How to do gentleman dance

How to Do the Gentleman Dance Moves from PSY's Newest K-Pop Music Video « Dance Trends :: WonderHowTo

If you haven't heard of Korean pop sensation, PSY, then you really have been living under a rock. Or, you've just never run across any other human. Or, this is your first time on the Internet.

His absurdly popular music video, Gangnam Style, became the most viewed YouTube video EVER. Its catchy beat and awkward dance moves inspired millions of people to start dancing like PSY and his crew, from beautiful dance teams, to the horrible efforts of Nelly Furtado, to dance mobs across the world. Paper was even getting in on the action.

And guess what?

PSY has another sweet ass video out! It's called Gentleman and, of course, introduces another signature PSY dance move. Oh, and in less than a week it's already managed to amass almost 150 million views!

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The video is great and actually pretty funny, but if you're like me, you're planning on doing that dance at the next party you go to.

Or, at least in the mirror.

But if you're not a professional choreographer, you're probably not going to get much help just by watching the music video. Lucky for you, as with any popular dance video, there are a ton of tutorials hitting the web from pro and wannabe dancers.

So, I've compiled some of the best tutorial videos so far, which will hopefully help even the most rhythmically challenged people learn the soon-to-be huge Gentleman dance.

Learn the Moves from PSY!

Here's a practice video released on PSY's YouTube channel, which is just a loop of the dance moves so you can get a better look on how it's done. If you've got any skills, I'm sure this will help you out.

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Hit the Dance Floor—Step by Step

If you need better instructions, this video covers the whole dance routine for you, step by step. What more can you ask for?

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Another Breakdown—Side by Side

If you want to learn from a pro and watch PSY do his thing at the same time, this video is for you. So, you basically see PSY in the music video while he teaches the dance moves.

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Now, just like Gangnam Style, you're probably going to want to know what the hell PSY is singing, so since I am fluent in Korean, I have translated the lyrics for you below.

The English Translation

Just kidding, PolicyMic provided the translation.

"I don't know if you know why it needs to be hot
I don't know if you know why it needs to be clean
I don't know if you know, it'll be a problem if you're confused
I don't know if you know but we like, we we we like to party
Hey there
If I'm going to introduce myself
I'm a cool guy with courage, spirit and craziness
What you wanna hear, what you wanna do is me
Damn! Girl! You so freakin sexy!
Ah Ah Ah Ah I'm a...
Ah Ah Ah Ah I'm a...
Ah Ah Ah Ah I'm a mother father gentleman
Ah Ah Ah Ah I'm a...
Ah Ah Ah Ah I'm a...
Ah Ah Ah Ah I'm a mother father gentleman
I'm a, ah I'm a
I'm a mother father gentleman
I'm a, ah I'm a
I'm a mother father gentleman
I'm a, ah I'm a
I'm a mother father gentleman
I'm a, ah I'm a
I'm a mother father gentleman
I'm a, ah I'm a
I'm a mother father gentleman
I'm a, ah I'm a
I'm a mother father gentleman
I don't know if you know why it needs to be smooth
I don't know if you know why it needs to be sexy
I don't know if you know darling, hurry and come be crazy
I don't know if you know, it's crazy, crazy, hurry up
Hey there
Your head, waist, legs, calves
Good! Feeling feeling? Good! It's soft
I'll make you gasp and I'll make you scream
Damn! Girl! I'm a party mafia!
Ah Ah Ah Ah I'm a. ..
Ah Ah Ah Ah I'm a...
Ah Ah Ah Ah I'm a mother father gentleman
Ah Ah Ah Ah I'm a...
Ah Ah Ah Ah I'm a...
Ah Ah Ah Ah I'm a mother father gentleman
I'm a, ah I'm a
I'm a mother father gentleman
I'm a, ah I'm a
I'm a mother father gentleman
Gonna make you sweat.
Gonna make you wet
You know who I am Wet PSY
Gonna make you sweat.
Gonna make you wet.
You know who I am
Wet PSY! Wet PSY! Wet PSY! Wet PSY! PSY! PSY! PSY!
Ah I'm a mother father gentleman
I'm a, ah I'm a
I'm a mother father gentleman
I'm a, ah I'm a, I'm a mother father gentleman
Mother father gentleman
Mother father gentleman"

More PSY!!!

And if you can't get enough of PSY and his crazy dances, check out this video of PSY teaching some very adorable girls the Bibigo.

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Or just head back to our Gangnam Style dance guide to see where it all began.

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Step by Step: How to execute Dorian Electra's 'Gentleman' dance

To complement the release of their double single ‘Gentleman’ and ‘M’Lady’ last week, Dorian Electra has invited fans to showcase their ‘gentleman dance’ online.

