How to dance with a guy at homecoming
What do girls do for the homecoming dance for a guy?
- Follow Question
- 1 Great Question
Asked by smile1 (493) October 17th, 2009
So, this year will be my first year going to my school’s homecoming dance with a guy…
Is there anything I should know? what should i bring? I know my date is buying a corsage for me… is there anything i should bring in return?
- Share Question
- Flag as...
- dance
- date
- Wondering
- homecoming
Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0
15 Answers
A lapel pin flower. One that matches his outfit.
jackm (6212)“Great Answer” (1) Flag as…¶
@jackm Has it right. It’s called a boutonniere. (Pronounced boot-en-eer)
derekfnord (1876)“Great Answer” (1) Flag as…¶
@jackm is right. Order him a boutonniere. If you go out to dinner or any other entertainmet, offer to pay for part of it. Be a good date- thank him when he does gentlemanly things and have fun!
Likeradar (19583)“Great Answer” (1) Flag as…¶
<—- Shocked no one has said “put out”,
filmfann (50723)“Great Answer” (4) Flag as…¶
Some girls want his boutonniere to match her corsage and her outfit and his outfit. If you want the whole ensemble to look like a matched set, better let him know what you have in mind..jpg)
For instance, one of my son’s dates bought a dark red and black dress and wanted his tux vest and bowtie and both of their flowers to match. My other son took a girl to the prom who directed that everything they wore be black or white. And she wore bright red lipstick. They were a stunning couple.
Jeruba (53415)“Great Answer” (3) Flag as…¶
@filmfann
i was about to say you should give him your virginity, but i restrained myself seeing as i was the first answer.
jackm (6212)“Great Answer” (1) Flag as…¶
Wow- I went to so many homecoming dances and never knew you were supposed to get the guy a flower.
@Jeruba one of the couples at my prom wore matching bright red. She had a red dress and shoes, and he had an all red suit with a red top had and a cane.
Haleth (19566)“Great Answer” (0) Flag as…¶
Hmm.
I got a black and white dress, and he got a black tux…that ok? ahah. is it too bland? should i have gotten a more exciting color of a dress?
@jackm and @Likeradar thank you! would i have to order it? i noticed they are rather expensive…would it be weird if i made one myself?
smile1 (493)“Great Answer” (0) Flag as…¶
@smile1 Yeah, you should go to a florist, or even the floral department at a grocery store and order one a few days before. If you’re good at making them, go for it. But I wouldn’t recommend it if it might suck.
Likeradar (19583)“Great Answer” (0) Flag as…¶
@smile1, your black and white combo isn’t bland. It could be very dramatic. You could choose almost any color for the corsage and boutonniere and it would look nice. Best to coordinate them, though.
@Haleth, I bet those two stood out!
Jeruba (53415)“Great Answer” (0) Flag as…¶
@Jeruba you think so? hmmm.
:) I’m excited!!!
smile1 (493)“Great Answer” (0) Flag as…¶
Billy Joel
IBERnineD (7319)“Great Answer” (0) Flag as…¶
@smile1, I do. Deep red roses are kind of an obvious choice, not that they woulfdn’t look great. What about golden yellow? or electric blue? purple, pink, even green—or white. You have a lot of choices, with different effects. Depends on your style, coloring, preference, and the kind of impression you want to make. And his too, of course.
Jeruba (53415)“Great Answer” (0) Flag as…¶
@Jeruba hmm.. electric blue sounds amazing…! Ill talk to my date… :)
smile1 (493)“Great Answer” (0) Flag as…¶
Don’t need to bring/do anything. He should be happy with you as the date :)
curiousk (128)“Great Answer” (0) Flag as…¶
Answer this question
Login
orJoin
to answer.
This question is in the General Section. Responses must be helpful and on-topic.
Your answer will be saved while you login or join.
Older »
Is there a free program that will let me ...
« Newer
Has anyone here had a frozen cocktail called a ...
Have a question? Ask Fluther!
What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther
Creative Ways to Ask a Guy to Homecoming
WANNIKKI TAYLOR
LIFE
... Thinkstock/Stockbyte/Getty Images
Your school homecoming dance is coming up in a few weeks and you still do not have a date. Whether it is a close friend or classmate, there is probably a guy you have in mind to be your ideal escort. If you have an inkling that he may want to go, take some pressure off of him and do the asking.
Use a creative approach to impress him and increase your chances of scoring that homecoming date.
Explore this article
- An Edible Invitation
- The Sneaky Approach
- Write It Out
- A Work of Art
1 An Edible Invitation
Put your culinary skills to good use and serve him up an invitation in the form of food. Give him a taste of Italy with a homemade pizza. Before baking, use small pepperoni slices or sliced vegetables to spell out a brief invite, such as "Date 4 Dance?" Hand deliver the pizza to his door. Alternatively, you can satisfy his sweet tooth with a dessert instead. Bake an over-sized sugar cookie. Use frosting to pipe an invitation on top, such as "You + Me = Dance?" Slide the cookie in a box with a note from you and place it on his desk to surprise him.
