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How To Give A Lap Dance That Will Drive Your Man Crazy | Pleasure Mechanics
If you've ever fantasized about mesmerizing your man with a slow striptease before sex, rest assured you're not alone.
Wanting to tap into your inner diva and mastering the art of seduction to sexy music is totally natural (not to mention incredibly sexy).
Foreplay is not only just a fun part of initiating sex, but it can actually be an incredible time to bond you to your partner — and what better way than by turning your man on by learning how to give a lap dance with the sexiest movements your hips can offer?
Men enjoy lap dances — but there’s more to it than just watching as you gyrate and dance. It can also be an incredibly freeing moment for you as well, and make you feel sexy and confident before you even touch each other.
But lap dances can also seem a bit intimidating, and that’s okay!
Those of us who aren’t skilled in dancing or have never given a lap dance before might not know where to start. But once you’ve got a good place to begin, you can have an incredible amount of fun learning how to lap dance and showing off your best moves.
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If you want to get your man hot and bothered as a special occasion or even as a new form of foreplay before things really take off in the bedroom, then lap dances can be an intimately fun way to initiate sex.
We know a thing or two about how couples can improve their sex lives and become better lovers, and sharing something as passionate as a lap dance can certainly make for an interesting evening together.
Lap dances should last as long as you want them to, depending on your level of comfort, your playlist, and the overall mood. While the cost of a lap dance typically varies at certain venues, it's totally cool to give your boyfriend a lap dance. (And if you want to charge him, that's up to you.)
One of the most common questions you might have before you start is: “How can I give my man the best lap dance of his life without seeming like an amateur?” And if you’d like to know the answer to that, keep reading!
How to Give a Lap Dance Like a Total Pro
1.Treat the lap dance like it's a (sexy) special occasion.
Lap dancing isn't an everyday activity, but a seductive gift you can offer your man for special occasions.
These days, people automatically assume that erotic dance is only for strip clubs and music videos, but it's so much more than that.
Imagine your lover being completely spellbound by your every move, quivering with desire, ready to follow your every command. Learn to lap dance, and you'll gain tremendous erotic power and confidence.
2. Practice your lap dance moves.
Long before you give your man a lap dance, start dancing for your own pleasure. Find a few songs that you think are sexy and seductive and then practice dancing to them, enjoying the way the moves feel in your body.
Ditch the mirror and don't worry about what looks sexy. Focus on what feels sexy to you.
One of our golden rules is "get out of your head, get into your hips!" Women spend too much energy worrying about how they look, what their lover is thinking and if they are performing adequately enough.
Take all of that energy and focus on how you feel. Bring the focus of your attention down into your body and notice the sensations of pleasurable movement.
Start with your hips. Place your hands on your hips and sway your hips left and right. Notice how your whole body curves in response. Then thrust your hips forward and notice how your spine arches. All of these bends and curves are crazy sexy.
Have a little extra flesh? Use it to your advantage and accentuate your curves as you bend and sway with the music.
Firmly put your hands on the arms of the chair. Sway your hips from side to side.
Next, find a song that you love dancing to. You can choose a fast, booty-thumping song that makes you feel feisty and alive. Or you may prefer a sensual dance to a slow love song.
Find the songs that make you feel most alive, most erotically charged and most ready to seduce your lover. Then dance to the song over and over again until you are at ease, moving your hips and swaying to the rhythm.
You don't have to choreograph a whole routine, just find a few good moves that feel sexy to you. The more confidence you have, the more desire you will build in your audience of one!
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3. Get your space ready.
When you are ready to give your man a lap dance, take a few moments to prepare the space.
Clear the floor around your most comfortable chair. Imagine your man sitting in the chair, beaming at you with love and appreciation. Make sure you can walk all the way around the chair so you can dance in a 360-degree circle of seduction!
Dim the lights if you can or flood the room with candlelight. You may even want to buy colored light bulbs to create a new atmosphere. It doesn't take much to create the thrill of novelty!
Create an atmosphere that makes you feel sexy, seductive and in the mood to dance. As you prepare the space, start taking long deep breaths and get yourself in the zone.
4. Make sure your body and mind are in the zone.
What you wear for your lap-dancing performance is totally up to you.
