How to strip dance for your woman

How To Give A Striptease / Lap Dance For Your Woman

Welcome to the complete beginners guide for men who wish the learn how to give their wife / girlfriend / whoever… a sexy striptease and lap dance in private!
If you want to ignite that spark in your relationship, or add a new bedroom skill for future dates, then you’re seriously in luck.
There’s a lot of bad information out there on the internet, with many false fact’s and misleading instructions.
I’m not joking – the amount of bad information out there is insane! And I don’t want YOU to get the wrong advice.
So If you want accurate information regarding how to give your woman a striptease, backed by my own personal experience as a male stripper – then keep reading!

So giving an authentic lap dance for your woman is not as easy as one may think. Simply put – the more effort you put into practice, preparation and appearance, the more effective this skill will be.

Don’t think for 1 minute you can spend a few hours and come up with something that will blow her away – you’re kidding yourself.
To seduce your wife / girlfriend with a lap dance requires you to fully commit to the idea of seduction, and to invest time into planning how it’s all going down on the night.

Follow my beginners tutorial on lap dancing your woman below – and you’ll have a much better chance at success!

  1. Choosing Your Striptease Song/s

    Obviously we’re going to be lap dancing to music, but the more important questions are what song/s? How many songs? What genre should I choose?
    My first piece of advice to choose something that she will enjoy listening to, however also consider if you feel comfortable dancing to it. It’s very important that you strip to something she actually likes and also something you’re able to get emotionally connected to whilst performing the striptease.

    If you and your woman both listen and enjoy music that’s highly not appropriate for performing a striptease, such as heavy metal or classical music, then my suggestion is slow R’n’B music. Especially the R’n’B music from the 90’s and early 2000’s.

  2. Think About What You Will Wear During The Lap Dance.

    So there’s 2 options for you. You either use a costume or not. It’s entirely up to you. There’s no wrong answer here, just your personal preference.
    Would you feel comfortable giving your woman a striptease in a police uniform? Or a Builder Outfit? Or even dressed like an army soldier? If the answer is yes, and you can also envision your woman being into the ‘role play’ aspect, then i highly recommend it.
    It’s a great way for both of you to get ‘caught in the moment’ and really embrace the experience of of striptease.On the other hand – If you decide costumes aren’t your thing. Thats ok! A lap dance can be just as effective in your own clothes – so long as you dress appropriately and don’t look like you just woke up! The casual clothes appearance can be a great addition to ‘take her by surprise’ and bust out a lap dance without her knowing.

  3. Where Will You Give The Lap Dance?

    Your room set up, and how much space you allocate for yourself is very important.

    Preparation is key.
    Knowing your environment, the space you have to work with, the lighting, floor surface and chair (for her to sit on) is all crucial.
    You’ll need adequate space to give her a lap dance and show her some of your male stripper dance moves, please do not try an attempt a lap dance in a confined, crowded or messy space. There’s nothing worse than knocking over some ornaments, or even slipping on a rug whilst dancing. It’s going to 100% kill the mood in the room immediately.
    Please take the time to plan where you will do the lap dance, then clean the room and move around furniture to allocate space if need be.
    We talk more about room preparation,space and most importantly, the lighting, in our lap dance masterclass online course.

  4. Planning Your Striptease

    Please don’t play your favourite track and cross your fingers and hope for the best. That’s why i’m here! To help you!
    You should give yourself some form of structure to your show. Now let me be clear – i’m not suggesting your choreograph everything you do. In fact, I don’t recommend that. Why? Because choreographing dance moves for a TikTok video is 1 thing, but lap dancing is a whole different universe.
    The emotional (and physical) connections you need to make with your partner whilst lap dancing require you to be ‘present in the moment’ and also constantly aware of her movements and reactions.Lap dancing It’s a 2 way process, on the other side, choreographing a dance routine for an audience is a 1 way process.
    A dance routine is simply delivering your show to an audience who just watches it, that’s it. A lap dance is you delivering a show to someone you have an emotional connection with, in which they will receive your advances and react in response to your actions.
    A good lap dance should be a 2 way process, 2 people connecting and feeding off each others ‘energy’.

    Having said that, this is why you shouldn’t choreograph everything. Your lap dance will become stiff, rehearsed and lack any sort of passion. It will become a 1 way process.

    In order to achieve a lap dance experience with 2 individuals immersed in each others presence, we need to allow us time to improvise and flow with the ‘moment’.

    This is where my ‘anchor point’ system is so important. It’s a full proof system that will give structure to your show (so it still looks professional and clean) – whilst still giving you opportunity to interact with your partner however you like.
    The anchor point planning system was designed to give ordinary, everyday men who can’t learn or remember choreography, the chance to put on a show without having to remember tedious amounts of dance steps and positions.

