline than free dance. The beat will help you choreograph each step of the dance in a manageable way.
10 Choreograph your dance in pieces
Choreograph your dance in pieces, usually 10 to 30 seconds at a time. Practice until each dance member feels comfortable in his or her position.
11 Perform your dance in the location of your choice
Perform your dance in the location of your choice, incorporating costumes with flags, streamers or other props if you choose.
About the Author
Lindsey Robinson Sanchez, from Bessemer, Ala., has written for the "Troy Messenger," "The Alabama Baptist" and "The Gainesville Times," where her work was featured on the AP wire.
She has a Bachelor of Science in journalism from the University of Florida. She writes style, beauty, fitness, travel and culture.
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The first time I heard a message in the church about dancing was in a Baptist church.
The Pastor was explaining that we should not dance because dancing leads to sex.
Seeing how I am a little of a smarty pant, I turned to my wife and suggested that we go dancing after church.
Later in my Christian life, I encountered where Pentecostals would have an experience that they called dancing in the Spirit.
They would let out a shout and start to do what can only be described as a frenzied jig.
Dancing has been stigmatized in the church as something that is worldly or carnal, or it has been hyper-spiritualized to the point that it is only allowed if you are somehow taken over by the Spirit of God, and it is not you that is dancing.
I think both of these mentalities in the church are neither healthy nor biblical.
I believe that there are real benefits of allowing yourself to praise dance before the Lord.
Table Of Contents
- Praise Dancing In The Church
- Dancing Before The Lord Is A Form Of Praise
- Praise Dance As A Form Of Sacrifice
- Dancing Before The Lord Is A Sign Of God’s Restoration In Our Lives
- Dancing For The Lord Is Healthy
- Praise Dancing Celebrates God’s Victory
- Our Heavenly Father Celebrates With Dancing
- Books On Worship
- Mastering Ministry: Mastering Worship
- Holy Roar: 7 Words That Will Change The Way You Worship
- Praise and Worship with Flags: Waging Spiritual Warfare in the Church and Home
Dancing Before The Lord Is A Form Of Praise
Psalm 149:3 Let them praise His name with the dance; Let them sing praises to Him with the timbrel and harp.
Psalm 150:4 Praise Him with the timbrel and dance; Praise Him with stringed instruments and flutes!
Dancing is a form of praise. It is part of how God wants us to worship Him.
Dancing is part of how we express with our bodies what our heart feels towards the Lord.
With most dancing, that expression is one of joy, celebration, abundance, and rejoicing.
Those feelings are genuine and should be part of a believer’s life that has been set free from the bondage of sin and now is celebrating their new life in Christ.
Praise Dance As A Form Of Sacrifice
2 Samuel 6:12-15
12 Then King David was told, “The Lord has blessed Obed-edom’s household and everything he has because of the Ark of God. ” So David went there and brought the Ark of God from the house of Obed-edom to the City of David with a great celebration. 13 After the men who were carrying the Ark of the Lord had gone six steps, David sacrificed a bull and a fattened calf.
14 And David danced before the Lord with all his might, wearing a priestly garment. 15 So David and all the people of Israel brought up the Ark of the Lord with shouts of joy and the blowing of rams’ horns.
One of the biggest hang-ups people have about dancing before the Lord is their self-consciousness and their desire for self-respect.
Both of those attitudes begin with self.
Dancing before the Lord causes us to lay down ourselves and humble ourselves before the Lord. It becomes more important to lay ourselves down as a sacrifice than it does to worry about what we or others around us think.
Praise dance is one way we give a sacrifice to God.
Dancing Before The Lord Is A Sign Of God’s Restoration In Our Lives
Jeremiah 31:4
4 I will rebuild you, my virgin Israel.You will again be happyand dance merrily with your tambourines.
Jeremiah 31:13
Then young women will dance and be glad, young men and old as well.
I will turn their mourning into gladness; I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow.
When we were apart from God, we were in bondage. We were slaves to the forces of evil that bound us.
When we experience the freedom we have in Christ, we are free to dance.
Dancing is a sign that God has indeed set us free.
When you praise dance, many of the things that are hindering and binding you in your Christian walk lose their power over you.
It not only is a sign that you have been restored but at times brings that restoration as well.
Smith Wigglesworth said this about dancing.
“I don’t ever ask Smith Wigglesworth how he feels!” I jump out of bed! I dance before the Lord for at least 10 to 12 minutes – high speed dancing. I jump up and down and run around my room telling God how great he is, how wonderful He is, how glad I am to be associated with Him and to be His child.”
That is the testimony of a man who has experienced the restoration of God and its accompanying freedom.
Dancing For The Lord Is Healthy
Solomon in the book of Ecclesiastes tells us that there is a time to go through different experiences. He talks about how we need to have time to be born and die, time to grieve and a time to heal, a time to plant and a time to harvest. In that list, he tells us that there is a time to dance.
Ecclesiastes 3:4
4 A time to cry and a time to laugh.A time to grieve and a time to dance.
All of the things that Solomon lists here are things that are part of a healthy expression of human life.
It is a balanced expression of our life.
Dancing is part of a healthy expression of human life.
So it is healthy for you to dance before the Lord.