The third and fourth singles released ahead of their upcoming project My Agenda, ‘Gentleman’ and ‘M’Lady’ hit streaming platforms last week accompanied by a classically quirky music video, directed by Electra and Weston Allen, which sees the shape-shifting pop disruptor embody their latest two characters.

A track penned by Electra and fellow alt-pop artist Mood Killer, alongside production by Count Baldor and Dylan Brady, ‘Gentleman’ sees futuristic clanking pop production meet medieval instrumentals in a trademark flick. Now, the single bids to be the latest online trend as fans take on the dance across social media channels such as TikTok and Instagram.

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So, you want to learn the ‘Gentleman’ dance? CelebMix is on hand to talk you through the moves.

  1. Tip your fedora

Every gentleman needs their headwear. Begin the dance by showcasing your headpiece with a bow. Whilst Electra’s ‘Gentleman’ character is fedora-sporting, the singer was quick to advise fans that: “You do not need a fedora to do the dance. We all must find the fedora within.”

2. Wave your gentle hand

Next up, it’s time to welcome your viewer to the ‘gentleman dance’ with a wave of your ‘gentle hand’. A special, and COVID-friendly form of the handshake, simply pass your hand across your body with the palm facing the sky.

3. Travel to a gentle land

The ‘Gentleman’ loves to travel, and a global pandemic won’t stop them from doing that. So take an imaginary journey and move both hands over the hills that lay in front of you.

4. Finish with a final fedora flaunt

To become the full embodiment of Dorian Electra’s ‘Gentleman’, all that remains to be done is one final showcase of your fedora – whether your headwear be physical or imaginary. For move four, simply repeat move one.


How to be a #gentleman #gentlemanchallenge #gentlemandance instructional extremely viral dance video. Nominate a fellow gent in the comments

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Now you’re ready to take part in the ‘Gentleman’ dance challenge. Follow in the footsteps of Electra, Mood Killer, Onyx the Fortuitous, Anthony Fantano, Chester Lockhart and more to share your interpretation online.

Are you taking part in Dorian Electra’s ‘Gentleman’ dance challenge? Looking forward to their upcoming project? Let us know @CelebMix on Twitter.

Gentlemen's Code. Rules of conduct for gentlemen of the Victorian era, relevant today

Evolutionary branch, who gave the world gentlemen, turned out to be a dead end. And examples of gallantry in this regard are no different from fire-breathing dragons: perhaps they once existed but no one saw them.

At least numerous legends and myths remained from dragons, rock paintings and illustrations in children's books, what is left of the gentlemen? An enticing name for a clothing brand parody show, languid novels, association with the four adventurers ("Courtesy is the best weapon of a thief") and the nauseatingly sweet image of Ashley Wilks with a shining halo around his head.
And yet we believe what they were. gentlemen, not dragons. They just turned out to be unviable and mutated into another subspecies. Consequently, habits also mutated. The upgraded descendants of sweet Ashley changed from moiré vests to leather jackets, suspenders - on belts, pants - on boxers with Goofy, culottes - on his own cut jeans, felt hat - on a cap" Spartacus". Instead of an album with poems, a gentleman of the 21st century starts albums on social networks, every fifth of which he modestly calls " I don't like being photographed! Instead of a theater, he invites a lady to karting. Doesn't order seafood at a restaurant because he doesn't know how to eat them properly but it will easily mend a tea-filled Claudia” and advises the latest smartphone model. What can I say everything has evolved along with the breed. For better or for worse, we be the judge lady!




Does not borrow money from a friend, except in dire need. Does not lend money to a friend or borrow a lady's heart, unless absolutely necessary (eg. not enough for beer a new computer or radio-controlled helicopter).
Does not mention names in conversation and also that how much do things cost. Does not mention the names of other ladies in front of his girlfriend, and also that how much does a new computer and a radio-controlled helicopter cost. He talks about beer willingly.
Don't touch strangers, if they are accompanied by strangers, who better not be patted on the back.
Don't pat strangers on the back and don't touch ladies you don't know.
Never takes off gloves when outdoors. He never takes pictures of girls on the street.
Always alert, gallant and considerate with the ladies. Always alert, gallant and considerate with ladies in miniskirts.
Avoids too much jewelry. Gold or diamond cufflinks and a watch on a chain are appropriate. Admire the excess of jewels on his lady, especially if there is nothing on it, except them, no. Always ready to offer her his cufflinks.
Deems necessary going to the ball Put a spare pair of gloves in your pocket. Deems it necessary going to a party put a spare condom in your pocket.
Climbing the stairs with a lady, the gentleman keeps a little in front, and going down - a little behind. Going up and down stairs always let the lady go first, to appreciate her figure from behind.
Before entering the hall, buttoning up his gloves and carefully adjusting his hair and tie. Before entering the hall, unfastens the guard on face control and, looking at a pretty girl persistently sends his lady to fix her hair.
Passing by the mirror, does not look into it. Passing by a mirrored display case, squints at her with a curious look and pretends that is interested in its content.
To the theatre, a gentleman goes first to a concert or music salon, to find the right places for yourself and for your lady. Doesn't go to the theatre, falls into a stupor at the phrase " music salon, "and at the concert will change places with a strange lady, if that one has the best in the forefront.
Considers it indecent to sit, if there are ladies nearby.
Considers it proper to sit, if a lady is already sitting on his lap.

