How to do a strip tease dance

Exotic Dancers Offer Sexy Tips On How To Do A Strip Tease

If you’re getting ready to surprise your partner for Valentine’s Day or just looking to spice things up in the bedroom... or living room... or kitchen, you may be contemplating whether a sexy lap dance or strip tease are in order.

The answer is almost always yes, but where to begin?

If you can barely watch the ladies at your gym during poll dancing class without blushing, let alone figure out how to work it for an actual human being, you’ll want to read on because even if you’re feeling shy, don’t know where to start, what to wear, what tunes to crank or how to move, the ladies of Sapphire Gentleman's Club have it down to a science — and they’re imparting their wisdom onto you. 

Here's how to do a strip tease and feel sexy as hell while doing it.

1. Pick out your outfit.

Emma, who has been dancing for eight years, is into garter belts and black lingerie. Or, as she calls it, “Femme Fatale style.

“I’ve heard that more clothes are better, and I’ve also heard that less clothes are better. It's really about whatever is easier for you to slip in and out of and feel sexy doing it. Oh, and you should always end up in a G-string and red lipstick,” she says.

Of course, don’t forget the heels — comfortable ones. Also, wear layers; this way you have more to take off and the anticipation can build.

“The more you have to take off the better and it gives you something to do besides just dancing the whole time,” says Colby, who is also known as Sprinkles, because “sprinkles always go on top.”

2. Find your strip tease jam.

“There is no right song, but I can tell you this: the slower you move, the better it will look,” says Colby. “Pick a medium tempo song. When the time comes to give your man (or woman) a dance, just give them a push onto the couch. Take control.”

Chloe, who is newer to dancing at Sapphire, says that when choosing a song, you may want to choose something upbeat rather than slow and seductive because it “shows you're fun and allows you to have more fun with the dance while being sexy.

“I like Ariana Grande's 'Side-to-Side' or Beyoncé's 'Yonce',” she says.

3. Get over your shyness by cranking up the music. 


“Try turning up the music louder. It always helps me feel more confident in my moves,” Chloe says.

Also, just know that your partner is thrilled to see you doing literally anything that involves removing your clothes and moving. A European man once told Colby that, "Heavier women in Europe wear their curves so much sexier than American women."

“When I asked him why, he replied with, ‘They’re more confident.’ Confidence is everything!” she said.

4. Introduce yourself.

"If you don’t know what to say, grab him by the tie and whisper, 'You’ve been working too hard' in his ear,” Colby suggests.

Chloe says that “Turning the music up, telling him you have a surprise for him, bringing him to the edge of a bed or chair, and having him sit with his feet apart” is also a great start.

If your partner is a lady, all of the above still applies, but maybe tug on her shirt since she’s most likely tie-less. And hey, you can pick any “stage” name you want, girl. Go nuts.

5. Move slowly during your strip tease.

Athena, who has been dancing at Sapphire for five years, says to keep the intro simple. “Make sure they’re comfortable, then start moving your hips in a sexy way to the music,” she says. 

Then make eye contact, and start seducing him with your inner beauty.

6. Remember not to take it all off too soon.


“It’s always a nice touch to take off your bra or top about halfway into the song,” Chloe says. All of the girls concur that you should never end up totally naked.

7. Try the "bend and snap" move.

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“Basically, it’s holding the pole (or a chair, or nothing at all) with your right hand, extending your right leg out to the side, slowly sliding your left hand down your leg while your back bends down towards the right as well, and then quickly snap your head up making your hair flip back.

8. Then, shake your thighs while performing your strip tease.

Every guy (or girl) loves a woman's backside, no matter how big or small, so my next go to move is to turn around, feet shoulder length apart, and just focus on shaking your thighs,” Chloe says. “This will make the ‘ass-clapping’ twerking effect they love to see in music videos.”

9. Always have a finishing move. 


“I put both of my hands on their thighs and flip my head upside down, so the back of my neck is basically against their crotch. Then, I kick my feet up with balance and put my butt in their face! It’s pretty easy once you get the motions down,” Colby says. “If I were you, I’d end by just keeping your panties on and pulling them to the side if they want more.”

Whatever happens when the music stops is up to you.

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How To Do A Strip Tease Like a Pro 🔥

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Why Should You Learn How to Striptease?

If the thought of learning to striptease for your spouse seems a little intimidating, you are definitely not alone. Trying something new in the bedroom can be scary, but we promise the results are well worth it! Here are a few reasons why you should learn to striptease. Then keep reading for tips on how to actually do it!