Praise Dancing Celebrates God’s Victory
Exodus 15:19-21
19 When Pharaoh’s horses, chariots, and charioteers rushed into the sea, the Lord brought the water crashing down on them. But the people of Israel had walked through the middle of the sea on dry ground!20 Then Miriam the prophet, Aaron’s sister, took a tambourine and led all the women as they played their tambourines and danced.
21 And Miriam sang this song: “Sing to the Lord,for he has triumphed gloriously;he has hurled both horse and riderinto the sea.”
Here we see the prophet Miriam leading the children of Israel in a dance of victory.
Just as God gave Israel victory over those that would enslave them in bondage, so God has given us the victory over Satan who would enslave us to slavery again.
This is reason enough to dance before the Lord.
Our Heavenly Father Celebrates With Dancing
One of the biggest things that struck me when I was seeking the Lord about praise dancing was this tiny little reference to dancing found in the story of the prodigal son.
Luke 15:25
“Meanwhile, the older son was in the fields working. When he returned home, he heard music and dancing in the house,
When the prodigal son returned to the Father, the Father threw a celebration. He had a party! In the midst of that party was dancing.
I find a straightforward correlation between those that would get angry over dancing in the church or dancing before the Lord and their place within this story.
Those that are against dancing before the Lord have the same type of heart as the elder brother who was angry that the Father would celebrate the restoration of His child unto Him.
Who would you rather be?
The one who celebrates like the Father in the story of the prodigal son, or the elder brother who was angry that people would celebrate their freedom in Christ by dancing before the Lord?
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Do I know that it is impossible to teach a child to do something for the sake of praise (read - grades)? I know, of course, how not to know. It's written on almost every fence. Well, if not on the fence, then in every book, in every forum and in every social network for sure.
Do I praise children in moderation and “correctly” (that is, according to what is written in the books)? Rarely. Most often, stupid phrases like “you’re just great!”, “You’re my smart girl” or something else good “you are my sweet pie” fly off the tongue.
Gets both daughter and son. The fact that something needs to be done about it, I guessed not even because the authors of smart books about raising children spent a lot of time to work out the only correct approach to this problem. Something else bothered me. The other day I was cooking another soup and Nika approached me with such a constructive proposal: “Mom, let me build a Lego castle, and you will praise me and be happy, because little people will live in the castle.” No, well, I will certainly rejoice and, of course, praise. But what is the question.
My path as a mother began with one of the books, where it was written that a child needs approval, praise and all kinds of support from parents. I don’t remember how detailed this topic was disclosed there, but since then I have become so used to praising, admiring and giving assessments that I completely stopped noticing the other side of the coin, where excessive praise can do harm. Therefore, now I seriously decided to correct my reckless behavior and began to understand.
In How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and How to Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish rightly point out, "Praise is a very tricky business." Not easy, because it may not cause the effect you expect.
Why is excessive praise dangerous? Such deferambs, like “we are the most talented in the world”, “you are the most honest”, “you are the most conscientious”, can lead the child to feel that his parents deliberately exaggerate his merits, he is not so conscientious and is not always honest Well, he knows it himself. And the result is anxiety. The child feels that he "does not live up" to the high bar set by his parents. If he knows that somewhere he does not correspond to his estimated characteristics, he risks focusing on his shortcomings or even suspecting his parents of trying to manipulate.
"The psychologist knows that children tend to get rid of global praise - it is too tiring," Faber and Mazlish write in their other book, Free Parents, Free Children.
Tracey Cutchlow, in 0 to 5, supports this theory and, in addition, considers the consequences of both general and action-specific praise. Sooner or later, she notes, children develop either a predetermined mindset or a developmental mindset. The first is the feeling that your innate ability is all you have. The second is the understanding that the more you work, the more you get. It is not difficult to guess that the latter are more successful and hardworking. And those children who are praised precisely for their actions come to the developmental orientation.
When I praise my children, I seek to reinforce their self-esteem. And it's a great way if you use it right.
There is such a thing as descriptive praise. The adult respectfully describes what he sees or feels. Then the child, having heard the description, is able to praise himself.
I remember how I came to a seminar with the author of the book "The Montessori Miracle" Elena Timoshenko. In particular, it was about the fact that it is impossible to evaluate the child.
Then I was more indignant than I understood the principle: how then to explain to the child where he is right and where he is not?! And an example of descriptive praise really helps not to evaluate, but to qualitatively and carefully approach the actions of the child.
Nika ended up building her castle out of a construction set. One wall was much higher than the others, the inhabitants of the castle were lying on the floor, as if after the earthquake, it was clear that something had distracted her daughter, and she was bored to finish the job. Before bestowing the promised praise on the child, I wondered how she would feel when I gave out my standard “oh, this is the best castle I have ever seen.” Surely she will understand that this is a trick for the sake of a trick, that this is far from the best lock that she is capable of. She knows that she was distracted and did not complete the work. I said: “I like how you placed columns around the hall and provided two windows in the castle wall, now its inhabitants will be more comfortable.
