How to dance at a school party

How to Dance at a Club or Party

You probably know people who can dance at a club without a second thought.

They just go out, have a few drinks, get down on the dance floor, and have a great night.

Meanwhile, you're seized by panic and insecurity just thinking about dancing at a club.

And whenever you do drag yourself out, you stay glued to the wall and watch everyone else let loose on the dance floor.

But guess what? Those awkward feels are completely normal. And we PROMISE you can overcome them!

Follow these 5 simple steps and never worry about feeling left out again.

1. Find the beat/rhythm as you make your way towards the dance floor

Don't expect yourself to bust out a Step Up routine out of nowhere as soon as you step foot on the dance floor.

This isn't a movie! Start small – really small – by just bobbing your head to the beat.

Do this before you even get on the dance floor. Think of it this way: Music is the one thing that lubricates the whole experience of being at the club.

It sets the mood as soon as you walk in until the moment you walk out. You have to be comfortable with the music first.

So start interacting with the music right away. You can listen and nod your head a you're holding your drink, hanging with a friend, or even sitting down.

This is an easy way to set yourself up for success on the dance floor before you even start dancing.

Your body will already have a handle on the rhythm, so you're more likely to stay on beat by the time you do get your feet steppin'.

Watch this video to learn how to find and count beats in music:

2. Start with a small bounce / groove

Once you're on, or around, the dance floor, start bouncing with your whole body.

Think of this bounce as a bigger version of your head bob. You're still moving to that same rhythm, but now with your knees, core, and chest.

You know how a baby bounces on his knees when he hears a song he likes? Like that, but not as jolt-y.

Ease into those bounces calmly, then slowly build up your energy. This helps make your dancing look more natural.

Carlo Darang describes what a bounce / groove is in this video:

3. Learn simple steps

Got a handle on the music? Great.

Started bouncing with your body? Check. Now, let's get your feet moving!

But wait – you won't know which foot to step where without any practice.

So learn a few basic dance steps before you go to dance at a club.

This video will teach you how to do 3 basic dance moves that work with any song:

Wanna learn more basic party moves like these?

Check out Bianca's "Intro to Dance" program on STEEZY Studio! It'll teach you everything you need to know to get down on the dance floor.

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4. Let loose

Now that you've got the basics of dance down, it's time to put on a few finishing touches to make sure you look comfortable and confident with every move.

These quick tips will help you refine your dancing so you look more loose, groovy, and comfortable:

5. Join the party

By this point, you've got a handle on dancing 1. on beat 2. with your whole body 3. using steps.

But you didn't come to dance at a club to do all this alone!

Once you have that base, dance with the people around you.

If you're in a crowd or a group of friends, then you can play off of their movements and energy.

Mimic the moves your friends are doing, lip sync with them, rap Nicki's entire verse in Motor Sport from memory.

And if the DJ or song lyrics tell you to do something (like put your hands up or jump), then do it!

These are little things you can't predict or practice – remember that you're out to have fun, not to play DDR in your head.

Grinding (or whatever you call it) on someone is its own topic – but whether you're dancing with one person or a whole group of people, the most important thing to do is to... Stay in rhythm!

You and your partner or friends could be doing totally different things. They could be jumping while you're pumping your arms.

She could be swaying side to side as you're 2-stepping.

But as long as you're moving to the same beat, it'll still feel like you're dancing together.

(The closer you physically get, though, the more similar you want your movements to be so that you don't end up hitting each other or creating friction between your moves. Dance with them!)


I hope these tips help you kiss those insecurities goodbye!

Follow these 5 steps and you'll realize that it's possible, and actually quite easy, to dance at a club.

You just need the right resources, some practice, and a dash of confidence. ;)

Have fun!

13 Fun Dance Games for Kids' Parties


Christine Gauvreau

Christine Gauvreau

Christine Gauvreau is an event planning expert with over 10 years of professional party planning experience. She co-founded an event planning business that specializes in kids' parties. She has written for The Spruce on topics related to children's parties for almost five years.