Doesn't laugh out loud because excessive gaiety in society is indecent.
Doesn't laugh out loud since excessive gaiety at the meeting is fraught.
Tries to avoid well-known witticisms, remembering what" repetition spoils the impression. Tries to avoid button accordions, remembering what" for flood moderator can slap interest.
Do not smoke in the presence of a lady. Does not smoke in the presence of mother.
Doesn't eat fast. Do not eat in fast food restaurants.
Sitting down at the table, the gentleman takes off his gloves and covers his knees with a napkin. Sitting down at the table, always takes off his headphones turns off the cell phone and carefully puts the iPod back in the case.
Doesn't ask a lady to dance who quite obviously came to the ball with her beau. Doesn't ask a lady to dance who quite obviously came to the party with her lady.
Inviting a lady to dance walks up to her and bowing gracefully, makes an invitation in the most polite and delicate manner, as a compliment. For example: "Let me know which quadrille may I hope to have the honor of dancing with you."
Inviting a lady on a date, goes to the computer and by sending a cute emoticon, makes an invitation in the most polite and delicate manner, as a compliment. For example: "Preved, lovely gopher! How about meeting a real hottie?”
Considers it indecent to ask, under any pretext, for a fan or flowers from a lady, with whom he dances. Considers it indecent to ask, under any pretext, for a passport or a hand and a heart from a lady, with whom he spent the night.
At the end of the dance, he bows to the lady and brings her to the place or offers to take her to the buffet.
At the end of the date, he kisses the lady on the lips and takes her to a taxi or offers to take her to his house.
After taking the lady to her place, considers it right to take a bow and move away, but don't stay to talk to her. After taking the lady to her seat, considers it right to take a bow and move away, until her husband showed up.
Seeing that lady, refused to dance with him, immediately went to dance with another, explain this by her forgetfulness or ignorance of the laws of etiquette, but never start an argument about it.
Seeing that lady, refused to dance with him, immediately went to dance with another, will explain it using unprintable expressions, but still will not remove her from friends on Facebook.
Leaving the ball, tries to find the owners or organizers without fail, to, saying goodbye to thank them for their pleasure.
Leaving the party trying to find a girl without complexes in a green dress, to, saying goodbye thank you for the pleasure you gave him.
Goes down to the wardrobe after the end of the ball, to take outerwear for himself and his lady.
Goes down to the wardrobe, to take outerwear for yourself and your lady, without waiting for the end of the event, to get there first.
Knows that a ballroom acquaintance outside the hall is invalid, concerns only one evening and its continuation depends entirely on the desire of the lady. Fully agree with the 19th century gentleman!

Sometimes in childhood little men are praised by adults with the enigmatic word "gentleman". Did you help your mom handle a heavy bag or move an old lady across the street? Immediately: "You are a real gentleman!". And this word is pronounced in such a tone that you already consider it a compliment that pleasantly tickles pride.

Over time, additional characteristics and distinguishing marks are added to this foreign word, which creates confusion! Therefore, sometimes a real gentleman is associated with a "real man", "snob", "ladies' man" or even a "lousy intellectual". Today we will destroy these myths and show you a man who lives in the gentleman style.

Speak like a gentleman

Do you think that a gentleman is a spherical "real man" in a vacuum? This is not entirely true, because the "man" will not go into his pocket for a word, and the "gentleman" will do ... the same thing, but stylishly and beautifully.

Magic words

Gentlemen say please and thank you. Always, everyone, under any circumstances: you answer a call from a spammer advertising credits, or you turn to a waiter who is in no hurry to carry an order. Just taste these words right now: “thank you”, “please”, “please”, “thank you”! He said it, and he felt good himself, but what can we say about those around him, who, perhaps, hear this very rarely. The cashier, the waiter and the spammer will not forget you after such “magic words” (although we wish the guy with credits would stop calling you after all).

Don't look away at the phone!

Imagine an interesting conversation in which everyone is interested in participating. One relevant joke, the second, a witty remark! You are the real star of the conversation, everything is going well - exactly until the moment when one of the participants in the conversation receives an urgent message on Facebook. Hey! Think about how unpleasant it is to be the loser in an unequal battle with the phone. But gentlemen do not view SMS on a date, do not play snarky birds at a work meeting, and do not go online during a performance or movie, illuminating the dark room with the bright screen of their smartphone.