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  1. It keeps things fresh and exciting – Research shows that when you’re open to new experiences, your marriage will blossom. And that’s a pretty great thing in a society where so much of what we do is routine.
  2. It boosts your self-esteem-  Fewer things put a bigger damper on your sex life than low self-esteem or confidence. Learning how to dance for your man or woman will give you a sense of confidence like never before.
  3. Unquestionably, it relieves stress – Practically any type of movement works to reduce stress, and dancing is no different. Adding a sexy component heightens the experience even more!
  4. It gets you (and your spouse!) in the mood – Both spouses (but especially men!) respond to visual sexual stimuli, so why not put on a show?

Sexy Strip Tease Tips

Now that you know why you should striptease for your lover – you need to learn HOW. We know it can be a little intimidating to get started, so we brought together a few simple tips on how to avoid an awkward striptease. With these tips in mind, you’ll know how to perform a sexy striptease in no time! 😉

1. Be Yourself

This one is our #1 tip! It is so important to just be yourself and have fun with it! If you do something that doesn’t feel genuine to YOU then you may end up feeling uncomfortable or awkward. Make it fun and make it…YOU.

2. Wear Something That You Feel Comfortable & Sexy in

The visual aspect is key when doing a striptease. Make sure you are wearing something that makes you feel sexy and you know your spouse would like, while also feeling comfortable in it. (We absolutely LOVE anything from Mentionables!)

3. Lighting, Makeup & Music

Wearing something sexy is very important, but it is also just as important to prep yourself. Do your makeup, curl your hair, pin your hair up, whatever you want to feel sexy and confident! Pick out a song you feel comfortable dancing to (see our best list of strip tease songs below) and dim those lights for a more romantic vibe.

4. Practice, Practice, Practice!

We’ve all heard the saying that practice makes perfect and this could not ring more true, even for a striptease! If you are nervous, definitely take the time to practice in the mirror. This will boost your confidence and help you know what you feel comfortable doing.

5. Don’t worry about anything else

This is a time to let loose and just have fun! It is so easy to worry about what your spouse is thinking or how awkward you may feel – but I promise they are loving every second and are probably stunned that you are even doing what you are doing, so, own it!

6. Flip Your Hair

When in doubt, do the hair flip! 😉 No matter how silly you think you look doing it, your spouse will LOVE IT!

7. Don’t Rush it

Take your time and striptease slowly. Let your spouse enjoy the moment. With that being said, don’t be intimated and think it needs to be a long, drawn-out event.

8. Don’t think about your “flaws”

You are FLAWLESS in this moment. Own it! The last thing on your partner’s mind is any flaw you think you may have! Even though it can be tough, just trust that you look amazing and you got this!

9. Enjoy it (just as much as your partner)

Stripteasing is not just for the viewer, it is for you as well! Enjoy it. Let it be fun, funny, spontaneous, or whatever else you want it to be, and just let loose!

10. Confidence is KEY

Confidence in what you are doing changes everything! When you are confident, it makes you feel empowered. Confidence is also sexy, so even if you don’t feel super confident about strip teasing (especially if it is your first time,) just fake it and we promise you will make it.

25 Best Strip tease songs

When it comes to performing a strip tease, you NEED a good backup song to strip to, right? So we searched high and low to come up with this list for you (and may have tested a few out)!

  1. “Rock Your Body” – Justin Timberlake
  2. “Heaven” – Pink Sweat$
  3. “Lights Down Low” – MAX
  4. “This Is Heaven” – Nick Jonas
  5. “Butterflies” – MAX, Fletcher
  6. “Call Out My Name” – The Weeknd
  7. “I Wanna Be With You” – Mandy Moore
  8. “Your Body is a Wonderland” – John Mayer
  9. “Worth It” – Fifth Harmony, Kid Ink
  10. “Move” – Little Mix
  11. “Want to Want Me” – Jason Derulo
  12. “Shower” – Becky G
  13. “Mamacita” – VOILÁ
  14. “Your Man” – Josh Turner
  15. “What Lovers Do” – Maroon 5, SZA
  16. “Do It Like This” – Daphne Willis
  17. “Let Me Love You” – Mario
  18. “Let Me” – ZAYN
  19. “Hands to Myself” – Selena Gomez
  20. “Neon On Ya” – Scott Stevens
  21. “Dance for You” – Beyonce
  22. “Versace on the Floor” – Bruno Mars, David Guetta
  23. “Be My Baby” – Ariana Grande, Cashmere Cat
  24. “Whisper” – Chase Rice
  25. “If You Let Me” – Sinéad Harnett, GRADES

For your convenience, we put all of these on a Spotify playlist for you! Now you have no excuse for performing tonight. 😉

BONUS: Helpful Strip Tease Activity

Being The Dating Divas, OF COURSE, we couldn’t just leave you hanging on how to plan this special type of night.

Fun strip teasing activity to do for a date night at home.