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Updated on 10/05/22

Whether you’re throwing a disco-themed party, a rock-and-roll sock hop, or just a children's party where you’ll have music and space for dancing, these dance party games are sure to get kids moving and grooving in the spirit of fun. These timeless party ideas and activities make dancing so much fun and they work for all age groups, from 5-year-old kids to adults.

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Spot Light

To play this dance party game, you’ll need one person to work the spotlight and another to work the music. Have that person stand in the middle of the dance floor and shine a flashlight on the dancers. The spotlight person should continually move the flashlight so that it is always changing which dancer it is highlighting. Whenever the person in charge of the music stops it, the spotlight holder must freeze, steadying the light on the dancer it was pointing to at the time. That dancer is out of the game. Play continues until only one dancer remains.

Another variation of this game is this: the dancer the light is shined on when the music stops moves to the center of the dance floor and performs their best dance moves for the crowd. This way no one is eliminated from the game and everyone gets a turn to shine in the spotlight.

Memory Moves

To play memory moves, have the kids form a circle around the dance floor. Choose one player to go first. That player will step into the center of the circle and make up a dance move. The next player will step into the center and repeat the same dance move. After that player mimics the first player's dance move, the second player then performs one of their own. It is up to the next player to repeat both dance moves and add a third. The game continues in this manner, with each dancer repeating and then adding a new move to the list. Anyone who can’t copy or forgets the succession of dance moves is out. Play continues until only one dancer remains.

Spot Dance

This game will have dancers team up in couples. Each couple must dance only in a designated spot. The best way to do this is to tape large circles onto the floor and have dancers stand on them to start. Play music and have them dance together without stepping off of the circles. When you speed up the music, they must speed up their dance. Anytime a foot steps out of the couple’s spot, that pair is out of the game.

To make this game more challenging, you can start with large circles and replace them with smaller ones as the dancing progresses.

Partner Switch

Assign one player to stand in the middle of the dance floor and hold a flag. Have the remaining dancers form pairs and begin to dance around the flag holder. At random times, the flag holder will toss the flag in the air. When the flag goes up, everyone switches partners. The flag holder must also try to find a partner. The person left standing alone becomes the new flag holder.

Dance Switch

Play music and have the kids dance randomly. Stand alongside the dance floor and randomly call out different dance styles, such as disco, square dance, ballroom, hip-hop, or ballet. Whenever a new dance style is called, players must switch their dance moves to suit that style.

Create a Dance

Forget the macarena or the cha-cha slide. Get kids to invent dance moves. Have them line up as they would for line dancing. One at a time, have a player step forward and perform a move. All dancers will work on that move a few times before the next player will add a move. Each move will be practiced along with the ones that went before. By the time all players have added and rehearsed their moves, the new dance will have been invented.

Dance Hats

Hand out two or three hats to the dancers. As the music plays the hats must circulate among the dancers. Every time the music stops, the players wearing the hats earn a prize. To make sure everyone earns a prize, have the players who win sit out for the remainder of the dance game.

Elimination Dance

Before the party, write down several things that might pertain to party guests such as “the kid with the ponytail” or “the person wearing glasses.” Put all of the written items into a hat. As the kids dance, pull the items from the hat and call them out loud. Anyone who fits the description must leave the dance floor. The last player on the dance floor wins.

Dance Corners

Mark off four corners with four different colors. This can be done by hanging a colored flag or taping a piece of colored paper to the floor in each corner. Write down the four colors and place them in a hat. Once the kids are dancing for a bit, stop the music and tell them to run to a corner. Pull one of the colors out of the hat. Those players are out, and that corner is eliminated from play. 