2 The Sneaky Approach
Asking indirectly takes the pressure off of the requesting and makes it an easier process, writes psychologist Jeremy Nicholson on "Psychology Today" online, in "5 Ways to Indirectly Ask for a Date.
" Suggesting is an effective strategy. Perhaps you could say, "Hey, the dance looks like it's going to be fun, right?" If he seems interested, say, "I was thinking maybe we can check it out together." For a different indirect approach, ask your date with a challenge. Maybe you could say, "I bet you can't find a better date than me for the homecoming dance?"
3 Write It Out
Get your pen and paper. Writing a note is a no-frills way to ask for a date if you are nervous about verbalizing it, suggests singles advice columnist John Ortved, in the "Glamour" online article, "Dating: 5 Easy Ways to Ask a Guy Out." Write a funny message, such as "Go to the dance with me or you'll get abducted by aliens!" Include your contact information and slip the note in his backpack. Alternatively, you can slip him a secret note and lead him on a scavenger hunt instead. Write, "Shhh! A certain someone wants to be your homecoming date. Follow the clues to see who it is." Await him at the end of the hunt to surprise him.
4 A Work of Art
Impress your potential homecoming date and let your artistic skills do the asking for you. Sketch a picture of yourself with an air bubble coming out of the mouth that reads, "I'm so drawn to you. Be my date for the dance?" Alternatively, write an invitation on his driveway with sidewalk chalk to see when he drives home -- just get his parent's permission beforehand. Draw an outline of yourself on the driveway to resemble a crime scene investigation. Beside the outline, you could write, "It would be a crime not to go to the dance with me" or "I'm dying to be your homecoming date."
references
- 1 Huffington Post: Easy Promposal Ideas: 15 Simple And Romantic Ways To Ask Your Date To Prom (PHOTOS)
- 2 Psychology Today: 5 Ways to Indirectly Ask for a Date
- 3 Glamour: Dating: 5 Easy Ways to Ask a Guy Out
About the Author
Wannikki Taylor is a professional writer with a Bachelors of Arts in journalism from Temple University.
She serves as a children's columnist and covers family entertainment for several print and online publications. She specializes in games, crafts and party planning ideas for kids and their families.
Related Articles
Congratulations
| Graduation is a big event that all students look forward to. Dress is the most important thing at the prom, every girl wants to become a princess for one night and feel like the most beautiful in the bustle of the school prom. Many competitions and entertainment programs take place at graduation. All graduates, boys and girls, should take part in them. Choosing a dance partner Girls, in most cases coming to the ball, already know who they would like to see as their dance partner. Be sure to pay attention to his behavior. If he confidently keeps among friends, and even stands out a little, such a guy will be able to please many young ladies. Such confidence is felt from afar, and it is easy to distinguish it from promiscuity. You shouldn't choose drunken guys, this is a bad sign and it can only indicate big complexes. A self-confident guy will not drink alcohol in order to become bolder. We invite you to dance White dance is often used at the prom. He defuses the tense situation a little and gives the girls the opportunity to take the initiative. Sometimes it's not easy to come up and ask a guy to dance. Moreover, all graduates are at an age when constraint still takes precedence over reason. You need to exhale and take the first step towards the guy. 1. Act without delay, determination and perseverance can be justified. Keep it simple, go up to the guy and ask him to dance. This can confuse him, and he will easily agree. This may not happen. If the guy is surrounded by his friends. He can simply be embarrassed and refuse you, although in his heart he really wants this. Perhaps such a situation will also arise, the guys will talk about something and he will not want to interrupt the conversation. 2. There is also another tried and true way to get a guy excited about dancing. Here you need to act without much pressure. Proms often have tables set up where groups of students gather and interact closely. Your goal will be to sit down at the table where the right candidate is sitting. Start a casual conversation, light and so to speak about nothing. After such a conversation, you can casually say that you really like this music and just make him an offer to dance. If the guy starts to show up, arguing that he doesn’t know how, then you can put a little pressure on him and say that his skill is not very important to you, the main thing is to move to your favorite music. 