” “Yes, mom, and they will be able to admire the dawn when they wake up,” Nika exclaimed and with renewed vigor went to “wake up” the princes, princesses, elephants and giraffes lying around everywhere. It turns out that the descriptive praise not only inspired, but also aroused a new interest in the case. And, obviously, it helped to take a step towards setting it up for development.
When we talk about praise, we must also talk about criticism. Firstly, these two concepts are one way or another somewhere nearby. Both are characteristics of the child's actions. The main secret here is that criticism can, and sometimes should, turn into praise.
Imagine a student's notebook. In it, a dictation is written in terrible handwriting without a single mistake. What does an ordinary teacher write in red ink with an exclamation mark? That's right, he writes: "Disgusting handwriting!" Does the teacher write some kind of remark that the student tried and did not make a single mistake in the dictation? No, most of the time he doesn't write.
And what does the child see? He sees red ink everywhere: disgusting handwriting, a missing comma (who cares that it's the only one on three pages, and even omitted by inattention? No one will figure it out, excuses are not accepted), miscalculated, didn't draw the margin, or worse : didn't use the solution that was in the tutorial.
My children are not even schoolchildren yet, so examples come to my mind only from my personal practice. Already in the first grade, I knew how to count well for my age. Dad taught me how to add and subtract three-digit numbers in my head, and also how to solve examples with negative numbers. And here's the math lesson. Checking homework. There was an example in the workbook: 3-5=? I wrote the answer: -2. The teacher goes through the rows and checks who decided what and how. The whole class raises their hands: "Here is a typo, here is a typo." I know that negative numbers in the first class do not pass, but I can decide, why not decide? Do you know what my teacher said to me when she saw the correct answer? She said, "Don't ever do that!" It happened more than 20 years ago, but I remember everything like now.
I was shocked. And I'm still in shock. At that moment, I learned what injustice is, I realized that no one at school would encourage any additional knowledge, and most importantly, for the first time I thought about how teachers behave and how they should behave.
However, there are different teachers, for example, this is what, for example, Olga Vasilievna Uzorova, a practicing teacher, author of textbooks for preschoolers and elementary school, told me about proper praise: “Many children are happy to go to school on September 1. But not even a week passes, as the word “school” causes more and more melancholy in the child.
Why? How can this be fixed?
Success is very important for any child. If your child is a student, then it is important for him to be successful in this social role.
Of course, schools have an individual approach to students. But best of all, an individual approach to your child will be found by his family. No one, except for the closest person, will be able to see the very first microsteps of the first victory: “the tail of the letter Y turned out just fine”! And it doesn’t matter that this is the word “rod”, in which the rest of the letters, including the first element of the letter U, turned out terribly, put out the light.
Because the first success that is noticed inspires the child, he begins to believe in himself. Lots and lots of support for the child - and your strengthened baby will joyfully and confidently walk along the Road of Knowledge.”
Olga Uzorova, Julia Gippenreiter, Faber and Mazlish, Tracy Catchlow, Maria Montessori, Elena Timoshenko, Richard Templar - I so wanted to figure out how to praise children that I turned to the opinion of each of these authors. It turned out that all of them, although they use different terms, offer essentially the same solution: the child should be praised for his actions. As a mother, it became much easier for me when I realized this.
My two-year-old son came up to me with a craft from kindergarten. It was a cucumber cut out of green colored paper with plasticine “pimples” glued on. The child looked solemn. I gathered all my knowledge into a fist and issued: “Slavochka! This is the best craft in the world! I have you…” I stopped before saying “the best artist”.
Habit has conquered all my knowledge. It's not as easy as it seemed. “You cut this cucumber so evenly and realistically placed all the plasticine circles,” I gathered. The son beamed.
Wrong praise can:
- Make you doubt the one who praises.
- Lead to an immediate retraction.
- portend trouble.
- Make you focus on your shortcomings.
- Generate an alarm or interfere with your activity.
- Perceived as manipulation.
How to properly praise a child:
- Pay attention to the actions and deeds of the child, pay attention to the details.
- From everything the child has done, choose what turned out best.
- Use the descriptive praise method.
- Summarize: “you did a good job”, “this is what I call perseverance”, “you can be proud of yourself”.
- Get away from global praise, it can hurt.
- Avoid praise that hints at past weaknesses or failures.
- Make sure that your boundless enthusiasm intersects with your child's desire to achieve something on their own.
- If you have given free rein to your initial reaction, but you must learn to supplement it with deeper observations.
- If you want to praise something that should have happened anyway, you can say about your feelings, for example, "I especially enjoyed today's family dinner."
- Avoid the phrase "I knew you could do it." You did not know and could not know. And the child may feel that his efforts were not taken into account.
- Accept children's mistakes and see them as part of the learning process.
- Do not allow yourself to compare the child with anyone in praise or criticism.
How many of these phrases use these phrases when communicating with a child and with people close to us? And, after all, they are extremely necessary for each of us! We easily swear and express our dissatisfaction, but with such difficulty say a rare “thank you” or “well done”! Let's say these simple words and bright phrases more often, especially to your children, and then you won't have to scold them, constantly get annoyed and express your dissatisfaction, because there simply won't be such a need for this.
