How to dance at a party guys
how to dance at a party - a guide for guys
By brian
“I’ve been struggling with the idea of enrolling for a dance class as I’m extremely ashamed to dance in public because I think I cannot dance. When I attempted, to dance at a party my friends laughed at me, so I prefer not to dance now.”
“I just want basic moves that I can do so I don’t look like a dork at parties”
Dancing at parties is probably one of the biggest unspoken, nerve-wrecking fears guys experience. In this article I’m going to give you some solid, actionable steps for you to get this issue handled.
Alright,
By now, we all know that – men – dancing – is becoming more and more acceptable and even POPULAR of a “thing”. In fact, it’s kind of expected of us to be able to dance nowadays!
I mean it is a good way to mingle with others, have fun, not to mention get attention from the ladies like this:
Uhh.. scratch that, not like that..
More like this:
Okay all jokes aside,
Guys dancing – totally in.
But what’s this?
Gasp!
You don’t know how to dance?
Uh oh, I guess that’s why you’re reading this in the first place.
At the end of the day, we want to have fun at these parties, not just standing on the sideline watching right?
Well, I often get the question: What kind of casual dance moves should I do at parties?
How do I do them correctly?
How do I not look dumb doing them?
Well, here are a couple tips and a few easy dance moves to point you off towards the right direction.
First,
This is a variation of the step-touch dance move.
Some additional info:
This move is great for dancing with in a circle or among your friends because it’s very “low-key”. If you’re not very confident in your dance moves yet – I’m guessing you’re not, then this move will help you blend in and get “your feet wet” without potential embarrassment.
If you mess this dance move up when you’re with your friends, chances are that nobody will notice! It’s great. It is a good crutch for you to boost your confidence and at least get used to moving to the music.
Make sure to watch this a few times and get a good hang of it.
It shouldn’t take long.
Next,
I get question of “What’s a good move I can do when I’m dancing on my own?”
Well, this one is the next level up.
It’s a very good beginner solo step.
This one as mentioned is different. It’s one of my favorite dance moves by the way.
It requires a little bit more confidence to execute because you won’t have the camouflaging aid that you had when dancing with your friends. In other words, you’ll be standing out!
A few things I will point out for doing this move: Keep your hips LOOSE. What I mean by this is relax your torso so you don’t look stiff and awkward. Don’t worry, you won’t look feminine.
You want to practice this move in front of the mirror until you’re comfortable enough to do it without thinking about it.
Next,
Gaining confidence!
I know that knowing how to do something is sometimes very different from actually doing the thing within context!
Kind of like singing in the shower is very different from singing in front of a live audience of a couple thousand on national television.
Rehearsing a speech on your own being quite different from delivering it at the presentation.
You get the point –
My suggestion is to stick with the basic step-touch and the step-touch variations shown in the first video. As mentioned, it’s a great way for you to ease yourself in to dancing in public. When you dance with your friends and you feel like you look dumb, it’s okay! Because you’re thinking: If I look dumb, then we all look dumb together – it’s not all that bad!
You know what I’m talking about I’m sure.
Point being – by following along to the tutorials and easing yourself in to dancing in public, you will do fine!
Final tips –
One thing to remember is that dancing is about moving to the music, so once you’ve gotten your moves down, stop worrying about the steps and transition over to reacting to the music.
In other words, after learning the moves, it’s no longer about figuring out what to do, but seeing where the music takes you.
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How to Dance at a Club or Party
You probably know people who can dance at a club without a second thought.
They just go out, have a few drinks, get down on the dance floor, and have a great night.
Meanwhile, you're seized by panic and insecurity just thinking about dancing at a club.
And whenever you do drag yourself out, you stay glued to the wall and watch everyone else let loose on the dance floor.
But guess what? Those awkward feels are completely normal. And we PROMISE you can overcome them!
Follow these 5 simple steps and never worry about feeling left out again.
1. Find the beat/rhythm as you make your way towards the dance floor
Don't expect yourself to bust out a Step Up routine out of nowhere as soon as you step foot on the dance floor.