    In our online course, we teach the fundamentals of sexy body movements, along with lap dance moves / tricks and finally masculine dance moves.

    Make sure you know exactly what your plan is when performing a striptease for your woman

  5. How To Initiate The Striptease?

    Actually starting the show, or even bringing up the idea – can be more difficult than you may realise. For some it may come easy, but for others, it may present a problem.
    Sure – you can just blurt it out like an impatient 6 year old waiting for the film to begin, or, you can subtly suggest the idea, leaving a thought of the concept in her mind, so she can ponder on it and let it grow into a desire of her own.
    This is the optimal method of transitioning into the lap dance, it should be something both individuals eventually desire.

    There are some great methods you can apply when smoothly hinting the idea of a lap dance. First of all, I suggest only doing the striptease when she is relaxed, in a good mood and is feeling appreciated. For this reason setting up the night with a dinner date is a fantastic idea. Proceeding this, a gift can also make your woman feel loved, thus more likely to receive the lap dance wholly.
    Those are just a few example of how to approach the situation of a striptease show.

    So I hope you’ve learnt a few new things, and these steps has you moving in the right direction. Yes I know I didn’t cover everything – but this is just a beginners guide, ok?
    It’s designed to give you a little more clarity around the situation.
    If this is something you’re looking to move forward with more seriously, I highly suggest you check out the ‘Lapdance Masterclass’ – It’s a complete online course packed full of video tutorials on how to give the best lap dance of your life.
    We are giving away a FREE 5 day trial, so make sure to check that out!

    Your author Tommy ‘Gun’ Harvey is the founder of Male Stripper Academy. An international training organisation committed to developing the highest standard of male strippers world-wide. Tommy has been heavily involved in the male stripping industry for over 8 years, he has toured around the world with internationally acclaimed male revues, worked in Las Vegas and currently runs his own agency in Gold Coast, Australia.

How to strip for your girlfriend

We all love it when our partner surprises us with something sexy and sensual. Your girlfriend giving you a special, personal strip tease? Yes please! But did you know women love it just as much if you strip for them? Here’s a quick and easy guide on how to strip for your girlfriend.

Women love male strippers just as much as men love female strippers, if not more. Just look at the success of Magic Mike. There are some big differences between a male and female strip tease. These differences are the sort of things you’ll need to put into consideration before you get down and dirty for your lady.

Don’t worry though, it’s a lot easier than it sounds. Planning is the key to success, and don’t feel shy to practice by yourself before the big event. A strip show for your girlfriend is a great gift idea for a birthday or anniversary, or if you just want to surprise her and spice things up in the bedroom.

Getting into character

Unlike female strippers who are often just in lingerie, male strippers are often dressed up as fantasy characters. Not Lord of the Rings fantasy, although you can try that if you want. More common and popular costumes include the fireman, the cowboy or a policeman. If you don’t want to buy a whole new outfit, just get a shirt and cardigan and be a “naughty teacher” or wear your suit and be the boss.

Depending on who your character is, your routine may change. The characters don’t have their own special moves or anything, but you can certainly get creative with them. Taking off a helmet sexily, or spanking yourself with a ruler, these are all fantastic ways to really add oomph to your strip.

Your character might also dictate what music you choose. Now the music is important because your whole routine will be based off that. You can go full theme, or you can just pick something chill and sexy. Check out the Magic Mike playlist for ideas.

The dance moves

The dance moves which you can do in random orders or repeat are all very easy. They’re about emphasizing the body parts of a man that women love. Your arms, your abs, your butt etc etc.

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Practice doing a body roll when you unbutton your shirt. A body roll is like doing a caterpillar but standing up. Sprinkle body rolls around your routine. With practice, you can do these standing up, sat down, or even horizontal over your girlfriend. The video linked above is a body wave, but it’s the same idea. You don’t need to be quite as liquid as he is in the video.

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Twerking isn’t just for the ladies. Women love men’s butts. So shake it up, turn around and twerk it. Bring on the full sass and just go to town with your buns. If you can’t do a proper twerk, then just an enthusiastic butt shake will work!

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If there’s anything women like more than men’s butts, it’s probably the front part. Pelvic thrusts are a must in the male strip tease. They might seem the most embarrassing but embrace that and thrust away. What’s more sexual than an actual sex move?

Make sure that as you dance and remove your clothes to change the pace of the clothing removal. Take your time undoing buttons, then quickly rip off velcro tear-away trousers. Slowly slide at your underwear before wildly swinging them around your fingers. There’s no right or wrong way of doing this!

Have fun

The most important part is to make sure you have fun. Yes, it’s going to be embarrassing. You might not look as sensuous as Channing Tatum, but that doesn’t matter. The fact that you want to do something special for your girlfriend, that you would do something out of your comfort zone for her pleasure, that goes a long way.