You can go all out and dress up in your finest dress and high heels, go out on a date and give your lover a lap dance as dessert. Or you can hide gorgeous lingerie under casual clothes and surprise him on Sunday morning.
Make it your own. After all, a lap dance is an authentic expression of your sexuality!
You'll be getting very close and intimate with your lover, so take the time to take a long shower or bath and anoint yourself with a scent you love.
You'll feel more confident and relaxed if you take a few moments to tend to your body before you present yourself to your lover.
Set aside all worries about mundane life. Ditch your to-do lists. Mindfully step into the role of seductress.
Your only job for the next stretch of time is to feel so good in your body that you cast a spell, seducing your lover into your pleasure zone.
As much as you are giving a gift to your lover, you are also giving yourself the gift of a time to feel sexy, fully alive and sensually awake.5. Build up the anticipation — it will drive him wild!
Don't tell your man what he has in store for him, but hint that you have something special to offer him. Let him wonder what's coming next.
Start your lap dance in whatever style you prefer. You can put the music on and strut your stuff.
Or just turn away, look over your shoulder as the song begins, wink at him and start to move. Whatever you do, commit fully.
Trust us, he is not going to evaluate your dance moves. He'll get excited at the opportunity to take in all of your beauty and will love the confidence in your body.
Don't worry about getting every move right and just let yourself have fun with it. Your own pleasure is the secret sauce that will make your lap dance the most memorable of his life.
So own your power, move for your own pleasure, and know that you are giving him the profound gift of watching your gorgeous body dance!
6.Ladies, strip tease it out.
Start far away from him, and time your approach with the song so the last few moves are right on his lap.
As you gain confidence, you can even create a playlist for a multi-song seduction, starting slow and working up to serious grinding on his lap. But to start, pick one sexy song and know that you have three to five minutes to give it your all.
From far away, make eye contact with him and slowly start moving into your dance. Then peel away one item of clothing at a time — or leave it all on! You can even combine striptease and lap dancing, and he will love it, no matter how nervous you are.
If it makes you feel more confident, leave all your clothes on and leave the undressing for later. Or strip down just to your lingerie. This is your expression, so do what makes you feel best.
As you move, slowly approach him and then back away. Then move around behind him, lightly stroking his hair and shoulders. Let him feel your breasts and hair graze the nape of his neck.
Then circle back around. Your goal is to tease him as much as possible, making him ache to touch you.
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7. Keep it simple.
You don't have to go crazy with your lap dance!
Once you have built up anticipation, start dancing closer to him. When you feel ready, let the climax of the lap dance begin.
Turn so you are facing away from him and slowly let your hips sink closer and closer to his lap. Whether he gets fully erect or not, remember that an erection is not a full measure of his arousal. So don't worry about how hard he is.
Here are four simple moves for once you are dancing in his lap:
1. Start by swaying your hips left and right.
This simple move is surprisingly powerful. Add a little dip by bending your knees as you sway.
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2. Lower your hips so they are just barely above his pants and then move your body in circles in time with the music.
3. Try a pelvic tilt by thrusting your hips forward and back.
Give your hips an extra push as you move back to make your booty bounce in a delicious way!
4. The fourth move you can try is a simple bounce squat.
Position yourself squarely above his lap and then squat quickly up and down, bouncing on his lap without ever making full contact. This move is a huge tease and turn-on. Play with speed; start with slow squats and then bring up the tempo until you are bouncing in the air, just above him.
Glance over your shoulder once in a while and make eye contact. He'll want to both look in your eyes and at your beautiful body — the desire to do both will be a delightful form of erotic tease!
8. Remember to finish the lap dance strong.
When you are ready to finish off as the song comes to an end, turn around so you are facing him, straddling one or both of his legs. Then do the same four moves: sway, thrust, circle and bounce.
Facing your lover means that your breasts (covered or not, they will still be a treat) will be at about face level. Use this to your advantage, and as you move your hips around his lap pay attention to all the delicious ways you can tease him.
When the song comes to an end, you have two choices. You can settle right into his lap and then let the charge take you into making out (and whatever other intimate activities you have on your mind!).
Or, you can get up and strut right out of the room, leaving him out of breath and dazzled by your presence. Remember, you are in charge!