We’ve come up with a done-for-you date idea that will teach you how to striptease in no time. So fun, right?! Best of all, it’s done in a totally tasteful way that will heat things up in the bedroom without making anyone uncomfortable. We’ve even included a printable invitation (also a digital invitation), guides, cue cards, and more to help take this idea to the next level. Doesn’t this sound like fun? Ready, set, strip!

Printables to help teach you how to perform a striptease.

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Learning to dance striptease

Every woman at heart is a hunter and seducer. Even a gray office mouse and a modest bank or law office employee sometimes want to throw a formal office suit at the feet of their beloved, let her hair down and dance on the table no worse than Dita Von Teese.

But it is one thing to want, and another thing to act. Real ladies see the goal and immediately find the means to achieve it. Our editors set out to learn how to move beautifully, and at the same time share their newly acquired knowledge with our readers. No sooner said than done! Natalia Novichkova, a teacher of strip plastic and other areas of modern dance, showed us a master class in sexual dance. Only the photographer Alexander Kochkaev had a hard time: it was not easy to concentrate on work - you don’t see such steps in the lens every day. Natalia told us about the history of strip plastics, about the minimum you need to know in order to learn how to move beautifully and about little female tricks. nine0003

Back to the roots

Striptease is a dance, the performer of which demonstrates the sexual movements of the body, gradually getting naked. Strip dancers have beautiful bodies, in movement they master them to perfection. The harmony and grace of sexuality elevate striptease to the level of erotic art.

The name of the dance "striptease" comes from the English strip, which translates as "undress, undress". Professional strip dances look frankly, but intimate, beautiful and natural, vulgar rudeness is completely absent in them. Mastering the art of undressing to music may not involve the process at all. nine0003

Striptease is a dance style with the addition of basic movements imitating striptease, which is aimed at developing flexibility and emancipation of the body. Strip plasticity allows you to demonstrate emotionality and express sexuality in dance, learn to control your body and present it beautifully. Strip-plastic classes combine elements of classical and modern choreography, stretching, defile technique, Pilates and the main movements of striptease and modern styles.

Why do we need strip plastic?

Such dances are a rather energy-intensive type of physical activity, which belongs to the category of dance aerobics. They will allow you to correct flaws and emphasize the dignity of the figure, change the attitude towards your own body, increase overall self-esteem, increase charm, self-confidence and attractiveness. You can not only train the body, develop coordination of movement and overall muscle tone, but also improve their elasticity and stretching. Not to mention what a wonderful surprise you can arrange for your other half. According to psychologists, a girl who moves beautifully is 70% more attractive than her more constrained friend. nine0003


To learn how to move beautifully to the beat of music, you need to know a few basic movements. When you master them, you can combine them in different orders, improvise according to your taste and create completely different moods for your dance. The main thing, as our column expert Natalia Novichkova says, is to feel the music and not be ashamed to look sexy and attractive. Even if a girl has sufficient physical data and is plastic, but at the same time she is clamped and, as it were, afraid of herself, a beautiful dance will not work. nine0003

Natalia suggested that we learn some simple basic strip-plastic movements, which even beginners in dancing can do. The main trick is to make the movements smooth and flow from one to another.

1. Wave

  • Starting position - feet shoulder-width apart, body straight, hands on hips.

  • Tilt the head to the right, bend the right knee, lower the right hand down.

  • Tilt the torso to the right, continue to bend the knee more strongly, draw a circle with the right hand from the bottom up. nine0003

  • We straighten the torso and lead it to the left side, bending the left leg and straightening the right, at the same time we straighten the head and run the hand along the body back to the hip.

2. Basic standing movements

  • Starting position - feet shoulder-width apart, one slightly bent, hands on hips, body straight.

  • Make a circular motion with the head without raising the shoulders. nine0003

  • Next, move the right hand along the thigh and at the same time make a circular motion with the right shoulder back; the same on the left side - while it is better to bend your knees, putting one leg slightly in front of the other.

  • Without lowering your arms, make a circular motion with your hips (you can make a more advanced interpretation of this movement - while the hips are spinning, run your hands over yourself, from the hips to the neck).

  • A little trick: when we turn the hips to the right side, we transfer the weight of the body to the right leg, we do the same to the left side. nine0003

3. Bunch No. 1 (with chair)

  • Starting position - sitting sideways to the "object" of your dance on the edge of the chair, knees together, feet apart, left hand on the back of the chair, right on the right knee, shoulders turned towards the "public", and the head thrown back in profile.

  • Slowly lower the right knee to the floor, running the hand along the leg and lowering the head down.

  • We rise sharply, leave the torso in a horizontal position, turn our shoulders away from the audience, legs wide apart. nine0003

  • Using the basic “wave” movement, raise the body, bring the right leg in a circular motion to the left, bringing the feet together.