So have as much fun with it as you can, and she’ll have fun too. Practice as much as you need to before hand. If you do it genuinely, then even if you trip, or forget the moves, it doesn’t matter. If you’re still struggling, go ahead and watch youtube videos of male strippers for ideas and inspiration!

Male striptease - how to learn to dance? Technique

Men find striptease very exciting and sexy a spectacle performed by a woman, but to decide to demonstrate their forms not everyone will decide before the beloved woman. Surprise your loved one with a ticket for an erotic male show is not difficult, but what about an independent striptease? Understand how to dance a striptease for a man so that it is sexy and not stupid is extremely simple, but to figure it out the article will help in detail.

Contents of the article

  • 1 Interior details for an intimate evening
  • 2 Ideal look for a striptease
  • 3 How to dance a striptease for a man: technique

Interior details for an intimate evening

take care of the right environment. Start a striptease after a working day at women, when she still has to cook dinner and lessons with children frankly a bad idea. The perfect day for a surprise is a day off for two, when the children went to their grandmothers, everyone things are redone and you can arrange a night of love.

It is better to choose soft light or dance in semi-darkness. This will not only help brighten up imperfect shapes and a modest beer belly, but also add intrigue to the show.

An excellent option to place candles on stands where the material will not melt from long burning. A woman will think about it on the machine, but a man can miss the moment in pursuit of romance and at the moment of the height of the dance see how his beloved gets up and extinguishes the candles, hissing angrily at the damaged furniture or curtains. You can use an aroma lamp or incense, if two people like it.

A reliable chair will be the main piece of furniture and helper in the expression of passion. A beginner dancer, far from skillful steps, will come in handy support, so as not to feel awkward and stupid. Not the last place striptease music performed by a skillful conqueror of hearts. Chanson, classic aside, there remains something rhythmic from pop or a special selection compositions for striptease. And most importantly - a lot of free space. Anything that gets in the way to move freely, it is better to immediately push back.

The perfect striptease look

Moving sexy is easy when you feel sexy and hot macho. The best option for clothing would be a classic suit. it versatile clothing that excites women. Lack of a suit is no reason for him buy, you can replace it with a beautiful shirt, pants. Home clothes or a tracksuit will only excite an unprincipled nymphomaniac who just waiting for the main thing.

When the dance excites no less than a woman, and the sexy body just begs to be shown, you can even wrap yourself in a bandage around your hips and pretend to be a savage who seduces a girl. If she is excited by the uniform of a policeman, then the sex shop is to help. The courageous image of a brave policeman or firefighter will become not just an element of decor, but also part of a role-playing game.

Thongs do not go well with a round belly and sides, it is even scarier to wear your favorite family members under a suit. Boxers or swimming trunks will excite a woman more than exotic options. And another golden rule: no socks! The partner probably sees socks on a naked man often. Why not give her the opportunity to lose this spectacle during an incendiary striptease?

Regarding technique, strippers give a few recommendations for striptease conquerors:

  • involve the woman in the process, give her the opportunity touch the body
  • treat failure with humor;
  • three rehearsals in front of a mirror will help to understand the right angle and evaluate how sexy everything is from the outside.

How to dance a striptease for a man: technique

As soon as the music starts, you can begin to move smoothly from side to side. Visual contact with the partner is required, movements change from soft to sharp. You need to start with a jacket. Just unzip it without haste and throw on the floor or the girl in the arms. Then smooth but sharp with a movement you need to rip off the tie and approach the girl. Then there are two options:

  • pull her towards you with a tie for a kiss;
  • tie her hands easily.

It is important not to lose eye contact. Then on the move shirt goes. You can unfasten it both while standing sideways and looking askance at partner, and standing facing her. Move sexually while unfastening body to the right and left, sway your hips a little. You can play with the shirt throw it spectacularly on the floor or leave it on the body and tease the partner then opening the torso, then closing it with a shirt. Surely she herself will want to pull it off and throw aside.

Pants should be taken off effectively and spectacularly. It is better to approach your partner and let her unbutton her belt and fly and tease a little with her unbuttoned pants. If her hands are slightly tied, then you can let her touch the groin and immediately remove her hands. The girl is guaranteed to enjoy the teasing movements.

At this time, the hips can be moved back and forth, simulating sex. Let her begin to pull her pants down herself or, if size allows, she herself will fall to the floor. Pants can be beautifully removed if you turn your back on the woman and pull them down sharply or, if it is a Velcro suit, rip them off after practicing.

The most responsible and sexy part of the show is taking off your underwear beautifully and at ease. A pair of shorts from the adult store with Velcro on the sides will help to plunge into the atmosphere of a real striptease. Standing with your back to her sharply rip off your underpants and cover the most interesting place with your palm. Or alternatively Don't wear underwear at all.