9. Give your sexy self a pat on the back.
Choosing to give your lover a lap dance is a very powerful step toward more sexual confidence, in and out of the bedroom.
When you can accept the fact that you are gorgeous and a worthy object of his attention, you start to forget to care about the little imperfections and instead focus on the incredible pleasure your body can feel.
Lap dancing is a gift for both of you. Your lover gets the joy and arousal of watching you dance, and you get all of the pleasure of feeling like a powerful seductress.
Remember, start the journey by setting aside time to dance in private and bring your awareness to how much pleasure you can feel just by moving to one of your favorite songs.
Once you feel great and are ready to seduce your lover with a lap dance, follow the steps in this guide and you'll create a potent pleasure spell that is sure to transport you both.
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You might associate lap dances with strip clubs and late nights, but that doesn’t have to be the case. Men like a little spice, even in long-term relationships, and giving a good lap dance to the guy you love can be an excellent way to show him how you feel and bring a little sparkle to his eye.
Of course, you can’t very well deliver if you don’t know how to give a lap dance, which is why we’re going to talk about the ins and outs of actually giving him a lap dance in this article. Below, we’ll cover the basics, including how to bring up the subject with your guy, how to practice and what to wear, among other details.
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Keep in mind that the finished effect will either be sexy or bumbling, depending on how much time you devote to getting it right beforehand. If you want to give a good lap dance, don’t rush the process. Instead, follow these steps and you’ll do great.
1. What to Wear
When giving him a lap dance, one of the most effective moves is to remove clothing as you go along. This not only ups the ante little by little, but gives you an opportunity to do something a bit different every once in a while, removing various bits of clothing in lieu of dance moves … or better yet, turning the removal of clothing into dance moves.
Wear layers so you can strip down. Of course, you can’t be dressed like you’re heading out into the Alaskan wilderness when you start, but there are ways to layer up without looking bulky or silly. For instance, you can wear a bra, a camisole and a sheer blouse on top, perhaps embellished with a feather boa. On bottom, you might consider wearing thong underwear, tiny skintight shorts and a skirt over them. That gives you several pieces to play with, which can really help heighten the effect of the dance overall.
Incorporate the type of clothing that your man finds sexy. More on that here. Get more hints in our article on strip teases.
2. Practicing Your Skills Beforehand
If you don’t know how to give a lap dance, this party won’t go very far, now will it? So the first thing you have to do is learn how. This is easily achieved just by watching YouTube, but if you need some additional inspiration from an expert, Carmen Electra has some great videos. Important moves to master are circling the chair, climbing onto his lap, and dipping down and back up. Of course, there are many others, but these will make a great foundational repertoire.
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Remember to play up your assets. If you’re small-chested but have a really nice behind, make sure that faces him for at least part of the dance, and run your hands over it lightly. If your breasts are your best feature, make sure they’re front and center.
However, you shouldn’t worry too much about your body. If you need a confidence boost, then check out tips to love your body.
3. How to Suggest Giving Him a Lap Dance
One of the key ingredients in a good lap dance is a lack of awkwardness. If things feel bizarre or weird between the two of you, it won’t be very much fun for anyone, now will it? That means that the way in which you bring up the subject has to be casual, calm and naughty. A little shyness is fine, but if you lack confidence, so will he. When suggesting the dance, put on a playful or rowdy face. Be coy, inviting him “into your chambers,” or to “step into your office.” Maybe turn it into a role play scene. Make it fun, and be confident.
4. Spice Things Up
Unlike girls who give lap dances in strip clubs, you’re actually at liberty to touch and take things further (lap dances work well for sex!). Lucky for both of you, right? Instead of keeping the requisite distance between the two of you, sprinkle a few extra moves into your lap dance, stroking your hand down his chest or up his legs, kissing him on the lips or the neck, and making full contact once in a while.
Check out this post about foreplay for more ideas. Of particular notice is dry humping, which is essentially what a lap dance is! Of course, you’re free to do even more than that if you want (wink, wink), but pulling away once in a while can heighten the anticipation.