Dance Party Musical Chairs

This version of musical chairs is a great way to incorporate a childhood favorite game into your dance party. Instead of lining the chairs up in the middle of the room, set them up so that they circle (or semi-circle) the dance floor. Kids dance, and when the music stops, they head for the chairs, but instead of running, they must dance their way over to the chairs. As usual, the player left standing when all the chairs are taken is eliminated, a chair is removed, and the kids return to the dance floor for the next round. 

Zumba Dance

Choreograph an easy Zumba dance fitness routine for guests so they can shake it all out and have fun while doing it. Zumba moves to music can be simple like marching a few feet back and forth, jumping side to side, or hopping on one foot for a second or two then switching. Instruct guests to freeze in position when the music stops and eliminate anyone who didn't stop dancing.

Musical Island Dance

Before the party, prepare a bunch of "islands" made of paper or other mats labeled "Zombie Island," "Robot Island," "Disco Island," or any other type of dance theme you'd like. Place the islands around a large space and make them far apart. There are variations to this game but however you play it, guests need to jump onto an island or be disqualified from the game. Here are two ways to play the game:

  • Play music while guests are dancing away from the islands. When the music stops, guests have to get to an island. Anyone who is not on an island is taken out of the game.
  • Play the game the opposite way and have guests stay frozen off the islands until the music begins to play. Then guests will need to jump onto the island nearest them and begin to dance like zombies, robots, disco dancers, or whatever other island theme you have planned. Any guest that did not make it to an island on time is eliminated.

As a variation for either way the game is played, you can remove an island after each round so guests have fewer places to jump on to.

Dancing With the Ball

This is an ideal game for squiggly party guests. You'll need a ball or a balloon and the more sparkly it is, the better. Everyone stands in a circle and when the music begins, guests start dancing at the same time the ball or balloon is being passed around from person to person. But it's harder than it sounds because guests pass the ball around the circle without using arms or legs and they still need to be dancing. Whoever drops the ball is out of the circle and the remaining guest is the winner.

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    Try to look your best. The better you look on Day X, the more confident you will feel. Your confidence will be visible to those around you. She will set you up for the positive that you will show on the dance floor.

    • Girls, here's some advice for you: wear shoes that are comfortable to dance in. The most suitable footwear will be heels, but you need to choose shoes in which you can move freely. The more physical comfort you experience, the more natural your dance will be.
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    Come with friends. Dancing alone is rather awkward and not so fun. If you have such an opportunity, it is better to go to a party with a group of friends or couples to enjoy the festive event together.

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    Assess your surroundings. Before hitting the dance floor, take a moment to get into the party atmosphere and look around the venue. Walk around the hall, grab something to drink, and go to the restroom if necessary. Getting familiar with your surroundings will take the edge off when you start dancing in front of other people.


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    Listen to music. No need to concentrate on the necessary body movements. First, listen to the music and feel the rhythm. Pay attention to the tempo of the song and your emotions.

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    Start nodding your head to the music. Listen to the song and shake your head to the beat. From the outside, everything will look natural.

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    Step right and left. This is the basic move to start with. Make sure you are on your toes while dancing to avoid bulkiness.

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    Relax. Nervous people are often subject to tension in the shoulders and neck. Keep this in mind, and try to keep your shoulders down and swaying as you dance.

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    Let your body move naturally to the music. Don't forget to listen to music while dancing. Don't focus too much on doing the right thing. Make sure your body moves to the beat of the music.

    • Do not speed up if you feel uncomfortable. Even when fast music is playing, you can move slowly. The main thing is that the movements coincide with the tempo and rhythm of the song.


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    Find a dance partner. If you come with your boyfriend, it is understandable that you will dance together. Hug your partner as soon as the music starts! If you want to dance with a stranger, ask for their consent before you start dancing.

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    Hug your partner. As a rule, the guys hug the girl around the waist, and the girl wraps her arms around the partner's neck.

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    Move slowly to the beat of the music. You need to coordinate with your partner. This takes a few seconds.