How not to be a snob (or at least not show it)?

If a gentleman is not a "man", then he is probably a "snob". It is not true, because the snob claims to be highly intellectual and tasteful, but arrogantly treats the majority. It's a bit un-gentlemanly, so it's best to talk to everyone in a positive way and not be mean. After all, a gentleman remembers the American proverb: “Be polite to everyone. You never know who will be among the twelve jurors.

Behave like a gentleman

So, we have decided that a gentleman is not a "snob". This means that he is a “macho”, who is distinguished by his straightforwardness and pronounced sexual attractiveness. It’s not the same either, because a real gentleman always answers the following two questions correctly.

How to respect your own and others' boundaries?

You can clearly see what foreign borders are in the Italian and German cafes. Italians do not hesitate to sit back to back and feel comfortable in the crowd. The Germans, on the contrary, try to stay as far away from each other as possible so as not to disturb someone else's personal space. A gentleman never forgets that someone is Italian at heart, and someone is somewhat aloof. He is observant and can assess the situation in the company even before he is at the common table. It's simple: if everyone is sitting in a tight circle, then you can move closer to those gathered, and if the interlocutors keep their distance, then you better follow their example.

Who pays in a bar or restaurant?

If you are in a company, by default everyone pays for himself. When going to dinner with a business partner or potential client, the gentleman will take an amount that will help pay for his own and someone else's order. What for? It is not uncommon for a wealthy person to refer to the absence of banknotes. In such cases, the gentleman pays for two, does not spoil his mood, but draws the appropriate conclusions. If you're on a date, always offer to pay for dinner. Is the lady persistently refusing? Then let her pay her half. You should not do her a favor and take away the account folder with the words “I am pleased to treat you.” You just need to pay and that's it. For more gentlemanly dating tips, see below.

Go on dates like a gentleman

The lady agreed to meet you and knows that you are a gentleman. She wants to feel relaxed in your company, and not break out of the clutches of the "ladies' man". Before you is a pure lady (otherwise, you would not be talking to her now), so she deserves the perfect date.

How to react to being late?

Psychologists say that there are two reactions to being late: to wait for the girl and not to wait for her. Perhaps the gentleman should stay for a while when the girl is very nervous about being late. At the same time, she asks her to wait and keeps you informed of her movements via SMS: “So, I already got out of the traffic jam. In 5 minutes I will park, ”etc. In general, it demonstrates how important you are to her. But if she is completely apathetic and, in principle, she doesn’t care whether you wait for her or leave, the answer is obvious.

How to deal with a feminist?

The f-word has already taken on a negative connotation, so men are wary of girls who declare on their first date: “I am a feminist!”. Here, the main thing is not to make hasty conclusions, this is not very gentlemanly, but to remember that everyone believes in feminism or little green men in their own way. The girl you're on a date with might have her own unique interpretation of feminism. Take a keen interest in her ideology and try to gently figure out what she means by this word and why she considers herself a feminist. Perhaps your views on life will even coincide.

What topics of conversation to leave for a closer acquaintance?

Of course, a true gentleman is sincerely interested in his companion and talks about what she likes. These words are carved in stone a long time ago and are the axiom of relationships. But not everyone is aware of the taboo topics that are recommended to be tactfully avoided for the sake of general peace of mind.

So, on a first date, in addition to the well-known no-nos like politics and religion, you shouldn’t start talking about parents (it’s better to ask about brothers and sisters), former lovers (just don’t), career plans (suddenly she doesn’t have enough stars from the sky now ). The best method is to carefully probe the ground with leading questions. The fact that the topic is successful, you will notice by the sparkle in the eyes of the girl: it means that this question really interests her - and develop it. And vice versa: even the most harmless topic in your opinion can stir up unpleasant memories and ruin the evening. Try to turn off the curve in time if you notice sad notes in the voice of the interlocutor and do not press if she does not want to continue the topic. As a real gentleman, you should express concern for the lady's experiences, but do not get carried away with drama - it's better to change the subject to something more pleasant. And yes, don't forget about yourself! If a lady is really interested in you, she will also be interested in your views.

Eat like a gentleman

Thousands of books have been written on the topic of table etiquette and a million infographics have been drawn. Boredom to death! After all, a real gentleman is not a “lousy intellectual” who drinks tea with his little finger sticking out. This is a person who comes out of any table situation with dignity.

What to talk about at the table?

The ability to make contact quickly and easily is what makes a gentleman a gentleman. It is convenient to perform such tricks at the table using a few simple rules:

  1. If you are in a large company, try to get everyone involved in the conversation, not just a select few. Maintain eye contact even with those who are silent.
  2. Express your point of view directly and unequivocally. So you motivate the interlocutors to express their opinion and actively express themselves. Yes, not everyone will agree with you, but the conversation will start.
  3. Keep some funny stories in your wallet. Everyone loves interesting life situations, told picturesquely and in the first person. By the way, the story may not be yours, but 100% interesting!