1. Well done!
2. You are on the right track!
3. Great!
4. You figured it out.
5. Amazing!
6. This is exactly what you need!
7. Much better than I expected!
8. Great!
9. Congratulations!
10. Great!
11. I'm proud of you!
12. Great!
13. I'm just happy!
14. Unforgettable!
15. Wow!
16. Your help is very important to me!
17. This is what we have been waiting for!
18. It's a joy to work with you!
19. This touches me to the core!
20. I need you!
21. Well said - simple and clear!
22. Everything that excites, worries and pleases you is important to me!
23. Witty!
24. I knew you could do it!
25. Talented!
26. I'll go crazy if something happens to you!
27. Extra class!
28. You are gifted!
29. Every day you get better!
30. You did a lot today!
31. Already better!
32. For me, there is no one more beautiful than you!
33.
Great!
34. Even better than before!
35. Teach me to do the same!
36. Awesome!
37. I can't do without you here!
38. Cool!
39. Amazing!
40. I need you just the way you are!
41. Inimitable!
42. Incomparably!
43. No one can replace you!
44. Beauty!
45. I'm proud that you did it!
46. Like in a fairy tale!
47. Very clear!
48. I couldn't have done better myself!
49. Brightly, figuratively!
50. Fantastic!
51. Very impressive!
52. Better than everyone I know!
53. Great start!
54. You are just a miracle!
55. To this it remains to add: "I love you!"
When we praise a child for something and tell him "You're doing great!", then in this case we are talking about "conditional praise." Let's look at this concept in more detail.
Suppose you praise a child for putting away toys in his room or for eating everything at dinner. Who really wins? Maybe the phrase "Well done!" focused on our convenience rather than the emotional needs of the child?
Rita Dee Vries, professor of education at the University of Northern Iowa, calls it " Sweetened Control" ".
This kind of reward in the form of "You did well" is a way to make children meet the expectations of adults. If you think about it, punishment is built on the same analogy. This tactic can be effective for obtaining a specific result, and yet it is very different
For example, a child can be involved in talking about what responsibilities are at home and school, or how certain actions and actions (and inactions) can affect other people. an adult into a child's world and is more likely to help children learn to think on their own about important things.0003
When we tell a child that he is doing well, we give an assessment of his personality, and the child will constantly crave our approval, confirmation that he lives up to this assessment. Children gradually become addicted to praise.
Of course, not all praise involves the control of children's behavior by adults. We can sincerely praise children, rejoicing in their deeds and accomplishments. And even in this case it is necessary to be attentive to our words.
Instead of building up a child's self-esteem and healthy self-acceptance, praise can make them more dependent on us and our opinions. The more often we say, “I like the way you…” or “You did well…”, the less children learn to form their own judgments, and the more they get used to relying on adults' opinions about what is good and what is bad.
It turns out that the phrase "You're doing well" can not only not support the child, but even increase his level of anxiety. And the more often we will voice it to children, the more they will need it. This can carry over into adulthood, when the person desperately wants someone to say that he is doing everything right.
It is not easy enough to realize that "Well done!" is the same rating as "Very bad". The peculiarity of a positive judgment is not that it is positive, but that it is a judgment.
The phrase "Well done! Good drawing!" can encourage children to draw only as long as adults watch and praise. Often you may encounter a situation where children stop doing something due to the loss of attention on the part of adults to the activities of the child.
Does praise motivate children? Of course! She motivates children to receive that same praise. And often this happens at the expense of commitment to the actions that cause it.
The words of adults are very important for the child, over time he becomes dependent on praise and tries again and again to confirm his importance. And he begins to choose those tasks and deeds for which he will definitely receive the coveted "You're done!" The motive of avoiding failure begins to form, which will be built into the life picture of the world of an already adult person.
What children really need is absolute acceptance and in unconditional love . This is not just a difference from praise - it is its opposite. "Well done!" - this is just a convention, which means that we offer attention, approval, recognition in exchange for the desire to guess and confirm our expectations.
What is the alternative? It all depends on the specific situation, but no matter what we decide to say, it is very important that it is associated with unconditional love and support - because they are children, not because they have done something.
What can we offer a child instead of the usual evaluative praise?
1. A simple, non-judgmental statement. Just voice what you see.
The child tied his own shoelaces:
- "You yourself tied your shoelaces."
- "You did it" .
Such a statement will show the child that his success has not gone unnoticed. It will also make him proud that he did it.
In other situations, you can describe what you see in more detail.
For example, a child brought his drawing to show you. We catch ourselves at this moment wanting to give evaluative praise, and we say:
- "The house looks like a real one. The choice of colors attracts attention, it would not even occur to me to use such tones. And what fluffy clouds, just like yesterday we saw on the street".
The child showed concern for another or showed generosity. Here you can draw the attention of the child to how his act affected another person.
- "Look at Masha. She immediately cheered up and smiled when you shared the molds with her."
This is completely different from praise, where the main emphasis is on the adult's attitude to the child's act.
2. Talk less, ask more.
It is very valuable when, in addition to describing what we see, we join the child through questions.
- "How did you make the clouds look so voluminous?"
– "Which part of the drawing was the most difficult?"
- "What do you like most about drawing?"
- "How did you guess that you can use a different brush here?"