4. Link No. 2 (on a chair)

  • Starting position – standing next to the chair, leaning down, touching the floor with one hand and the thigh with the other, make sure that the chair is right behind you, practically between your legs .
  • Slowly straighten up and sit sharply on the edge of the chair - legs in a wide position, knees bent, one knee looks straight, the other on the floor, make a circular motion with the hand and leave it raised, with the other hand hold on to the back of the chair. nine0033
  • We sharply spread our legs to the sides, forming an angle of 90 degrees, turn our backs to the “public”, the arm is tense, we throw our head back.
  • With a smooth movement, we gather our legs together, run our hands along ourselves from the neck to the knees, coquettishly turn to the “public”.
  • If you want to finish the dance more spectacularly, slowly stand up from the chair, bring your legs together so that one knee “looks” at the other, put one hand behind your back, and the other slowly move along the body and lift it up. nine0033

And remember: the main thing in a dance, especially such a characteristic one as strip plastic, is the mood. Feel sexy and attractive - this energy will be transferred to others. And after such a dance, your other half will provide you with an enchanting night of love.

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How to striptease without looking funny

Night falls and the showgirl from Showgirl wakes up in you. And even before you have time to turn on your common sense, you already say the fatal: “Do you want me to dance a striptease for you?” He, of course, agrees. Let's lower the veil of pity over the end of this scene. It happens that each of us wants to feel like a stripper, perform a lap dance with her boyfriend and get a tip in panties. But how to dance a striptease in a way that is really sexy, not funny (and that everyone stays safe)? We share secrets! nine0003

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Forget the acrobatics!

Pf, you say, it's obvious. And here it is not. You have no idea how many women have been injured by the duende. Bruises, torn ligaments, ankle injuries and even a concussion...

Let's agree: this is not a stage performance, but your goal is not to impress your boyfriend with a triple somersault, but to turn him on. First of all, it concerns stretching. Even if it seems to you that right now you will sit on the twine, this will not happen. Or it will, but it will be the last element that you completed. Yes, we know that when you went to the choreography circle in the third grade, you were the easiest to do the splits. But you're not in third grade, you're not hot and you don't want to risk your ligaments. nine0003

The same goes for any jumps (watch your head) and backbends (watch your back). In general, it is better to move more slowly and with a smaller amplitude than to go to the emergency room.

Don't do it without preparation

Any dance, even a house striptease, requires preparation and warming up. It is not necessary to think through the entire dance from the first to the last note, but you must have a concept for the dance.

What you need: the main set of movements you are going to perform and the order in which they are performed. It is better to rehearse the movements several times so that there are no surprises. At least once, you must run the dance alone in full dress, in order to foresee any accidents. So you will know, for example, that the floor is slippery here, it’s easy to stumble on the edge of the carpet, in this movement your dressing gown clings to the heel, and at this moment you need to be careful not to step on your boyfriend’s foot. nine0003

Wear clothes that are easy to take off

A common mistake new strippers make is to wear too many clothes. It seems to them that the longer they take it off, the more the dance will excite the partner's imagination.

And here we run into a problem. Jammed bra hooks are half the trouble, but the need, say, to pull off your jeans while slouching on the floor... Let's call it "death to the sex drive." Briefly about the wardrobe items that should be on you:

  • Bra. Ideally, if it has a front clasp, it will be easier to take it off, and it looks more intriguing. In fact, it is the bra that opens up incredible scope for imagination. As additional accessories, you can use a "harness" made of thin leather straps or stickers on the nipples.
  • Panties. It all depends on taste and physical data, but, in fact, thongs and tangas do not look as advantageous as you think, especially in some movements. Consider other options: lace shorts, briefs with a corset drawstring, or even panties with a cutout between the legs. nine0033
  • Stockings. You can supplement them with a belt - it will be more difficult to move with it, but the effect will be stunning.
  • Robe. From above you can put on a light silk dressing gown. Probably, it is not necessary to write that it is desirable that this is not the same one in which you lie on the sofa on Saturdays with a cat in one hand and a laptop in the other? And the point is not even the sexuality of a particular thing, but the fact that striptease is a surprise, a surprise, and your partner will see you in something that he has not seen before.

Let's talk about shoes separately.

Put on soft heels on heels

On the one hand, what is a striptease without heels? They outline the foot well, tighten the calves and buttocks, but... click. And if you have linoleum in your room, then they leave depressed points.

Why do we need soft heels? First, if you do not live in a private house, then you most likely have neighbors. You know, nothing destroys romance so much as an angry aunt Valya from the third floor, who presses the bell as if she is squeezing the last drops of conscience out of you. nine0003

Secondly, when the dance is performed in a club, it's one thing, there you can hardly hear how you click, but at home the sound will be completely different.

Choose slow music

...and familiar music. You won't like it if the track suddenly stops when you haven't even untied your robe yet.

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