    • If you are dancing with a romantic person, lean against them and rest your head on your shoulder/neck.
    • Don't step on your partner's feet! Be careful while dancing, especially if you are wearing heels.



  • If you don't like being the center of attention while dancing, dance with people. Surround yourself with people who don't embarrass you and who can shield you from prying eyes.
  • If you don't know how to dance to a particular song, look at the people around you to get the idea. Don't stare too long or people will think you're copying their movements!


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Social dancing is not just a hobby. A lot of people gather at dance parties, and everyone is driven by their own goal - to find friends, have fun, become more confident. We noticed that most often programmers come to such parties and decided to find out why they dance and how the hobby has changed their lives.


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Social dances unite the dance styles of different peoples of the world. This includes salsa, bachata, kizomba, hustle and others. These dances are chosen not for sports and competitions, but to have a good time. Movements in social dances are simple, they are more original than professional.

Most social dances are in pairs. People of different dance levels get together at dance parties and dance, changing partners after each track. In pair dances there is always a leader - a man, and a follower - a woman.

The idea to write an article about programmers came about by accident. Our company "Client Base" is not related to dancing, we are developing a CRM constructor - most of the team are programmers and techies. It so happened that our guys do not dance, but the director, Evgenia Lozheshnik, is fond of social dancing.

Evgenia often attends dance parties and noticed one interesting pattern: most of the participants in such parties are programmers or IT people. Therefore, we decided to find out why they choose social dancing, and not other hobbies.

To test our hypothesis - that most of the party participants are programmers - we talked with the teachers of the Manera dance school Gleb and the Sense studio Anastasia. We found out that they also noticed such an interesting trend.

Anastasia is a salsa teacher. She studied to be a programmer, at the same time she was fond of dancing. Over time, the hobby has grown into a favorite job.

“I came to dancing because I needed some kind of mobility, some kind of analogue of sports. I liked that when I dance the brain - it works somehow differently. I'm unloading everything. I noticed that recently programmers often come to dance classes. It seems to me that this is a general trend for social dancing - people want to unwind, have fun, relax. ”

Gleb is a dance teacher and former geologist. Teaches social dancing in her studio. Gleb was fond of dancing as a hobby until it turned into a job.

“Among my students, 30% are programmers. I think they choose dancing because of the lack of communication. If live communication is not enough, improve some social contacts. It is also a sport, many do not want to go to the gym, so they come to dances to warm up. Dance parties themselves bring quite interesting emotions - they cover three aspects in life at once: creativity, sports and communication. All this comes together and resonates in the soul. Programmers linger at dances because this style of learning suits them - according to their mindset. Everything is quite simple here - you learn the movements, you understand the logic and sequence, and you are already in the dance.

Then we asked the programmers themselves why dancing and not something else. And here's what they told us.

To adapt to a new environment and communicate with different people

The first hero of the story is the Mexican Imre. He moved from Mexico to Kazan, and now he studies, lives and works in Innopolis. Imre specializes in big data management:

“I have been dancing for almost seven years now. It so happened that friends invited me to a party. Then I didn’t know how, but I was interested in music and I decided to do salso - I really liked how the couples move in the dance. And I have been dancing in Russia for about two years when I came here.

There are two reasons why I dance - I like it and for me it's a healthy lifestyle, movement, sport. It is also a good way to communicate with different people at the same time. In a sense, dancing made my life easier, helped me adapt in Russia — with the help of logic and the practice of the language.

All of our university studies are conducted in English. At first, programming was difficult for me, especially because my fellow students are very capable guys. Before entering Innopolis, they had already worked in companies. I often asked my friends to explain something to me, to help me in some way. They came to meet me halfway and helped, but as it usually happens, the English language smoothly turned into Russian. But luckily it wasn't a problem for me.

I see a connection between programming and dancing - both directions are based on logic and structure. In a way, dances work like languages. Knowing some elements of one dance, you can easily master another style. Almost the same in programming. Being engaged in dancing, I began to see these similar details and it became easier for me to study here.