The child feels the involvement of an adult in his activity, sees sincere interest and understands without evaluative praise that he succeeds in what he does. And also, through questions, the child learns to look at his activity as if from the outside, notices what works best, what he himself likes and what not.
Of course, the above does not mean that all compliments, all expressions of admiration are harmful. Not at all, you just need to be aware of our motives when we say certain words, as well as their possible consequences. The main issue is not memorizing a new scenario of actions, it is much more important to imagine the long-term goals of our children and observe the effect of the words we utter.
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Switched from diapers to these panties from Goon. I have long wanted to get to know them, but somehow it didn’t always work out, then it’s not available, or even now I regret that I didn’t do it earlier. They exceeded all my expectations in terms of quality. Of the pluses for me personally, it is a very soft, delicate, cotton material. They also do not have any smell and plus they neutralize third-party unpleasant odors. The elastic bands hold the diaper well in place, no matter what position the daughter sleeps in, and the gel absorbs moisture very quickly and the feeling of dryness remains even when the panties are completely filled. By the way, you can check this thanks to the convenient indicator strips. I want to note that my daughter began to sleep much calmer, wakes up less often.
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Here is the case when parents consider children to be fools who do not understand anything. You, "protecting the psyche of the child", made the older child suffer, look for his beloved cat, knowing that she had died. Most likely, he was not so stupid, he understood that "it became easier for her, but she ran away from the clinic", most likely, it means that mom is just lying, but logic came into conflict with the still existing trust in the mother, when you think that if mom says something, then she is right - and he understood what happened, but still he continued to wait and hope: “What if she really is alive, because mom can’t lie to me?” And then, when even the youngest told you that he still understands everything (and they probably discussed the case with each other, and more and more came to disappointing conclusions that mom was lying), you also convinced him that he supposedly " not guilty.
" In my opinion, this is a direct way to raise children who are not able to take responsibility for their actions. I think it would be much more useful here to say that yes, Kusya died because you pushed her, but there's nothing to be done, and now you know that your pampering and experiments can lead to serious consequences, and, of course, you you will never do again. The child would cry and forever remember what he did. A person's personality is made up of memories. And please don't promote mosquito nets as protection against falling cats. They are designed to protect your home from insects, and nothing more. At most, they can protect your parrot from flying out of the window. Here, recently, the news flashed that a one-year-old child fell out with such a net from the 10th, or something, floor ... died, of course. These nets will not protect a cat or a child. They are made of plastic, and are glued with double-sided tape, or pinned with buttons. The slightest load and the grid flies out.
The cat can jump onto the net after a bird or a butterfly and fly down. Or maybe just start tearing it, sharpening its claws, and tear it apart. If you start a cat, then buy and install an anti-cat net, this is a metal grill that is firmly attached to the frame with self-tapping screws or bolts, and can even withstand an adult.
"If you don't know what to praise a child for, think of it!" - every teacher should arm himself with such a simple recommendation of the psychiatrist and psychotherapist V. Levy. How to properly praise a student? We propose to look into this issue together.
The value of teacher praise
Let's start with the fact that it is necessary to praise the student! Why? To appreciate the efforts of the student, support him, increase self-esteem and increase motivation to study the subject. A teacher's approval can do wonders! Water that has fallen on a withering flower acts in the same way as a kind teacher's word on a child who needs his support and attention.
The main function of praise is to convey the teacher's sincere faith in the abilities of his student. But every student needs a positive assessment and approval of their activities and achievements. This is the only way to learn and have fun. The task of the teacher is to constantly find good reasons for verbal encouragement of his pupils.
Golden rules for teacher praise
How to praise a student in a lesson and not do him a disservice? For this, it is important for the teacher to observe the following rules.
1. Praise for diligence!
Praise should be given to the student for the efforts and efforts that he made in completing the task or assignment, and not for the good abilities and intelligence given to him by nature. For example, you can praise a student in a Russian language lesson for an excellent dictation like this: “Well done! You read a lot, diligently prepared for work, repeated all the rules! It is not quite right in this case to say: “You did not make a single mistake in the dictation! You have innate literacy!” And in an English lesson, it will become a good motivation.
2. Praise the action, not the person!
In praise, it is very important to express approval of the actions and achievements of the student, and not to evaluate his personality. Otherwise, the student may develop a biased self-esteem and conceit. And this, as they say, is a topic for a separate article.
3. Be clear about what you are praising!
It is important that the student understands why he was specifically praised, what exactly he managed to do well. General praise is not very effective, it raises doubts about its sincerity. For example, if you want to praise a student in a drawing lesson, you can pay attention to the details of the drawing: “What a beautiful fruit bowl you managed to portray!”. At the same time, it is recommended to avoid common phrases: “You are smart! A real artist!" If appropriate, try to emphasize the difficulty of the task successfully completed by the student.
4. Praise in moderation and to the point!
Teacher praise should be sincere, well-deserved, moderate and justified so as not to cause envy on the part of other students.
Immeasurable praise loses all value and meaning, accustoms the child to cheap success. A student who is praised for every little thing subconsciously expects approval for almost every action. And when he does not receive it, he is sincerely perplexed. In addition, praise without measure is a direct path to arrogance, the cause of laziness and indifference to other subjects.