Keep in mind, though, that the no touching rule can actually make things even more exciting in some cases. If you want to go this route, just tell him at the start of the dance (in your sultriest voice, of course) that he better keep his hands off you or you’ll call your manager. Then, whenever he makes a grab for you, simply take his hands and pin them over his head or behind his back, or make him sit on them. If you’re feeling especially frisky and want to break a few rules, slap some handcuffs on him to include elements of light bondage.
5. Making It Complicated or Simple
This really depends on you and your man. If you have a dance background or gymnastic moves, complicated might just suit you. If you’re like most of us, however, simple is probably more your jam. In that case, go with it. Slow and sexy is perfect for lap dancing.
6. Which Music to Play
Marvin Gaye comes to mind as the typical lap dance music, and while “Let’s Get It On” certainly sends a pretty clear message, there are plenty of other choices out there as well. Think some Usher, which has a faster beat but still contains plenty of innuendo. If you want to move a little bit more slowly, there’s a whole world of R & B for you to explore. And you can always let your own tastes as a couple dictate what you like: anything with a decently slow, slinky beat will do the trick. This post has more more ideas for sexy music, and these songs are great for lap dances specifically!
Remember to practice your lap dance with the music you choose. If all you do is practice along with videos, your timing might be off when you play the music you’ve compiled. Speaking of compilations, make sure the songs you pick transition smoothly from one to the next, without weird interruptions that could throw off your mojo.
7. Design a Good Build Up
One of the most important components of giving him a lap dance is a good buildup. You can’t just dive straight into a bunch of grinding and hope it will be sexy. Similarly, feather light touches and a little bit of wiggling does not an entire lap dance make. Instead, you have to escalate the action all the way throughout.
The best way to ensure you’re building during the whole dance is to design a routine beforehand. Mix and match your moves so that you’re always going a bit further as each minute ticks into the next. Of course, it’s okay to occasionally back off or slow it down, but the overall feeling should be of rising action. Think of a book or a movie: in general, each “scene” should be a little more intense than the last. A little sexier, a little closer, a littler more risqué.
8. Calm Your Nerves Beforehand
Sure, a little bit of nervousness is cute, but if your bashfulness makes you unable to, you know, perform, then what’s the point? If you find yourself too shy to truly make it happen without some help, have a drink or two beforehand. In fact, a night when both of you are having a few glasses of wine (such as a holiday or anniversary, when you’re likely to be celebrating already) can be perfect, because your man will lose his initial inhibitions as well.
See? Giving a lap dance isn’t as hard as you think it is, provided you take the time to practice and set everything up beforehand. Not only is it totally doable, giving him a lap dance can make your relationship a lot more fun and bring you closer to one another.
Consider saving this surprise for a special occasion, like his birthday, a holiday or your anniversary. It will have a lot more impact if he doesn’t know about it beforehand, so don’t tell him you’re practicing or even hint at the surprise. Instead, whip it out at a totally unexpected moment and watch his eyes shine!
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Every man likes a woman's body, and when a woman's body performs some kind of dance moves, the man simply begins to melt like a piece of ice and idolizes his woman. It's no secret that every man just dreams that his chosen one would dance a private erotic dance for him. Today, dear girls, we will give you some tips to help you learn how to dance a lap dance.
If you have read up to this paragraph, then you probably decided to still learn to dance and surprise your young man. The first thing we need is to overcome ourselves, to throw out of our heads all the prejudices and embarrassments that can only arise in your head. Even if you are not a slender model, even if your body is not perfect, forget about it and remember that your dance will be great. Secondly, do not worry during the dance, even if something does not work out for you or you do something wrong, there is nothing to worry about. Any movement can be replaced by something else, and your chosen one clearly does not belong to professional dance judges.
If you have overcome all the fears, then move on to the next one. To the manner of behavior during the dance. Now, let's talk about your perspective. During the dance, try to look your chosen one in the eyes, the look should be like that of a cat, sometimes playful and cheerful, and sometimes bold. It is this look that will help you awaken passion in your young man.
Behavior and so on are undeniably important in dance, but one should not forget about the external environment, namely lighting. Not a bright light, the light of a night lamp or a sconce is suitable for dancing. Not bad enough, your movements will also be visible on your shadow.