Get rid of shyness and meet girls

Before moving to Innopolis, Ratmir lived and worked as an engineer in Chelyabinsk. At work, he often had to deal with programming, so in the end he decided to learn a new profession.

As a teenager, Ratmir was fond of ballroom dancing - waltz and Cha-Cha-Cha. Unlike social dances, ballroom dances do not change partners.

“I liked my dance partner, we became good friends, and then she had to quit her lessons. Then I had a new partner, but the relationship did not work out. All this led to the fact that I gave up my favorite hobby.

Already when I moved to Innopolis in 2018 and got a job as a programmer, a colleague invited me to a dance rehearsal. The participants of the school were preparing for the performance, and we looked at their training and tried to repeat something. I was drawn into this unusual atmosphere and I began to attend classes.

There are three things I like about dancing - you are constantly learning something new, expanding your circle of friends and meeting girls. Each party gives new impressions and inspires. All day at the computer you tense up, and dancing allows you to relax.

Dancing helped me get rid of my shyness in front of girls. It has become easier to start a conversation, you do not dwell on your cons and learn to understand your partner.

Take a break from work and take care of your health

Tengiz works as a programmer - he programs microcontrollers for medical device simulators. He used to work in an office before switching to remote work four years ago. Teniz dances to be in shape and say “stop” to work on time.

“When I was still a student, I often spent time with friends in Ziferblat. On Saturdays there were dance parties. Music played in the evening, people gathered, danced, but I did not attach any importance to this.

After I switched to remote work, my social circle narrowed. You spend most of your time at home with no one to talk to. The problem with this format of work is not that you will not work, but in the boundaries between life and work - they are erased. I woke up, got up, turned on the computer and you are already at work. I got up from the computer and it's already night - I need to go to bed.

I began to look for a way to be less at home - to re-create these boundaries. I remembered dancing, contacted my friends, found out where they were engaged and signed up. Now dancing for me is the boundary of the day. In the morning, the beginning of the day is some kind of small workout, and in the evening, dancing classes. After dancing, you already understand that you will not return to work.

What I like about dancing is the ability to listen to music. Not just learn to dance, but dance and move in the mood of the music yourself. If it's slow and romantic you slow it down and so on.

After dancing, I also gained confidence in movements, confidence in paired interactions. When you dance, there is such a moment when the partner must lead. You need to be firm enough and show intention that you want to go forward or backward.

Dancing teaches what is not taught in other areas of life. For example, leading a partner. In life in a relationship, the partner does not always give feedback. And here, while the track is playing for 3 minutes, you are a couple and you must give each other feedback. And this is carried over into life - it’s easier for you to build relationships with your loved ones. ”

Manifest and hear yourself

Alina works as a tester programmer, she has been in the profession for 2.5 years. Alina attends dance classes 2-3 times a week, she is engaged in two directions - bachata and zumba. For Alina, dancing is not only a pleasant pastime, but also fitness.

“Latin music fascinated me as a child, but then I was too young to practice social dancing, so my hobby was waiting for me for some time.

Everything happened spontaneously. A classmate started studying bachata and invited me to trial classes, which were held at the school where she studied. The way she enthusiastically shared her impressions awakened old dreams in me, At that moment my time came.

Dancing has become for me an expression of myself and one of the tools for revealing my individuality. The energy that is inside manifests itself in dance, in every movement. Through this, you begin to understand yourself and others more. Social dances are especially interesting from the point of view of the projection of relations between a man and a woman. Everything is like in life - a leading man, setting the direction, a woman - driven and creating something beautiful, tasty, sensual.

Trust is an essential element in a relationship. In dancing, you open up, learn to hear your partner even more sensitively, to be here and now and follow a man with confidence, while not forgetting yourself.

Dancing is also good networking. Absolutely different people gather with their own unique vision of the world. You can learn something interesting from everyone and find new like-minded friends.

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