How to refuse an exotic dish?

A gentleman should not, out of courtesy, choke on all the dishes that are offered to him. You can make such a sacrifice only when visiting your beloved grandmother. But haggis made from lamb giblets, which Scotland is famous for, or an overseas delicacy that hastily crawls out of your plate, are not the most tempting treats. To avoid offense, you can gently ask if there is something completely obvious in the dish. After answering, it’s immediately disappointed (not happy) to say: “Thanks, but I can’t try. I'm sorry, but I'm allergic to this product."

What is the right way to stop drinking?

You know the joke about the real gentleman who is a master at refusing and agreeing to drink at the same time? He says: "Oh, leave!". But seriously, it's better to refer to the friends whom you promised to take home. It is desirable to talk about this in a friendly way, and not irritably. But if the interlocutor continues to insist, the gentleman may well refuse with equivalent pressure. After all, a gentleman is expected to respect not only the interests of others, but also his own.

Do you do this every day? We applaud you! Yes, right now, standing. You are accustomed to behaving like a gentleman, and this is worthy of praise. But if you have something to work with - go for it! It is very pleasant to be a gentleman. We are sure you will love it!

Amazingly up-to-date, unspoken rules and tips from a 100-year-old book for real gentlemen to help you become a more refined person Forms.
Back in 1883, its author, Thomas Edie Hill, compiled a collection of various information that would be useful to 90,005 business people and businessmen of the late 19th century.

The book contains chapters on calligraphy, the art of business writing, and the rules of social and business etiquette.

One of the chapters of the book has the title "Unclassified Laws of Etiquette". Which contains a list of rules of etiquette. Although this list was written over 100 years ago, and some of the ingredients are a bit mothballed, most of these rules and tips are still remarkably relevant today.

Ignorant, one who turns
the living room into a smoking room

The chapter of this book is designed to fill many gaps in etiquette and overcome lack of culture in society. Here are the unspoken rules and tips from the book that will help you become more sophisticated:

  1. Never exaggerate.
  2. Never substitute another.
  3. Never lose confidence.
  4. Never leave home with unkind thoughts.
  5. Never neglect the help of your friends.
  6. Never laugh at the misfortune of others.
  7. Never promise what you won't deliver.
  8. Never give a gift hoping to get something in return.
  9. Never talk too much about yourself.
  10. Never be late.
  11. Never make yourself a hero in words.
  12. Never refuse to politely answer a question.
  13. Never ask a child about family matters.
  14. Never give a gift saying you don't need the item.
  15. Never read letters that are not addressed to you.
  16. Never refuse to be polite to ladies.
  17. Never call to pay attention to the appearance of anyone present.
  18. Never refer to a gift that was once given, or to a courtesy that was once shown.
  19. Never associate with a bad company. Have good friends or have none.
  20. Never look over the shoulder of a person who is reading or writing something.
  21. Never pay undue attention to the scars, deformities, or defects of anyone present.
  22. Never attract the attention of another person by touching him. Just start talking to him.
  23. Never punish a child for mistakes they themselves made.
  24. Never answer questions that are not asked of you.
  25. Never praise your country when traveling abroad.
  26. Never call a new acquaintance by his first name unless you have been asked to do so.
  27. Never take someone else's things without permission.
  28. Never try to draw all the company's attention to yourself.
  29. Never show anger or irritation if an unpleasant incident occurs.
  30. Never jump into a conversation between two people without an apology.
  31. Never enter a room too noisily; never forget to carefully close the door when you leave.
  32. Never allow yourself to be overly familiar with a new acquaintance.
  33. Never suggest to another gentleman how he should behave towards ladies in their presence.
  34. Never forget to offer the most comfortable seat in a room to a disabled person, an elderly person or a lady.
  35. Never neglect the execution of an assignment that you have been entrusted with.
  36. Never send your guest to sleep on a spare bed in a cold, damp room.
  37. Never forget to respond to invitations in person or by mail within a week of receiving the invitation.
  38. Never forget to return courtesy or hospitality.
  39. Never put your feet out on a tram or other places where it will interfere with people passing by.
  40. Never forget to tell the truth.
  41. Never forget to return the money you borrowed.
  42. Never send a letter to another person to ask for a favor of any kind without a postage stamp for a reply.
  43. Never forget to speak words of kindness and encouragement to those who are grieving.
  44. Never refuse to accept an apology from another person.
  45. Never read greeting cards addressed to you if you noticed them in your living room before they were handed to you.
  46. Never, walking arm in arm with a lady, change sides with her too often.
  47. Never insult a person with harsh words while waiting for the approval of others.
  48. Never forget to treat your charges kindly if you have some kind of power.
  49. Never try to show yourself as a genius by paying attention to the mistakes or oddities of great people.
  50. Never forget to smile and dedicate the most pleasant words to your family and friends.