This isn't a movie! Start small – really small – by just bobbing your head to the beat.
Do this before you even get on the dance floor. Think of it this way: Music is the one thing that lubricates the whole experience of being at the club.
It sets the mood as soon as you walk in until the moment you walk out. You have to be comfortable with the music first.
So start interacting with the music right away. You can listen and nod your head a you're holding your drink, hanging with a friend, or even sitting down.
This is an easy way to set yourself up for success on the dance floor before you even start dancing.
Your body will already have a handle on the rhythm, so you're more likely to stay on beat by the time you do get your feet steppin'.
Watch this video to learn how to find and count beats in music:
2. Start with a small bounce / groove
Once you're on, or around, the dance floor, start bouncing with your whole body.
Think of this bounce as a bigger version of your head bob. You're still moving to that same rhythm, but now with your knees, core, and chest.
You know how a baby bounces on his knees when he hears a song he likes? Like that, but not as jolt-y.
Ease into those bounces calmly, then slowly build up your energy. This helps make your dancing look more natural.
Carlo Darang describes what a bounce / groove is in this video:
3. Learn simple steps
Got a handle on the music? Great.
Started bouncing with your body? Check.
Now, let's get your feet moving!
But wait – you won't know which foot to step where without any practice.
So learn a few basic dance steps before you go to dance at a club.
This video will teach you how to do 3 basic dance moves that work with any song:
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4. Let loose
Now that you've got the basics of dance down, it's time to put on a few finishing touches to make sure you look comfortable and confident with every move.
These quick tips will help you refine your dancing so you look more loose, groovy, and comfortable:
5.
Join the partyBy this point, you've got a handle on dancing 1. on beat 2. with your whole body 3. using steps.
But you didn't come to dance at a club to do all this alone!
Once you have that base, dance with the people around you.
If you're in a crowd or a group of friends, then you can play off of their movements and energy.
Mimic the moves your friends are doing, lip sync with them, rap Nicki's entire verse in Motor Sport from memory.
And if the DJ or song lyrics tell you to do something (like put your hands up or jump), then do it!
These are little things you can't predict or practice – remember that you're out to have fun, not to play DDR in your head.
Grinding (or whatever you call it) on someone is its own topic – but whether you're dancing with one person or a whole group of people, the most important thing to do is to... Stay in rhythm!
You and your partner or friends could be doing totally different things. They could be jumping while you're pumping your arms.
She could be swaying side to side as you're 2-stepping.
But as long as you're moving to the same beat, it'll still feel like you're dancing together.
(The closer you physically get, though, the more similar you want your movements to be so that you don't end up hitting each other or creating friction between your moves. Dance with them!)
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I hope these tips help you kiss those insecurities goodbye!
Follow these 5 steps and you'll realize that it's possible, and actually quite easy, to dance at a club.
You just need the right resources, some practice, and a dash of confidence. ;)
Have fun!
How to learn to dance in clubs for a guy
Contents
How to move on the dance floor without looking ridiculous and clumsy - this question has probably worried the representatives of the stronger sex ever since the synchronized movements of couples in a waltz or mazurka. For at least a century now, men have had to guess what a profitable disco dance should be like.
Unfortunately, even professional choreographers will not answer this question. But we will try to highlight the basic rules.
Hop and R'n'B
Rules to follow
Relax
Let's tell you a secret: most guys on the dance floor don't look stupid because they haven't taken lessons in dance studios and can't tell tectonics from r'n'b , but because they do not catch the rhythm of the music and cannot relax. And if no one usually pays attention to the first, then the second immediately catches the eye of others.
Hence the first rule: listen to music and let your body dance freely.
Choose a style
If you are a frequent discotheque visitor, you should choose a certain dance direction in which you will move on the dance floor. Of course, this will depend on the music that the DJ will put on, but for ten years now hip-hop and electronic music have not left the clubs. Therefore, you can master the basic movements of either one or the other.
The "electronics" elements are a bit simpler, so it might be worth starting with them. Video tutorials to help you!