5. Praise not only "favorites"!
Every class has an informal hierarchy, where some students are considered to be more commendable than others. How to praise your pupils who are not popular with classmates? Persistent praise towards them can only worsen the attitude of the class towards them. It is important to reasonably support such students, pay attention to their success in educational and extracurricular activities. To praise their “favorites”, it is advisable for the teacher to choose the most appropriate moment for this.
6. Stay positive!
How easy it is for a teacher to increase a student's self-esteem with the help of verbal approval! But just one extra sentence can ruin everything.
For example, if a teacher wanted to praise a student in a math class for an interesting solution to one problem, he should not point out that the rest of the work was not successful for him. An unsuccessful example of praise: “Well done! You solved this problem in an unusual way! And I don’t even want to look at the rest of the examples!” In this context, the last sentence should not have come from the lips of the teacher.
Teacher praise should not contain reproaches, conditions or clarifications, it should end on a good note. Having praised the student, it is not necessary after a while to dissuade him of the significance of this personal achievement.
By the way, it is equally important to teach the parents of their children.
7. Don't pit one student against the whole class!
You cannot praise one student if he is not supported by the group. Even if he did the right thing. For example, how to praise a student in a chemistry class if he did his homework alone? It is best to do this alone with the child.
After all, praise in front of the whole class (albeit well-deserved) in this case can give rise to classmates not so much envy as aggression. But this student is not to blame for anything!
8. Praise without comparison!
It is important that the teacher's praise be unconditional and not contain comparisons. Do not compare the successes, results and personal qualities of the student with the achievements of peers. Don't say that Fedor did a good job, because he did a better job than his classmate Ivan or Nikolai.
9. Reinforce praise!
Praise backed up by approving non-verbal components (smile, facial expressions, open gestures) is more powerful and effective.
10. Stock up on "I-messages"!
More effective is the praise, in the expression of which the teacher uses the "I-message". For example, you can praise a student in a literature class like this: “I am very glad that you managed to learn and expressively tell this difficult poem.
” Such praise brings the teacher and his pupils closer together.
Praise is a very effective, important and subtle tool in the proper upbringing of children. A reasonable teacher's and is associated with reasonable expectations, and most students will be able to justify them. It is important for the teacher to remember that the most valuable and effective praise for a student is well-deserved and moderate. Look for a reason to praise your pupils, and you will definitely find it!
Photo : Ekaterina Pashkova.
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You can add the same, Only if you are very careful. Choosing the right moments, Sometimes we move away from the easel, And then we apply thick strokes, Here is real art for you. Each color born at the easel, Composed of many components. This is a very subtle science, Only flour for the uninitiated. Dunno : Well, now everything is clear to me, take the paints and mix them thicker, here's your painting. Listen, Tube, give me some paints and a brush, I will also draw pictures . Tube : Well, my dear, take it. Dunno (draws, sentences). Period, period, comma, the face came out crooked. Shorties dance "Point, dot, comma". Shorties laugh at Dunno's work. Dunno: Why are you all laughing. I'd better go to the Donut, I'll draw it. Scene: Donut. Dunno: Hello Donut! What are you doing? Donut: Yes, I'm thinking of a recipe for a new pie, I think it will turn out delicious. Dunno : What a cake, drop it soon, sit down, I'll draw you. Donut : Draw me? Dunno: Yes, sit down. So, don't fidget, Donut, otherwise it doesn't seem to work out. Donut: I'm sitting, yeah, right? So what does it look like??? Dunno? Dunno : Very similar, very, like that, everything... To be prettier, red nose, green ears, blue lips, and orange eyes. (thinking) And a big purple mustache. Everything, Donut, is ready, you can watch. (Donut went up to the portrait and almost fainted from fright .) Donut : Oh, Dunno, am I like that? Dunno : Of course, this one, but what else? Donut: And the mustache, why did you add it to me? I don't have them. Dunno: Well, they will grow up someday... Donut: Why is the nose red? Dunno: And this is to make it more beautiful. Donut: Why is my hair blue, is it really like that? Dunno: Blue, blue. Well, if you don't like it, I can make green ones too. Donut; No, Dunno, this is a bad portrait. Let me tear it up. Dunno: What?? Why destroy a work of art? Donut: Oh, right! Well, I'll show you now! (Fight). Dr. Pilyulkin : Hey, brothers, why are you fighting? Donut : Judge us Pilyulkin. Pilyulkin : Of course not you, some kind of garden scarecrow is drawn here. The artist, as I see it, did not work out of you. And if you take a brush, I'll give you an injection. Dunno: Well, here we go again with our shot. You draw, you draw, and no one even says thank you, everyone just swears. I don't want to be an artist anymore. The Dunno Musician scene. Dunno : Hello Guslya. Guslya : Hello Dunno. Dunno : What are you doing here so interesting? Guslya : Yes, Dunno, I