Surprisingly, for more than 100 years, the rules of good manners have not changed much.

The concept of the word "gentleman" has changed and evolved over time, going from designating a representative of a high class to simply a well-mannered, balanced and unflappable person who adheres to certain rules of behavior. And, of course, the main distinguishing feature of a gentleman was not clothes and a hat, but a strict adherence to principles, the so-called "gentleman's code."

We would like to introduce you to the basic rules of communication for gentlemen, which were first published in 1875 in A Gentleman's Guide to Etiquette by Cecil B. Hartley.

And almost all the rules of a gentleman's behavior are applicable now. Let's act like civilized people.

1. The height of bad manners is distraction while talking to your watch, handset or notebook. Even if you are tired and bored, don't show it.

2. Never interrupt someone who is speaking. Even just specifying a wrong date can be impolite if no one asked you to. It is even worse to finish his thought for a person or to rush him in any way. Listen to the end of an anecdote or story, even one you already know.

3. Never try to prove yourself right by raising your voice, being arrogant or derogatory. Always be kind and frank, free from any dictatorship.

4. Never, unless specifically asked to do so, speak about your own business or profession in public. In general, pay less attention to your person .

5. A gentleman with real intelligence and culture is usually modest. He may feel, when in the company of ordinary people, that he is intellectually superior to those around him, but he will not seek to show his superiority over them. He will not seek to touch on topics in which the interlocutors do not have the appropriate knowledge. Everything he says is always marked by courtesy and respect for the feelings and opinions of others.

6. No less important than the ability to speak well is the ability to listen with interest. It is this that makes a person an excellent interlocutor and distinguishes a person from a good society.

7. Never listen to a conversation between two people that is not meant for you. If they are so close that you can't help but hear them, you can respectfully just move to another place.

8. Be as brief and to the point as possible. Avoid lengthy distractions and off-topic remarks.

9. If you listen to flattery, then you must also open the gates of stupidity and excessive conceit.

10. Even if you are sure that your opponent is completely wrong, keep the discussion calm, express arguments and counterarguments without getting personal. If you see that the interlocutor is adamant in his delusion, then deftly turn the conversation to another subject, leaving him the opportunity to save face, and you to avoid anger and irritation.

11. Have strong political opinions if you like. But don't stick them out anyway, and never force other people to agree with you. Listen calmly to other opinions and don't get into heated arguments. Let your interlocutor think that you are a bad politician, but do not give him reason to doubt that you are a gentleman.

12. When talking about your friends, don't compare them to each other. Talk about the virtues of each, but don't try to enhance the virtues of one by opposing the vices of the other.

13. Avoid talking about anything that might hurt those who are absent. A gentleman will never slander or listen to slander.

14. Even a witty person becomes tiresome and ill-mannered when he tries to completely absorb the attention of the company.

15. Avoid too frequent use of quotations and great thoughts. As a spice to food, they can brighten up a conversation, but too much of them spoils the dish.

16. Avoid pedantry. This is not a sign of intelligence, but of stupidity.

17. Speak your native language correctly , at the same time, don't be too much of a formal correctness of phrases.

18. Never comment if others make mistakes in their speech. Paying attention with a word or other action to such mistakes of the interlocutor is a sign of bad manners.

19. If you are a specialist or a scientist, avoid using technical terms. This is in bad taste because many will not understand them. If, however, you accidentally use such a word or phrase, it would be an even greater mistake to immediately rush to explain its meaning. No one will thank you for highlighting their ignorance so much .

20. Never try to play the role of a jester in a company, because very quickly you will acquire the fame of a "funny person" for parties. This role is unacceptable for a true gentleman. Strive to make your interlocutors laugh with you, but not at you .

21. Avoid boasting . Talking about your money, connections, opportunities is very bad taste. In the same way, you should not be proud of your closeness with prominent people, even if it has a place to be. Constantly emphasizing "my friend, Governor X" or "my close acquaintance, President Y" is pompous and unacceptable.

22. Do not try to give your image excessive depth and sophistication, contemptuously refusing cheerful conversations, jokes and entertainment. Try to act in accordance with the society in which you are, unless it is contrary to other gentleman's rules.

23. It is completely rude, indecent and stupid to insert quotes, expressions and terms in a foreign language into your speech.

24. If you feel that you are getting angry in a conversation, then either turn to another topic or shut up. You can utter words in the heat of passion that you would never use in a calm state of mind, and for which you will later bitterly regret.

25. “Never talk about the rope in the presence of a person whose relative has been hanged” - this is a rude but true folk proverb. Carefully avoid topics that may be too personal for the interlocutor , do not interfere in other people's family affairs. Do not seek to discuss other people's secrets, but if they are still trusted to you. then consider this as a very valuable sign and never pass on your knowledge to a third party.