Sign up for a trial class
Try to vary your movements
If after watching the videos you still can't feel comfortable on the dance floor, you should consider signing up for a dance studio. An experienced teacher, a company of like-minded people and regular classes will quickly do their job, and you will finally be able to relax and stop having complexes while dancing. Plus, to the envy of your peers, you will no longer dance like a “newbie”.
Remember that everything is for fun
If you do somersaults on the court for ten minutes with a tense face, and then return to the table sweaty, your friends are unlikely to appreciate it. Understand that dancing is not a competition, but a completely cultural form of recreation. As they say, relax and have fun!
Let it all flow
Let go of your body and emotions, surrender to the music and move without paying attention to others.
The tension in the dance is the main obstacle. Stop thinking about movements, no one will notice them in the crowd and darkness anyway.
How girls will evaluate movements on the dance floor
Perhaps the results of a study by scientists from Northumbria University will help answer the question of how to learn to dance in clubs for a guy. Experts studied which dance moves performed by a representative of the stronger sex attract women. The places were distributed as follows:
- Head turns;
- Pelvic twist;
- Vigorous leg movements;
- Large amplitude elements;
- Uninhibited movements.
No matter how strange the rating may look, it is scientifically confirmed. However, many gain self-confidence on the dance floor only after attending a few lessons in a dance studio. By the way, in the Labosa club, there is a chance not only to learn how to move effectively, but also to meet your partner so as not to be alone at the disco.
How to dance at a party: advice from British GQ Editor-in-Chief Dylan Jones
The main thing to remember when throwing yourself on the dance floor is that no one is looking at you. Do not be afraid that you will be laughed at and that everyone is just waiting for you to get tangled in your own feet. Believe me, no one is interested in this, especially if you behave decently.
In case you have zero experience in dancing - or if you've ever tried and didn't like it - you need to learn two simple truths first. Firstly, women like it when a man dances well, so if you are a complete layman in this matter, you should strain yourself. Secondly, no one expects great things from you in all your endeavors. Personally, I am able to dance to anything, but when a DJ puts on I'm So Excited by The Pointer Sisters or something in the style of drum and bass, I immediately leave the dance floor. Not because I don't like such compositions - although at my age it would be forgivable - but because they are difficult to dance to.
Not everyone can rock to any song, so if it has too many beats per minute, or a particularly jagged rhythm, or is too slow (like Just Be Good to Me by the SOS Band), feel free to go to the bar. Don't like reggae? Run to the toilet. Can't help laughing at the new Coldplay hit? Sit down.
If you don't know how to dance at all, but circumstances require it, move by feel. Do not kick your legs - work with your body; bending your elbows, squirm with dignity to the beat of the music. It's really easy! Soon you will become bolder and begin to vary your dance moves; do it in proportion. No one expects you to turn into John Travolta - all his exploits in "Saturday Night Fever" were staged by a professional choreographer, so you should not go out of your way.
A few more important points. Don't slow dance unless you're holding a woman in your arms. Don't try to act like Bruce Springsteen from the Dancing in the Dark video or Kevin Bacon from the movie Loose and dance like a rocker, throwing out your arms and legs at the same time, like a drunken doll.
It would also be nice to learn some traditional dance - for example, tango. The easiest way to learn is the twist, which can be danced to anything from Chubby Checker to George Michael's Faith. Put your foot slightly in front of you and start spinning on it, wobbling your hips; then “screw” yourself into the floor without bending your back, and then “unscrew” back up in the same way.
If you want to learn something spectacular, try the Highland Fling, one of the oldest Scottish dances. Raise your left hand and use it to draw the letter "c" above your head. Place your right hand on your thigh so that the thumb is pointing down and the other fingers are pointing back. With the emphasis on the left leg, stretch the right leg all the way and make a quarter-turn jump. Place your right foot behind the ankle of your left and again jump in a quarter turn, stretching your right leg as far as possible to the right side. Then do another quarter-turn jump, keeping your right foot in front of your left ankle (toes pointing to the floor).