One of the most important things in a lap dance is your clothes. Clothing should be light and fairly easy to remove. So that during the dance you do not suffer with fasteners, buttons and zippers, otherwise your dance will definitely not go according to plan, given that there will still be some kind of excitement. For example, you can take a classic outfit that you have obviously seen in many films. For example, a jacket and tie that barely hangs around your neck. The jacket can be replaced with a translucent white shirt or something similar. High heeled shoes can be used as shoes. From underwear, thongs in conjunction with stockings. Seeing you, a young man will be delighted even without dancing, and in fact the outfit in this case is not yet a key moment.
Remember not to immediately pull off your clothes and get naked in front of a man. As a rule, a man likes mystery more than open nudity.
You can use a chair as a dance equipment, you can perform a sufficient number of interesting movements on it, or you can simply put your young man on a chair in the middle of the room and start dancing.
Everyone knows that there can be no dance without music. So for dancing, and even more so for this, you need to choose a decent composition. It is better to choose a track that both you and your chosen one like, but remember that you must repeat the movements to the beat of the music, otherwise the dance may come out not what you wanted.
Do not get involved in dancing for a long time 3-7 minutes for dancing will be enough. And so the climax. For you, we have prepared several training videos that once went on TV. In our opinion, these lessons are worthy. Alisa Malkova will be your erotic dance teacher for the next 10 lessons.
Many women know that a lap dance for a husband can strengthen family relationships and make them more sensual and romantic. But how to prepare such a gift for your loved one? After all, you want not just to spin to the music in front of the missus, but simply to slay him on the spot! And here tips on preparing a private dance come to our aid.
Getting into the role
Probably every girl who has ever tried to give her lover an erotic dance has come across this strange feeling of awkwardness and shame... It turns out either an exaggeratedly sexy image, which is funny to both, or too constrained, clamped movements that are unlikely to really “turn on » man.
And to prevent this from happening, learning private dance should begin with emancipation. Try to dance in front of the mirror as often as possible, admire your body and movements (namely, admire, and not look for flaws!). Turn on the erotic music you like, try to feel it and feel your natural sexuality, femininity. After all, if you do not convince yourself of your irresistibility, how will you be able to charm your husband with a dance?
Creating an atmosphere
The worst mistake a woman can make in a lap dance is not to prepare the right atmosphere for him in the room! This includes everything: the atmosphere, lighting, and music. It is worth decorating the room with candles and light incense sticks. The dim light of a beautiful table lamp will also be excellent lighting - the main thing is that twilight reigns in the room, intriguing and exciting. You can transform a room with large pieces of fabric on furniture and other "decorations". Music is also an important part. Let her be in the style that both like, and most importantly - under her you should want to move and seduce!
We use accessories
To make your private dance more intense, you can use "stage props" in your sexual performance:
- Chair. You can seat your loved one on it and sit on his knees during the dance. You can use a chair while dancing, squirming on it and arching in sexual positions ...
- Headband, ribbon, light scarf. These things can be used to intriguingly blindfold your loved one or entangle his hands (after all, we remember the main rule - he should not touch you during the dance).
- Soft pen. They can gently touch a man, caress him and slightly tease a loved one, drawing a feather over his body during the dance.
- Tie. "Time-tested" accessory for private dances! Put it on a man and lightly pull on the tip of a tie, use it yourself in the form of a business woman or a strict teacher ... What a fantasy!
Learning to dance
And, of course, if you want to stage private dances for your beloved, learning beautiful movements should be at the forefront! Graceful and seductive dance sequences, body flexibility and the ability to improvise to music - this is what a good private dance is built on. In addition, an experienced professional will not only help you learn the chords and develop the flexibility of movements, but also put the number to the desired music, share wise advice.
You can find such specialists in our pole dance studio "1366" in Moscow! Highly qualified trainers with extensive teaching experience will give you private dance lessons, help you learn the art of improvisation and put on a beautiful, musical number for your lover.
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Dance is not only the movement of the body, it is, first of all, the movement of the soul. Dance can say a lot, convey your mood and state of mind. A dance for a loved one is also very romantic and seductive. If you want to please your loved one with an unusual surprise that will surely be remembered for a long time, we recommend that you learn how to dance the dance, which will be a wonderful addition and "highlight" to your romantic meetings.