composed a new melody today and now I am rehearsing it. Here, listen. Song Gusli . It is not enough to come up with music, it is not enough to write notes, It is necessary that the musicians could play well Musicians, musicians, all seemingly talented, But first get the right measure of skill. You can say anything, But you won't dissuade me, The scale creates a musician, And then, oh, advertising. Gamma creates a musician, And then, oh, advertising. It's not enough to jump on the stage with a bow tied around your neck, You won't win applause if you're not a musician, Musicians, musicians, everyone on the stage is just dandies, But success will hardly come if there is no skill. You can say anything, But you won’t dissuade me, There are few real musicians, Most of them play sluggishly, There are few real musicians, Most of them play sluggishly,
But you won't dissuade me, The scale creates the musician, And then, oh, advertising. Gamma creates a musician, And then, uh, advertising. Dunno: Hello, Guslya, teach me to play something, I also want to re-pe-not-tee-tee. Guslya : Please, Dunno, what instrument do you want to play. Dunno: Guslya : I think on the balalaika. Dunno: Not a balalaika plays too quietly. And there is nothing louder Guslya : There is a trumpet. Dunno : Well, give it here, I'll try it on the pipe. (Dudit). This, Guslya, is a very good instrument, it plays loudly. Guslya : Well, Dunno, study the trumpet. Dunno : Why should I study, I already know how. Guslya : No, Dunno, you still don't know how. Dunno : I can, I can. Here, listen. Guslya : What kind of music is this Dunno, you're just trumpeting, not playing. Dunno : No matter how I play it, I play it very well, loudly. Guslya : In music, Dunno, the main thing is not to be loud, it is necessary that it be beautiful. Dunno : And I can do it very nicely. Guslya : And it's not pretty at all. You see, Dunno is not capable of music at all. Dunno : You probably say out of envy that you want only to be listened to and praised. Guslya : And here is nothing like that. Take the trumpet and play as much as you like, let them praise you too. Dunno : Well, I will play. (trumpeting) Dr. Pilyulkin (Screams from behind the roofs) : What is that noise in our yard? Dunno : It's not noise, I'm playing. Doctor Pilyulkin : Stop right now, your ears hurt from your music. Dunno: This is because Pilyulkin, that you are not used to my music yet, you will get used to it and your ears will stop hurting. Dr. Pilyulkin : I don't want to get used to it, I really need it. Now get out of here with your nasty pipe. Dunno : but where am I interested to go? Dr. Pilyulkin : Get out into the field and play there. Dunno : Hello, who will hear me in the field? Doctor Pilyulkin: Do you really need someone to listen to you? Dunno : Yes, definitely! Dr. Pills n: Well, then go outside, where the neighbors will hear you, and if you don't leave, I'll prescribe you an injection. Dunno : All right, all right, just a shot. They won't let you play in peace.
( Dunno went outside and began to play near the neighboring house) Button : Listen, can I ask you to play somewhere else? Dunno : I think you can ask. Button : So I ask you to play somewhere else. Dunno : Where is it? Button : Somewhere far away from here! Dunno : But you won't hear anything there! Button : Never mind, I'll survive somehow! Dunno : Don't you like music? Button : No, I love music, but I just put my favorite doll to bed and you can wake her up! Dunno: These girls always have dolls in their minds. Chamomile : Don't, don't! Dunno : What is not needed? Chamomile : I say don't blow the trumpet! Dunno : I don't trumpet, I play! Chamomile : And don't play! Get out of here with your nasty. Pipe. Dunno: It's just that no one understands my music, they haven't grown up to my music yet. When they grow up, they will ask, but it will be too late. I won't play anymore, that's all. And I will become a poet, like Tsvetik. Scene: Dunno Poet. Flower: O!!! Who do I see, Dunno!!! Come in! Dunno : Hello. Listen, Tsvetik, teach me how to compose poetry. I also want to be a poet. Flower : And you have abilities. Dunno : Of course, I am very capable. Flower : Well, this still needs to be checked. Dunno : Check! Flower: Do you know what rhyme is? Dunno : Rhyme? I know…I forgot. Flower : Rhyme Dunno, this is when two words end in the same way. For example, a duck is a joke, a shortbread is a walrus. Understood? Dunno: Of course, I understood what was incomprehensible here. Flower : Well, if you understand, then come up with a rhyme for the word "stick". Dunno : "Stick" - "herring". Flower: Well, what a rhyme, my dear, "stick" - "herring". Dunno: They end the same way. Flower: This is not enough, my dear! The words need to be similar. A stick is a jackdaw, a stove is a candle. Well, do you understand what a rhyme is? Dunno : Got it, got it. A stick is a jackdaw, a stove is a candle. Tsvetik : Well, if you understand, then come up with a rhyme for the word "tow". Dunno: "rwakla". Tsvetik : What kind of "rvakla" is this? Neznayka : Ah, when they tear something, that's how it turns out "rvaklya". Flower: there is no such word. Dunno : Yes. Flower . No. Dunno : What if I can't find another word? Flower : So you have no talent for poetry. Dunno : WHAT? Well, then come up with a rhyme for this word. Flower: Wait a minute!.. Tow, Tow, Tow, Tow, Tow, Tow... Tow, Tow, Tow... Now, now, now... ( The flower stopped in the middle of the room, He folded his arms on his chest, folded his head on his side and began to think. Then he raised his head to the top, and began to think looking at the ceiling. What kind of word is this, strange... Yes, it