26. Although travel contributes to the development of the mind and outlook of a gentleman, it is still not worth inserting the phrases: “when I was in Paris ...”, “in Italy they don’t wear this ...”, and so on.

27. Avoid gossip . It looks disgusting in a woman, but for a man it is absolutely vile.

a woman who creates conditions in which the only thing left for a man is to be a gentleman

Alternative descriptions

In England: wife of a lord, also a married woman of the aristocratic circle

Polite address for a girl in England

Wife of a lord in England

Wife of a lord or baronet (obsolete)

Women's title in England

A married woman of an aristocratic circle

A noble lady from high society, an aristocrat

World champion Vera Menchik was called "the first . .. of the chess world" behind her back


A married aristocratic woman in England

Orson Welles' film "... from Shanghai"

Elite Mrs.

A woman who does not need emancipation

Pamphlet by the American writer Harriet Beecher Stowe "Justification ... Byron"

Musical by the American composer C. Porter "DuBarry was ..."

Musical by the American composer F. Lowe "Delightful ..."

Musical by the American composer F . Lowe "My fair..."

Francoise Sagan's novel "Painted..."

Film by Tinto Brass "Everyone... does it"

. Rolls-Royce flying badge

Shakespeare's Macbeth

Iron... - Margaret Thatcher

Woman in business



Wife of a lord or baronet

Lady from Manchester

. "mistress of the house" (English)

Gentleman's couple

Lord's lady

And gentlemen!

Lord's wife

High society woman


High society lady

Lord's wife

English madam

"Everybody. .. do it" movie


He is a gentleman, and she?

Lady in the highest circles

Noble Englishwoman

Business woman

. "... Macbeth of the Mtsensk District" (film)

A lady from the highest circles

The title of Mary Poppins

Walking arm in arm with a gentleman

. "frau and ... sat by the harps"

Couple to the gentleman

First ... state

Rolls-Royce flying emblem

English aristocrat

Madame from London

The second half of the Lord

noble English woman

pair of Lord

Spy Richelieu ... Winter

Application to year

Aristocrat from England

Shakespearean Macbeth

under the hand with a gentorolem

DAME Englishwoman

Englishwoman of blue blood

Society lady in England

Lady in England

Aristocrat in England

Polite address to a girl in England

What to do if a child wants to quit a dance class.

Come to stay.

Why does the child leave dancing? How to help a child overcome a difficult adaptation period, how can parents help their children? I will try to consider these questions based on my experience and many years of observations.

I emphasize that we are not talking about professional dances, but about dances "for oneself", "for the soul". But even the initial amateur level requires a serious attitude. Quitting what you started can become a bad trend in the future.

The departure of any child from the team is a big nuisance for the teacher. Frankly, I am familiar with more than one dance teacher and I see their experiences for every loss. On the one hand, they are mentally prepared for the "turnover of children's staff", on the other hand, having invested so much effort, labor and soul, it is painful and sad to watch them just leave. Often silently, in English, without "thank you" and "goodbye."

Wanting to dance and dancing are different things. From the auditorium, the movements seem simple and beckon into their arms. And then the "X-hour" comes, when a mother takes her daughter or son by the hand and goes to enroll the child in the team.

Most often, the choice of a team comes from the parents according to the principle "like it or not", whether there is enough money for this. I will dwell on the choice of the team in more detail.

In my opinion, the most effective way to find a team for your child is word of mouth. Do not hesitate to ask mothers where their child goes, what difficulties and pitfalls they face. Pay attention to the following points:

  • how much money is spent on costumes;
  • what kind of trips there are, what venues they perform at;
  • are there classes in the summer;
  • individual lessons and master classes;
  • other related expenses;
  • how many children were in the group at the beginning of the year and how many remained by the end;
  • the general atmosphere in the team, the traditions of the team.

You can get the most complete picture by talking to parents whose children have been studying for three or more years.

Annual concerts are held in any group. Being like them is not only interesting, but also useful. First, you will see the level of all groups. You can trace the creative growth from the first year of study and the third.

Listen to the child's opinion - how serious is his desire to dance. The classic version looks like "I really want!". It is desirable to record it, fix it in writing, because very soon the child will change his "testimony". Until this moment, we will get there.

So, the team is selected. The genre of dances does not matter, however, I will focus on one feature. In ballroom dancing, in addition to the gentleman's set, there is a "partner" item. This is a very important point that has ruined many couples. Because finding a new partner in three years will be, to put it mildly, not easy.

The dance teacher should please you and your child right away. It is important. Don't let his loud voice and demands scare you. Discipline in dancing is the main condition. Be prepared that your child will not be allowed to attend classes if he is late. In the world of dance, this is a very bad form. The sense of rhythm, musicality, plasticity, stretching - all this will be looked at, and do not be afraid if all this does not turn out. Everything is being worked out.