3. Not every girl is sure that she will not be refused. You need to correctly calculate your strength and not become discouraged after the first attempt. The weaker sex has always been helped by cunning, and this should not be forgotten. If you are not sure that the guy will agree to dance with you, then you will have to use this weapon. Try to wait until he is left alone, if this does not happen, then call him aside, whisper. And immediately say that you argued with your girlfriend to dance with him and could he support you. Most likely, the guy will not refuse you, they love such things, because they often use them themselves. All your goal is achieved, and then you can move on according to circumstances. Do's and Don'ts There are limits to etiquette. For which you do not need to go. You have a definite goal, to invite a guy to a dance, and you must follow it, keeping within the bounds of decency. Alcohol is always present at the prom, even if it is champagne, but a young body does not need much. If the guy you wanted to invite is with a companion, and even if they are not a couple, then do not try to be rude and show aggression. No one will like this behavior, and most likely you will never receive a positive response to the invitation. Charm him At the prom, all the girls are very elegant and beautiful. Your voice should sound charming, when making an invitation to dance, turn on all your tenderness and charm, and babble something about the invitation. Guys love soft, and a little confused girls, and with this you can charm him. The smell of perfume, a beautiful outfit and a very pleasant voice will do their job. Don't turn on arrogance, guys don't like it and most likely he won't agree to go to the dance with such a girl. You need to become sensitive and kind, soft and shy, and in no case not to chat on the phone all evening. A lot of makeup can just scare a guy. They are all used to seeing a natural girl at school every day, and here a painted doll appears. Charm guys at the prom, try to please many. Look closely at each of them, there were times when people at that very moment realized that they liked each other and after the ball spent a lot of time together. There are also couples who got married thanks to the prom. Let the prom become something special for you, and dancing with a young man will only add some sincerity and warm feelings. In any case, you don’t need to react too violently if the guy refused you, he can have many reasons for this. Maybe he doesn't know how to dance, or he has other plans, maybe he likes a completely different girl and he's afraid to scare her away. The most important thing is to remain yourself, beautiful, confident and unique. *** See also: Congratulations on Graduation |
Formally, this is just an event where teachers, students and their parents spend their last day within the school walls. It is necessary to look stunning at this ball, so many, long before the event, begin preparations. 
They make their choice based on some estimates. Usually immediately attracted by the appearance of the guy. If he has a beautiful suit, he is elegant and irresistible, then many girls will try to compete for him. 
He's smart enough to just be who he is. Choose those guys that you like not only in appearance, but also have fun with them. You need to understand that by inviting a guy to dance, you still make a choice, and what your intentions are, he doesn’t know. 
Pay attention to different little things. If you notice. That, approaching him, the guy leaves you trying to leave the hall, you don’t need to catch up with him, most likely you will be refused. The surest option is to see someone who just sits and is bored. If you approach him at this moment and with a smile looking into his eyes, say your proposal, then for sure he will agree. 
If you didn’t calculate a little with him and went over, then postpone the idea of \u200b\u200bdancing, you should not go invite a guy if you are tipsy. This will push him away and he will probably refuse you. 
But you want to invite that guy who would turn his attention to you. To do this, you need to focus on your appearance. It must be perfect and you must feel like a queen. Such confidence is easily felt and transmitted to others. If you have an untidy and a little disheveled look, then most likely the guy will not want to dance with you, so pay a lot of attention to your appearance. 
Please help, the guy is against me dancing at the graduation waltz, they say he will not be pleased, they quarreled. - Questioner
Help please, the guy is against the fact that I would dance at the graduation waltz, they say he will not be pleased, they quarreled. — QuestionerHysterical
And I really want to dance, like any girl. He gave me time to think it over, said the words would not say more, if I want something, because not a husband and not a wife, do what you want, they say, I will keep my opinion to myself. I don’t know what to do (((
- guy
- waltz
NB
Nikolai Boronin
Let it be better to learn to dance the waltz, and not to make brains .
...
IP
Irina Pankova
Graduation, this is your holiday and there is nothing for outsiders to meddle in there.
Ga
Galina
I want to, dance. The guy clearly imposes his selfish goals. There is nothing for you to do with him, a normal guy respects the girl's choice and in no way interferes with desires.
AB
Alexey Bogdyun
talk to him and explain to everyone that there is nothing wrong with this, just a dance, nothing more.
DM
Dmitry Maidanov
dance)
Al
Alsou
Yeah, and then one day he wants you to send all your friends away, and then so that your mother calls less often, and then he will order you to put on a veil. Do you need it?
SK
Sergey Kokhanovich
Be sure to dance! Grow and be independent! Otherwise it will crush you! He doesn’t want, he’s not pleased, so he doesn’t want and envies you! Your success in the future is a great indicator!
VYa
Vera Yakovleva
Go to the prom, you’re not going to study there, I think so if you dance nothing terrible at the wedding, you will dance with your father and he will be against yes (find yourself a normal guy and he won’t be jealous of you because you are his and that’s it ) but they say he leave
VD
Vladimir Drokov
Are you going to dance the waltz alone there?
Then the guy can be understood.