A beautiful dance for a loved one
study completely free right at home ! To do this, you just need to watch a video lesson called "How to dance seductive dances. " The author of this video is the famous dancer and choreographer Keira Lachey. The version of the dance proposed by her is designed for the widest range of performers - from beginners to professionals. Therefore, even if you do not have any choreographic training, you should not be upset, because you can learn to dance thanks to this video. It is very convenient that the training lesson allows you to study at home without outside help. Thus, you can devote as much time to training as you want, and at the same time you do not have to adapt to other people.
Seductive dance video
The author of this video demonstrates a whole choreographic composition that will allow you to dance a beautiful dance for your partner. Of course, training should begin with mastering the individual elements of the dance, and only then, when you learn how to perform each individual movement well, they can be combined into a dance. At the same time, we advise you not to concentrate solely on the dance technique, first of all, your dance should come from the heart in order to fully convey your feelings for your partner. Therefore, you should not be upset if you suddenly fail to do something perfectly, in this case, the sincerity of the performance will be able to compensate for minor technical shortcomings. We wish you pleasant viewing and successful learning!
Many girls and women from year to year ask themselves the question: what to give a loved one?
Some do not want to deviate from stereotypes, and without thinking twice, they buy something necessary for everyday life or for personal hygiene.
For example: a set of screwdrivers, cologne, razors and more. But, if you want to make an unforgettable gift to your loved one, then we will help you in this choice.
The most original gift
What gift can surprise a man? It must be original, enchanting and, most importantly, sexy. The most suitable choice is erotic dance. To do this, you need to follow a plan for its preparation.
First of all, you need to gain skills in the field of erotic dance.
- To do this, you can sign up for strip plastic lessons, where professional choreographers will teach you the art of undressing sexually to the music. But I warn you, such activities at this stage of life are not cheap! Therefore, there is an option to download online strip dance lessons or watch a number of videos on this topic.
- If you calculate your figure is not ideal, then you can visit strip aerobics. This is a great way to tighten your forms, as well as become more flexible and plastic.
- Of course, no one canceled self-improvement. You will have to take some time to get to know the capabilities of your body and prepare a series of clear movements. But, in no case do not prepare a clearly choreographed dance, because in a sexual gift for a man there must be improvisation in order to give free rein to your feelings. And also be sure to spend some time in front of the mirror to hone facial expressions.
Pay more attention to the beauty of your body, rather than the correct execution of movements, because in front of you is your beloved man, not a choreographer.
For your unforgettable surprise, your loved one needs to prepare a place where, in fact, everything will happen. Be sure the room should be twilight and candles to create an intimate atmosphere. You can still use an aroma lamp, but after consulting with experts in choosing the oils used.
If you are shy, due to lack of experience, in speaking in front of an audience, try to illuminate the place of your performance more brightly, but at the same time darken the place where the hero of the occasion will be, so as not to see his face.
Some women say that in the first minutes of such a performance they did not know where to put their hands, so you can use additional items, such as a hat, scarf, chair, etc.
To make your gift more sexy, choose underwear that fits perfectly and emphasizes your dignity.
A more suitable color for this kind of dance is red. Many scientists consider it the most exciting.
For erotic dance, choose music that touches your senses and makes you want to dance.
Of course, it is better if it is a slow composition, preferably one with which you and your loved one have positive memories.
The guarantee that your unforgettable gift to a man will go with a bang is your look. Do not look at the wallpaper or at the ceiling. Look only into the eyes of your partner, without looking away!
Prepare a romantic candlelit dinner or take a bath with rose petals and wine to set the man right before your surprise. This will set it in the right direction.
Do not be afraid to be sexy, because in front of you is your loved one who loves you. Be sure - your man will appreciate such an extravagant gift!
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Striptease as a gift is controversial. Someone will be delighted with such a present, and someone will be shocked. Experts told which men would appreciate a spicy gift, and also gave advice and basic lessons on how to prepare a private dance on your own and how to create an appropriate atmosphere for home striptease.
From Western films, we clearly understood - a striptease as a gift will please any man. Yes, and a woman, if we are talking about a private dance, performed by a man. Ladies even take strip dancing lessons themselves to surprise their beloved at home, and expect such a foreplay to be appreciated and received with gratitude. But in real life is not so clear cut.