Only the teacher should be in the hall. One - many teachers adhere to this policy, so get ready to satisfy your curiosity in open lessons that suit all teams.

A good teacher will not hide from you that dancing is a traumatic activity. You don't have to be afraid of it, you just need to be ready for it. If you send your child to dances, make sure that your first aid kit contains at least an elastic bandage and drugs for muscle pain.

The number of children in a group is very important. Well, if there are up to ten of them. Then it’s not boring to study, and you can work out the elements with each. If there are more children, it's okay. You need to be afraid of teachers who say: "I have a lot of them, children, I can't keep track of everyone!" Remember, a good teacher has every child under control. Always suitable, correct, prompt!

Homework should be done and preferably not 10 minutes before entering the hall.

An experienced teacher will immediately see if the child did nothing at home. Dancing loves systematic classes and constant practice. If the apartment is small - do not despair. She herself has one. My daughter trains outdoors in the nearest school yard in the summer, and in the winter she manages to fit into the small space of a one-room apartment. There would be desire.

Speaking of desire, motivation. Without it, you won't get far. The child must have a clear idea why he goes to dances and what he wants. I emphasize, not parents, but a child! You need to create (invent) a goal. It’s easier with my child - she goes to classical choreography because she wants to dance Irish dances well, and she really likes Irish dances, because she just likes them, and she already has a medal and wants more. But it was not always so. Before the first championship, I came up with a system that looked something like this: my daughter voiced her little dream (for example, the usual girl's wishlist - lip gloss). Okay, it's worth 10 stars. For each objective success (in our case, good grades in the diary that the teacher gives to each child), I stuck on a star. Accumulated ten stars - get a gift. Such a system worked with my child, only you, the parents, can choose the most effective system for your child.

It is enough for someone to cite people with a beautiful posture as an example, or at concerts between times to emphasize that very soon you will be on this stage - my glorious diligent little baby!

With some of the children, such a number will not work, and parents will have to work hard to help their child go towards the goal. In any case, put away the whips, stock up on gingerbread. Praise for the smallest successes. Do homework together. The primary task of parents is to involve, captivate, interest, support in every possible way.

The first year is the hardest one... Don't expect quick results. They won't, and that's okay. Keep in touch with the teacher. Ask him about the child's weaknesses and successes. Do not rush to scold the child. Moscow was not built in a day. You need to spend a lot of time and effort to learn the first bunch, and even more so the first dance. In fairness, I will say that even now I will not dance the simplest daughter's dance. The ability to grasp, assimilate is a very difficult thing: what one child learns in one lesson, another, God forbid, will grasp by the third. Therefore, do not compare your child with others. For example, Katya can stagnate, and after six months open up and overtake Masha in success. Masha, on the other hand, can easily slide down, because, seeing her superiority over others, she relaxed and stopped taking her homework seriously.

"You don't have to go today." No. Skipping dance classes without an objective reason is highly undesirable. Neither the birthday of a beloved grandmother, nor an attack of universal laziness can cancel a lesson. The body quickly forgets the movements, and you can cross out all the accumulated successes with innocent gaps.

"I don't want to. I won't go." One fine day - it may come in a month or three - the child becomes in a pose of mischief and declares that he will no longer walk. An emotionally tearful moment of weakness divides the family into two opposite camps. Some family members stand up for the child, calling not to deprive the child of childhood and not to force. Others are confused. It is not forbidden to stay, but it is better to do it quickly, because the further fate of your dances depends on how you cope with the "crisis of the genre". From now on, you are not only a parent, you are a psychologist who must provide not only physical support (bring the child), but also psychological.

I know very well how hard it is to find words of encouragement. The phrase "I understand you" helps me out. Start any conversation with a child with this phrase. Make no mistake. Hug the child, make it clear in every possible way that you will soon overcome difficulties together, that the child will definitely succeed!

There are reasons behind every "I don't want to". You will have to conduct a detailed examination in order to identify and cope with problems.

"Boring." There is such a problem. The child came to dance and work out monotonous steps every day, he is not ready. This moment just needs to be experienced. You and your child. Words of support from loved ones, some nice little things, joint walks will help to overcome this really difficult period.

"The teacher doesn't like me." In this situation, a lot depends on the attitude of the parents to the raised tone and the acceptable limit of physical impact on the child. Let's consider a standard situation.

The teacher says: "Knee! (in a calm voice) Knee! (loudly) Knee! (very loudly)." "Knee!" - and a slap on the knee. For some, a slap on the knee is acceptable, for some...

Personally, I am calm about the last point. For those who are not initially ready for such a turn of events, I can advise you to learn in advance about the style and methods of teaching. There is no need to be afraid of comments and criticism.

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