It is very important to catch the rhythm and truly enjoy what happening. Self-confidence and light irony, if an incident occurs, will help smooth out the roughness of the debut on the home stage. In the end, no one but beloved woman will not see this show, and for her sake you can give everything 110%.

Striptease lesson: how to make a spicy gift - Relationships

Striptease as a gift is controversial. Someone will be delighted with such a present, and someone will be shocked. Experts told which men would appreciate a spicy gift, and also gave advice and basic lessons on how to prepare a private dance on your own and how to create an appropriate atmosphere for home striptease.

From Western films, we clearly understood - a striptease as a gift will please any man. Yes, and a woman, if we are talking about a private dance, performed by a man. Ladies even take strip dancing lessons themselves to surprise their beloved at home, and expect such a foreplay to be appreciated and received with gratitude. But in real life is not so clear cut.

It turns out that some people don't want to receive street music as a present, and it doesn't matter who will perform it. Especially if outsiders are present during the dance. Psychologists warn that a stripper is a gift to a man who experiences any kind of sexual complex. sphere, will only remind him of the problem. Therefore, it is important to consider who and in what situation to do such a gift.

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humiliated. It can cause shame, embarrassment if it happens in public, kill holiday mood. Therefore, a woman must find out in advance what will be reaction. If a couple can visit a strip club together and freely discuss such topics, then perhaps the gift will be received positively,” says the head of the psychotherapeutic department of the clinic "Insight" Igor Lyakh (Novosibirsk).

Giving a striptease to a boss, colleague or business partner — unacceptable, etiquette specialist Evgenia Skiba (Barnaul) is sure. "In business situations, most people behave with restraint. This is allowed in some creative company. Among people who are merry and jokers in life. They can recognize by behavior, manner brightly, look unusual. They do it themselves such gifts, and appreciate if they are congratulated by a stripper, ”explains expert. Housewives and sportswomen: who learns striptease

Professional dancer and owner of a striptease agency Alexei Zhorkin in his own experience confidently declares that most of the orders are just the same as gifts. Of these, a lot for the boss of any gender. Strippers and strippers are often invited to February 23, March 8, hen parties, stag parties, birthdays, and once, in his memory, they ordered for a wedding.

“There is a negative reaction. The husband begins to be shy, because he does not know how his wife will react if behave uninhibited with the artist. Therefore, we ask that they break through the soil in advance. Or we ask you to leave the room so that they do not embarrass you with your presence. It happens that the people themselves, to whom they give, are asked to stop the dance. This was at a bachelorette party with a very moral bride. In this case, the artist can continue the dance for the public. But more often the reaction is good,” says Zhorkin.

A large proportion of couples believe that the teasing dance able to increase the degree of passion and diversify routine family life. But also here experts advise to approach carefully, and take into account the many factors: from the situation, the occasion to the current state of the relationship. The last one is perhaps the most important.

“There are troubles in family relationships — routine, ritual, adaptation. When a married couple begins to limit fantasies about each other, then such an important part of sexuality as flirting disappears. Many industries exist for due to the fact that this flirting is provided, for example, by Internet dating. That's why many women at one time were so carried away by half-dance that in their relationship novelty, mystery appeared, things connected with fantasy appeared. Usually it strengthens the couple, ”Lyakh believes.

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flirting, then the reaction to the striptease of the wife or girl is likely to be positive, and she will achieve the desired effect. And if such an important component is no longer there, a woman runs the risk of causing discontent or other negative emotions that before this was restrained, the psychologist warns.

As strip dance choreographer Marina Ignatenko said, most often women apply for lessons when they find out that a man is looking “on the side” or go to strip bars. And then, having learned the strip, they draw attention to myself.

“A woman becomes more self-confident, her gait becomes more graceful. A woman begins to change from the inside, they begin to look at her differently, her man feels it, thinks what has changed in her and thinks about her, the choreographer says.

If you want to dance a striptease, she advises you to take at least a few lessons dancers to master the basic set of movements, and then act with an eye on their own opportunities and benefits. So, if a girl has flexibility, then be sure use twine and braces. And if a woman has long beautiful hair, then dance it out.

In general, the basic set of strip dance elements is simple - "kitty", backbends, stretching, half twine (twine for those who can afford it), half-bridge, touching yourself. Basically, almost anyone can do it.

But we must remember that home striptease is a small show, therefore, appropriate attire is important (you can buy a role-playing costume in a sex shop or just put on a beautiful set of underwear and stockings), manicure, pedicure, makeup, hairstyle.

Especially for readers, the choreographer told how to prepare for home striptease on her own, and showed the basic movements. We start with a warm-up and train plasticity.

According to Ignatenko, striptease is impossible without heels. Ideally, you need to stand on strips - shoes with a platform that professional women use. If there are no similar shoes and you don’t want to buy specially, you can do without a platform, but heels are required, and as high as possible.

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