doesn't rhyme, Dunno!!! (leaves) Dunno: Ahh! I will write poetry myself. ( Dunno began to compose poetry ..) Dunno : Brothers! Listen to the poems I wrote about you. Here, from the beginning, poems about Znaika. Torottyshka : Know, Know about you! Dunno Znayka went for a walk to the river, Jumped over a sheep. Znayka : One minute, Dunno, if I may, when did I jump over a sheep? I don't have that weird habit. Dunno: This is for the sake of rhyme, it is said that he jumped, but in fact he did not jump. Znayka: So why are you going to compose all sorts of lies because of rhyme? Dunno : Of course, why should I tell the truth? There is nothing to compose the truth, it already exists. Znayka: Try again, you'll find out! Well, read what you wrote about others there? Dunno: Listen to Toropyzhka. Hurry was hungry, He swallowed a cold iron. Torottyshka : Brothers! What does he say about me? I did not swallow any cold iron. Dunno : Don't scream! It was just for rhyme that I said that the iron was cold. Torotyshka : Well, I didn't swallow any iron, neither cold nor hot! Dunno : And I'm not saying that you swallowed hot, so you can calm down. You don't understand anything about poetry. Here I also wrote about the Donut. Torotty : Donut about you. Dunno : Donut has a sweet cheesecake under his pillow . Donut ; All this lies, there is no cheesecake there. Dunno. Doctor Pilyulkin : Brothers! We need to stop this bullying! Are we really going to calmly listen that Dunno is lying about everyone here? All: Enough! We don't want to listen anymore! These are not poems, but some kind of teasing. Hurry : Let him read! Since he has read about us, let him read about others. All : Don't! We do not want! Dunno : Well, if you don't want to, I'll go and read to my neighbors — All : What?
Dunno: Well, brothers, I won't... Just don't get mad at me. Let's sing our favorite song. (song A grasshopper was sitting in the grass) Scene: On a Journey. (Twilight, Dunno went out into the yard)
Dunno : Again, nothing happened to me. You try, you try, you invent all sorts of differences for them... And they only mock you and scold you in vain! I'm just an unfortunate little guy. Oh, who is this? (sees Znaika). Ah, it's you Znaika... Znaika: Why aren't you sleeping, Dunno? Dunno: Eh, Znayka, I can't do anything at all in my life. For example, everyone praises you: “Znayka is smart, Znayka is a head, knows everything ...” And everyone also praises Pilyulkin, even Donut and that one for his pies are praised, but no one praises me. Everyone just scolds and says that I can't do anything... But I can do everything, just not like others... Somehow differently, but no one understands this. Znayka : Listen, Dunno, but you can't do something that no one but you can benefit from. Dunno: But then I'll take it and leave you all... Know-it-all: Where will you go? Dunno : I will leave our city and become a traveler! Znayka: Well, a traveler... a traveler... You know, I read that the most incredible and even dangerous adventures often happen to travelers... Znayka's song. G.Gladkov. There are many unexplored countries Something is true, but something is a lie And nothing is known, but it is still interesting Let's say there is ice and snow in the north There a snowstorm does not subside all year 9000 There3 on drifting ice floes You can see a penguin
How interesting, how interesting But unknown, but unknown It seems that a lot of books have been written But somehow dry and insipid How interesting, how interesting If only I could get to this place Where they rose to the skies Mountains and forest.
Somewhere in the jungle between the vines of rides on the branches of the Big Pavian Walk large peacocks Hipples from Tina Say sands and sands You can die from longing ,and somewhere they boil oceans Far - far countries…
How interesting, how interesting is unknown, but it is not known ,that many books are written, but how dry and fresh how interesting it would be interesting, how interesting would get to this place ,where they rose to this place heaven Mountains and forest.
Dunno: Listen, Znayka, let's all go on some trip together! Znayka: To be honest, I've been thinking about this for a long time, Dunno. But I have not yet decided what is the best way to go hiking . On foot or by boat. Dunno: No better! Znayka: Why? Dunno: But your feet will get tired on foot, you will get tired of rowing in boats. Know-it-all: You can build one more car. Dunno : Well, then this is not a journey, but some kind of construction turns out. Znaika: Yes... Dunno: Yes... Znaika : What to do then? Dunno : Eh, I would like to fly like a soap bubble. Znayka : Are you talking about a bubble? Dunno : Yeah, this one (shows) is huge!!! Znayka: for sure! Need a hot air balloon, what could be better than traveling in a hot air balloon. Well done Unknown! Dunno: Great! Hooray! Let's go on a trip!!!! Znayka : So, let's make a ball of ficus juice, Shpuntik bring a pump, attach a long rubber tube to the pump. (Everyone found a job near the ball). (Everyone marches and sings a song.)
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So, what do you think, will I succeed? BUT? 
Is it really not me? 
(plays at another window) 
Then he grabbed his own chin with his hands and began to think, looking at the floor. Having done all this, he began to wander around the room and mutter...) 
This is for rhyme, it says that it lies, but in fact it does not lie. Here, listen to more about Pilyulkin. 
Nobody wants my art. Nobody understands my music. Nobody likes my painting. Everyone is offended by my poetry. ... Why does this happen? 
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