It turns out that some people don't want to receive street music as a present, and it doesn't matter who will perform it. Especially if outsiders are present during the dance. Psychologists warn that a stripper is a gift to a man who experiences any kind of sexual complex. sphere, will only remind him of the problem. Therefore, it is important to consider who and in what situation to do such a gift.
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humiliated. It can cause shame, embarrassment if it happens in public, kill holiday mood. Therefore, a woman must find out in advance what will be reaction. If a couple can visit a strip club together and freely discuss such topics, then perhaps the gift will be received positively,” says the head of the psychotherapeutic department of the clinic "Insight" Igor Lyakh (Novosibirsk).
Giving a striptease to a boss, colleague or business partner — unacceptable, etiquette specialist Evgenia Skiba (Barnaul) is sure. "In business situations, most people behave with restraint. This is allowed in some creative company. Among people who are merry and jokers in life. They can recognize by behavior, manner brightly, look unusual. They do it themselves such gifts, and appreciate if they are congratulated by a stripper, ”explains expert. Housewives and sportswomen: who learns striptease
Professional dancer and owner of a striptease agency Alexei Zhorkin in his own experience confidently declares that most of the orders are just the same as gifts. Of these, a lot for the boss of any gender. Strippers and strippers are often invited to February 23, March 8, hen parties, stag parties, birthdays, and once, in his memory, they ordered for a wedding.
“There is a negative reaction. The husband begins to be shy, because he does not know how his wife will react if behave uninhibited with the artist. Therefore, we ask that they break through the soil in advance. Or we ask you to leave the room so that they do not embarrass you with your presence. It happens that the people themselves, to whom they give, are asked to stop the dance. This was at a bachelorette party with a very moral bride. In this case, the artist can continue the dance for the public. But more often the reaction is good,” says Zhorkin.
A large proportion of couples believe that the teasing dance able to increase the degree of passion and diversify routine family life. But also here experts advise to approach carefully, and take into account the many factors: from the situation, the occasion to the current state of the relationship. The last one is perhaps the most important.
“There are troubles in family relationships — routine, ritual, adaptation. When a married couple begins to limit fantasies about each other, then such an important part of sexuality as flirting disappears. Many industries exist for due to the fact that this flirting is provided, for example, by Internet dating. That's why many women at one time were so carried away by half-dance that in their relationship novelty, mystery appeared, things connected with fantasy appeared. Usually it strengthens the couple, ”Lyakh believes.
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flirting, then the reaction to the striptease of the wife or girl is likely to be positive, and she will achieve the desired effect. And if such an important component is no longer there, a woman runs the risk of causing discontent or other negative emotions that before this was restrained, the psychologist warns.
As strip dance choreographer Marina Ignatenko said, most often women apply for lessons when they find out that a man is looking “on the side” or go to strip bars. And then, having learned the strip, they draw attention to myself.
“A woman becomes more self-confident, her gait becomes more graceful. A woman begins to change from the inside, they begin to look at her differently, her man feels it, thinks what has changed in her and thinks about her, the choreographer says.
If you want to dance a striptease, she advises you to take at least a few lessons dancers to master the basic set of movements, and then act with an eye on their own opportunities and benefits. So, if a girl has flexibility, then be sure use twine and braces. And if a woman has long beautiful hair, then dance it out.
In general, the basic set of strip dance elements is simple - "kitty", backbends, stretching, half twine (twine for those who can afford it), half-bridge, touching yourself. Basically, almost anyone can do it.
But we must remember that home striptease is a small show, therefore, appropriate attire is important (you can buy a role-playing costume in a sex shop or just put on a beautiful set of underwear and stockings), manicure, pedicure, makeup, hairstyle.
Especially for Sibnet.ru readers, the choreographer told how to prepare for home striptease on her own, and showed the basic movements. We start with a warm-up and train plasticity.
According to Ignatenko, striptease is impossible without heels. Ideally, you need to stand on strips - shoes with a platform that professional women use. If there are no similar shoes and you don’t want to buy specially, you can do without a platform, but heels are required, and as high as possible.
At home, there is usually no stage or pole. But there are always walls and floors, the use of which will also help to hide the lack of physical fitness. A well-warmed body, practiced movements and personal imagination are the main components of a beautiful home dance.